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writes:Mod Note...OP's own title:Hey everyone.Is it normal for a man to be turned off by the idea of having anal sex with a woman and by the idea of tossing a woman's salad (pleasing her anus orally). I'm in love with my girlfriend and I find her absolutely wonderful, but still I would not want to eat her ass out. I find the thought quite sickening.She's not demanding it or anything like that. I'm just wondering how you ladies and gents feel about this issue. If tossing your partner's salad is a regular and normal part of lovemaking I guess I will eventually have to overcome my thoughts.G
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Well, as expected most of the answers here hate any backdoor play, but some people (both men and women) find it to be a turn on. Personally, I don't want anyone near my butt, but I'm a fan of girl butts. (What can I say? Women are cute all over, top to bottom!) But like all things in sex, it's about making BOTH of you happy. Push your boundaries a little where you can, just as she no doubt is trying some new things with you, but don't feel that you have to do things that you hate.
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reader, StrayTogether.com +, writes (5 August 2010):
 It's quite typical for both men and women to enjoy a bit of anal stimulation during sex. It's also normal for both sexes to hesitate about doing the licking. Many people are uncomfortable because they fear the area is dirty. If this is the case for you, consider asking her to take a shower beforehand or, better yet, initiate taking one with her before you're intimate. Then you can be certain the area is clean.
The alternative methods of anal stimulation that the others suggest are all great, as well. And Fatherly Advice's point about trying that which your partner finds exciting is also good.
Just remember to communicate with your partner. THAT will lead to happier endings.
Fondly,
Jill
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Well, it's really all about personal preference! If it's not something you're interested in, then let your partner know that. You shouldn't do something you're not at all interested in!
For myself, I hate the idea of anal stimulation of any sort...just not my thing at all. I let my boyfriend know that early in the relationship & he was completely okay with that.
So make sure you do what you like and are comfortable with. There's nothing wrong with not liking it. Some people do, and that's their business.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Sorry correction.. bad typing.. he didn't find it disgusting.. lol.. he liked her reaction because she enjoyed it so much...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 August 2010):
Example.. we had a guy whose woman got sexy by the thought of him pissing on her.. he was horrified and wondered if this was normal... The aunts on dear cupid told him to try it in the shower...
He had fun, the lady was gratefull, it was as disgusting as he thought it was, and he made her so happy, that he was glad that he at least tried to do what she desired...
The shower helped overcome his idea of being clean... take a shower with your girlfriend, hell, give her an enema so you know that she's totally clean, and see if you like it, but if you don't, then tell her sorry, there will be no repeat.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 August 2010):
There is nothing "NORMAL" in sex... there are billions of us on this planet, all sucking, fucking and doing whatever... it dosen't matter what other people think of as "NORMAL", all that matters is that you and your partner can shut the bedroom door and come to some agreement which is suitable for you both... With any non-dangerous sexual practice, as long as your in a loving relationship, it's always best to challenge yourself and try it, you night like it, you might hate it.. but untill you try it for yourself, your living by what people have told you is "wrong or right", but you haven't had any experience, so you have no idea if you will like it or not.
If you can, always try to please your partner's sexual fantasies at least once, as long as they are not dangerous or totally against the morality which you have decided to live by yourself.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (4 August 2010):
 When you say, "is it normal . . .?" You are making a mistake. You can't decide what turns you on by what turns some majority of people world wide on. If the idea is repulsive to you, even if 90% of men in the world like it it will still be repulsive to you.
I'm assuming that you are asking because she has brought the subject up. Which means that she likes that kind of attention. So what you need to do is find a way you can satisfy her desires without doing something you detest. Personally I think rimming, (tossing salad), (anal linguis), without a latex barrier is pretty risky. So that is a place to start. Another workaround could involve a sex toy of some sort. Just remember that anything that goes into the back door can't go anywhere else without at least a cleaning and change of condom. Be creative and work it out together.
I do suggest that you consider strongly meeting her needs or desires in that area. Lets say for example you really enjoy having your armpit tickled. But your girlfriend is freaked out by armpit hair. Would you sacrifice that pleasure for life? Or would you shave? Make sure she doesn't cut you out of her life unless you can not get past this in any way.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I don't care how much anyone love anyone, eating out someone's anus sounds utterly disgusting and not at all a turn on.
Yes, I think it's NORMAL for anyone not being into the HYPE of anal. A lot of people regard it as an EXIT only....
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I think it's gross, but wouldn't be opposed if a partner would really want it. I'd take a wash cloth and make sure it's nice and clean first. I'll try almost anything to please a partner, still, you like what you like, and don't like what you don't like. That isn't weird or wrong, it just is what it is. Everyone is different.
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reader, s4d3 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I don't let men do that to me though I had one try some years ago. I jumped out of my skin and it ended "the mood" instantly. It really comes down to doing what you're comfortable with. In my opinion sex is way better when both parties are comfortable with what they're doing and what's being done. And never be scared to set your limits. (^_^)
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 The thought makes me toss MY salad!! And my cookies!! ("Toss one's cookies" in an expression in US English which means, "to barf.")
I love my dog, but like all dogs, she loves to lick her butt, and the smell of her breath would peel paint.
If your girlfriend isn't demanding it, then I think you'll be fine. To me, the thought is nasty. Imagine kissing someone whose lips had been on a person's anus.
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reader, blackblackheart +, writes (4 August 2010):
I wouldn't do that to my partner. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes when it comes to sex, and if this is one of yours, so be it - there's nothing wrong with that.
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I do not believe in any way its something normal about love making. When it comes the vaginal sex it's totally different. That is natural... those parts of our bodies were made for that. If any guy EVER tried to have anal with me I would flat out deny it, not only do I find it A HUGE turn off. BUt it is also a lot more dangerous. My boyfriend and many friends feel that same thing .
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Personally ive had my salad tossed and im not a fan..Guys do have an obsession with the rear, but not all do..There's another man on her that has the same problem..Simply state it doesnt tickle your fancy and explore other options in the bedroom. And no its not a normal slot in love making
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