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writes:I just wanted to hear your own experiences and opinions regarding the following questions, feel free to say anything, i would really like to hear your answers.1. Have you ever used the pullout method? (esp, how often?)2. Have you or your partner gotten pregnant from it? (if yes, then what was the circumstance? i.e. most fertile days after period)3. In your op, what do u think is the most effective birth control method besides abstinence?4. Have you/ or your partner, ever had a case of the skipped period but you werent pregnant?thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): 1. Have you ever used the pullout method? (esp, how often?)
My partner and I are both STD free, so in sense we use it daily in that we have "unprotected" sex and add in a condom when he wants to finish. We've never done the whole pull out as he starts cumming or as he gets super close or having him cum on me or anything like that. He would never risk a near-orgasm without a condom. Furthermore we have a place for getting the Plan B pill cheap if something happens. We are extremely careful and have used this method for several years without problem. We both have great self-control. I would not do this with someone who I didn't have such confidence in. I also don't do it in the traditional sense, he doesn't get near orgasm. We just enjoy it for a bit without the condom. Then when things get near the end, we put on the condom for a few minutes.
2. Have you or your partner gotten pregnant from it? (if yes, then what was the circumstance? i.e. most fertile days after period)
No, but I wouldn't use this method with anyone who didn't have an IMMENSE amount of self control and with someone I didn't trust a lot. I also wouldn't do it in the traditional sense since I don't want to get pregnant.
3. In your op, what do u think is the most effective birth control method besides abstinence?
The only two I've ever used are condoms, or the pill. Both have been very effective.
4. Have you/ or your partner, ever had a case of the skipped period but you werent pregnant?
Not a skipped, but a late one. It was nerve-wracking, but that was it.
I would like to clear something up that's been mentioned about precum several times though. Precum generally cannot get you pregnant. I've checked this out with several doctors and according to the Mayo Clinic website, it's true. Precum can ONLY contain sperm if he has ejaculated since last urinating. The urine cleans everything out and kills sperm. Unless he just recently came (perhaps he masturbated first) you cannot get pregnant from precum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): My experience? Well, I had uprotected sex with 3 women in my late teens. I did not orgasm with any of them and did not get them pregnant on pre-ejaculate. I met my wife when I was 20. We had unprotected sex, she got pregnant twice from the pull out method. We were both stupid and got an abortion both times. Not the most noble thing I've done. We married and enjoyed sex with her on the pill for aeveral years. We went off the pill had a child who was the (happy) result of not pulling out fast enough. For over 12 years after that, we used the pull out method and did not concieve, but had some close calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionme again, thanks to everyone for taking time to answer, i think im late/or skipping due to emotional stress and change of routines. i just needed to hear some comforting words, as funny as it sounds, absence of period is a real sensitive issue to girls.
as for the pullout method, i would never use it again just because as Madalo stated it's a real psychological torture. I think i knew pullout wasnt a safe method, i just wanted to consider that possibiliy of pregnancy in my case, which is why i posted this question.
ohgetreal, it was pretty harsh words, u made me sound like a 13 yr old tryin to get some. Ive got a job and school juggling at the same time,im in a stable, sweet relationship, not like i sleep around. i just wanted to hear some opinions and people's experiences about an issue, i wasnt exactly expecting to hear belittling words about my brain capacity and whatnot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): My ex's mum who was Catholic used the pull out method of contraception and had sex at times of the month when she was least fertile.
She had 5 children in six years.
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reader, StrayTogether.com  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Listen to OhGetReal and TalkingHelps. They know what they're talking about.
Whether or not anyone on this board has or does use the pull-out method isn't relative to your life, frankly.
I have lovely 20-year-old daughter who was conceived while I was on the pill. I can assure you that children are more expensive than the pills and the condoms combined. :)
PULL-OUT IS NOT, NOT, NOT A METHOD OF CONTRACEPTION.
