What's the deal with shy guy?
Q. This shy guy in my evening class is always nervous around me. One day in class another guy asked this shy guy if he has a girlfriend. The shy guy with a big smile on his face said Yes but then he looked at me and said No I don't have a girlfrie...
A. 21 February 2018: It's possible that he likes you but without him confirming it's simple guess.
What does it matter to you? Are you interested in him?... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to fall in love?
Q. I met a guy we're both in our 30s. He gave me his number once, i never called him and then a couple weeks later he approached me agian, we exchanged numbers and talked/texted all day. I think he's cool! The next day he asked me out. I said i wanted ...
A. 21 February 2018: Personally I would be wary about someone who just suddenly decides he loves you. The first relationship I was in told me very early on that he loved me. Turned into a serial cheater and was just using me.
My second relationship again told me ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or is my husband a cheater?
Q. I have been married for over 25 years, but am currently separated from my husband due to various issues. One of the issues is suspected cheating, which my husband denies. I just wanted to hear other peoples perspective on this, as my husbands...
A. 16 June 2016: Personally I feel like your husband's behavior and the constant phone calls are not normal nor are they respectful.
It's definitely possible he cheated although there is a chance he is innocent. Regardless the best thing to do is move on in your ... (read in full...)
So many decisions. I need help. Do I consider the guy who wants children or the guy who only wants one child?
Q. I'm 23 next month and my boyfriend is 22 next month, been together for two years this September. Issues - has only met my friends once, doesn't really show an interest in them but says they can come out camping....shows an interest in 4wdi...
A. 4 April 2016: Whoa hold on here!!
You are considering dumping your boyfriend for someone you use to date (What happened that resulted in the break-up?) who not only has kids with other women but on top of that isn't even on their certificate??!! Is he even IN ... (read in full...)
WhenI didn't find his joke funny and I told him that his "joke" made me feel uncomfortable. Could I have handled this better?
Q. Hi! I need quite some answers quick on this situation because it’s actually driving me nuts. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 3 months and yesterday, we were talking and he was joking about something that I felt really uncomfor...
A. 7 April 2015: Sounds like you are dating a child. Let him sulk and don't mention the joke. He'll get over it.
Also you had every right to tell him the joke wasn't funny. Some lines shouldn't be crossed and when they are people need to be told especial... (read in full...)
My sister thinks I'm overreacting to my niece's bad behaviour
Q. My sister refuses to put her foot down on my 5 year old niece's behaviour all the time and it's making me not want to visit them because doing so has become a pain. She doesn't smack her which is understandable but even if her kid does somethi...
A. 7 April 2015: Her daughter does indeed sound like she lacks manners and respect. However as you already know there is nothing you can do about it.
I agree with your decision to visit less because these visits do stress you out and ill-feelings will continue... (read in full...)
He has a new job and I'm worried that he'll text girls. How do I control my jealousy?
Q. So my boyfriend has just got a new job which involves working away sometimes, today is his first time working away and he is away for 4 days. I'm so happy for him that he has this new job however at the back of my mind I can't help but think he...
A. 7 April 2015: If you still can't trust him after eight months (which I don't blame you) then the chances of you trusting him again are slim. Without trust a relationship cannot survive no matter how much you want it to.
However if you are that determin... (read in full...)
What does this post-sex text mean?
Q. I got this text about 18 hours after we had sex for the second time. We see each other several times a month without anything physical happening. I've known him for 6 years and we have always had a strong attraction to each other. He's 43, I'm 35. ...
A. 16 January 2015: From what I understand from the text he is telling you he no longer wants to have sex with you however he wants to continue to be friends.
I'm guessing the attraction is there however he has no feelings for you which causes him to feel "empty".... (read in full...)
Why is my B/f so hesitant to let his ex know that he is with me? And if he's wanting to save his chances with her, why is he talking about a future with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. Throughout this year, he has kept in touch with his ex. They speak on the phone to keep in touch. During their phone convos, he has never mentioned to her that he is dating me. I didn't mind...
