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writes:I'm an 18 year old boy and I have a fetish. I love dressing up in girls underwear and making my partner (female) dress up in mine. We then switch roles in the bedroom. My gf thinks ita hot but she is bi and wants to invite another bi girl for a MFF threesome. I like the idea but I'm embarrassed about showing this girl my fetish.What should I do? I just want some advice on fetishes in general, cuss I don't even know if they are normal at all.Please help!
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reader, StrayTogether.com  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 There really are two issues here: One regarding normalcy and the other regarding acceptance.
For the former, I agree with the others - there is no "normal" and as long as all parties enjoy it, it's not illegal, and no one is getting hurt (excluding BDSM, of course), then your fetish is fine and nothing to worry about.
For the latter, acceptance is something you will choose to either always worry about or not. There was a time that your GF didn't know about it (unless you blurted out when you first met, and I doubt that happened!) and then a time when you felt comfortable telling her. Self-confidence is key here. Once you felt confident that she accepted you as you are, then you felt comfortable telling her.
By definition of being bi and entertaining threesomes, the new girl is already accepting of things not considered "normal" in many people's worlds (I'm bi and a soft-swinger, so I speak from experience). As such, she is more likely to be accepting of your preferences than many "typical" people.
Being that you're young, it will take you some time to be accepting of your own fetish ... perhaps it would be easier for you to meet her on non-sexual terms. Get to know her a bit and THEN decide if you feel that you would like to welcome her into your bedroom and your private likes and dislikes.
Though acceptance is a basic part of human nature and worrying about lack of it is common, as your self-confidence grows, you'll worry less about what people think and learn to enjoy what you enjoy without worrying about others acceptance.
Good luck to you.
Fondly,
Jill
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (2 August 2010):
 No such thing as normal when it comes to sex. if this other chick is cool then she'll understand and all of you can have a great time.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 It's normal and I think your girlfriend would accept it. It has nothing to do with your sexual preference. Can you accept sharing a woman with her though? There is a desire in everyone of us to merge with the opposite sex. In the entertainment business, androgynous stars like prince, michael jackson and mick jagger are adored because girls like guys who are in touch with their feminine feeling side. Guys who are sensitive are good listeners and know how to deal with a girl's emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): When it comes to sex there really isn't a normal. As long as it's not illegal and nobody is getting hurt go for it. Just like any sexual subject what's normal to some is way to extreme for others. For example: I don't think being gay is normal but I have gay friends. I have no right to tell someone else how to live thier lives or who they should love. So if you like panties go for it.
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