As the male becomes excited, pre-ejaculate or pre-cum, as it's sometimes called, is released during foreplay and the early stages of sex. Among other things, it's believed to change the acid levels in the vagina, so that sperm are better able to live to travel to the eggs for fertilization. If you don't use a condom, then the pre-cum is released into the vagina ... So, let's say, just for shits and giggles, that the male doesn't pull out quickly enough, and just a drop of semen - and therefore a million or so sperm - are released into the vagina (20 million per milliliter is a low estimate). You've laid the ground work for their safe travels, survival, and potential pregnancy.
Just don't do it. At the VERY least, use a condom. At most, use a condom PLUS another method.
Women often skip periods for reasons not related to pregnancy. Stress and illness are probably the most common reasons.
Fondly,
Jill
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reader, jaylee kristen +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Yes I use the pull out method everytime I have sex with my boyfriend.
Yes I am pregnant at the moment its possible that it "feels so good" that he doesn't pull out and thats what happened to me.
Before I got pregnant I was on trinessa for ortho tri-cyclen
Yes you could possibly miss your period out of irregularness that's why I was on birthcontrol to straighten out my period but I wasn't even on the pill for a matter of 14days before I got pregnant.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (8 August 2010):
 1. No because THE PULLOUT METHOD DOES NOT WORK
2. n/a
3. The combined pill/The jab (essentially the same hormones, but with the jab you don't have periods.)
4. Only before I was on the pill and I was a virgin at that point.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (8 August 2010):
 If you are asking this question, you are too young and too immature and too irresponsible and not well educated enough to be having sex. Talk to your mum, go to a doctor and get the facts, figure out how babies are made, figure out about STD's and how they are transmitted, google HPV virus and learn how condoms do not protect you against this virus that causes oral, anal and cervical cancers.
You aren't asking the question about the main event. How expensive are babies, after all, and how many times will the pull out method be used before I get me one of those?
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (8 August 2010):
Ive used the pullout method twice,but every time i was psychologically tortured.Once,i had to get the morning after pill just so i could put my mind to rest.I wouldnt recommend this method because a guy can miscalculate the time to pullout,and pre-ejaculation can also contain sperm.I would put condom as 2nd best to abstinence because it protects you from STIs as well.Yes,i've skipped my period before without being pregnant and it was very tormenting.I went to a local clinic to get tested.I was found negative and that put my mind at rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): condoms and the combined pill
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reader, xXJDXx +, writes (8 August 2010):
Righty... First of all I'm gathering you don't want to get pregnant? So I wouldn't advise the pull out method, I have a 3yr old daughter now who I do adore dearly thanks to this method lol but i would have prefered not to have had children with my ex for reasons I won't disclose. It was no where near my "ovulation" date either and happened after maybe 6-7 weeks after trying it out. After I had my daughter I went on a coil for 3yrs the marina one, it was fan-bloody-tastic!! Lasts upto 5yrs I personally had no periods either, was a bit of spotting for the first couple if weeks or so but after that nothing!!! ? this is defo the contraception I would recommend. Hope that helps :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Me personal have only used the pull out method.. 2 times I think? And did not wind up pregnant, but was scared for a little while that I would be and swore up and down I would never be that foolish again. I've had unprotected sex with boyfriends in the past too, thinking I'd be fine, but got scared the following day and ran to the pharmacy to get the morning after pill. And then I got headaches and felt dizzy from those pills, plus I was worried they could limit my possibility of getting pregnant, so I have stopped taking them. Which means: no more pull out methods for me.
The most effective birth-control I believe is the pill, you take one pill every day and you are close to 100% protected if the pill is taken as it should. And then you don't have to worry about when or where you have sex, you are free as a bird. They are easy to use and easy to come by.
I have never had a case of skipped period. I have had several cases of an extra period due to stress, haha, Very annoying. But a friend of mine missed several of her periods without being pregnant, and another friend of mine is on some medication that also makes her skip her period without her being pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): 1. No, it's only for people that want to get pregnant. The 'method' relies on a guys ability to deny himself a huge amount of pleasure at exactly the WRONG time.
2. NA
3. The pill
4. yes, worse weeks of my life...
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