A. 1 January 2015: He is in regular contact with his Ex.
He's giving his Ex the impression that he is still single.
He keeps lying to you about telling her.
This has been going on for a year.
Why are you still with him? If he wants to act single then make... (read in full...)
I think my husband is financially abusing me, please advise
Q. I think my husband is financially abusing me, he is in a different country at the moment staying with his family. He has told me he has not got my savings back which he gave to a family member to invest in some company. I told him not to send the...
A. 29 December 2014: Yes, he is fiancially abusing you. I wouldn't send him anymore money and seek a lawyer for divorce immediately.
I'm sorry your husband put you through this but staying with him is a poor choice.
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How can I convince her to wait until I'm ready for marriage and children?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I'm looking for some impartial advice and my girlfriend uses this site a lot so thought I'd give it a try. We have been together for 5 years, I am 27 and she is 29, and recently she has been putting a lot of pressure on me t...
A. 24 December 2014: I don't blame your girlfriend at all for wanting an answer to her timeline. Having children close to 40 is generally a bad idea due to the risks involved having children that old and trying to take care of them is harder because the body no longer ... (read in full...)
18 months together and all was well. So why has he started being distant with me?
Q. My boyfriend is being very distant and i dont know what to do. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. So far everything has been hunky dory! Hes fab! I love him, he loves me and were planning to buy a house together next year so we ...
A. 24 December 2014: I'm not surprised your confused or upset. However the best advice is to give him space and not expect contact with him. Don't ignore him but keep the contact low enough that your not bothering him.
Then on Saturday confront him in person and go f... (read in full...)
She's been flirting with another girl. What are my options? I don't think I can cope with her actions and threats.
Q. I honestly don't know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and we've lived together for the last year. I pay all the bills as she works part time and i work full time and everything has been going great. Last month she...
A. 24 December 2014: For your own well-being you should dump her and then block her from your life. Don't let her get away with manipulating you by claiming she will kill herself. Just ignore her.
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What's up with his behaviour? He has a Gf. Would it be weird to hang out with him?
Q. I saw a guy friend today that has a GF, he admitted he liked me and that he didn't want to hurt me or his GF by cheating but still bothers me to hang out with him. Its like he is obsessed. We used to hang out alot but I stopped since his GF is home ...
A. 24 December 2014: To hang out with him at this point would be disrespectful to his girlfriend.
He's crossing the line and you don't deserve to be treated like that. Your not something on the side and for him to try to treat you like that deserves a good slap.
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I don't want him to give up his dream but I just found out I'm pregnant! How do I break the news?
Q. Hi everyone. Ok I'm 30 years old and my OH is 32. We both are currently living separately at our parents houses while we save up to buy a house ourselves. Unfortunately.. New mortgage regulationss have just come in and now we have to up twice wh...
A. 11 October 2014: I'm sure you are scared to tell him and probably you are still in shock of finding out yourself. However you HAVE to tell him. It takes two to have a baby. He IS the father. While I can't give you the exact cost of how much having a baby i... (read in full...)
She's a silly 19 year old with a baby and an overbearing mother! How do I withdraw my offer to talk to her?
Q. I have a lodger who is in his early 20's. He has a 19 year old girlfriend who stays over 3 nights a week. This is fine with me. I find her silly, stupid and totally lacking in the brains department but it's none of my business. Recently my lo...
A. 4 October 2014: I agree with YouWish, wondering if you should give her advice (which in my opinion is pointless) is going to be the least of your concerns.
While I did mention before about paying household expenses it would be wiser for you to not let her stay... (read in full...)
How can I lower my guards for him? How can I become relaxed enough to trust him completely? How can I solve my trust issues?
Q. I have always had trust issues. I almost trust no one except myself. You may call me selfish. I am always on my guard, I never let go fearing I might get hurt, and I end up getting hurt all the same. I've been dating a man who is very kind, ni...
A. 3 October 2014: Meditation can help soothe you and is very healthy but to solve why you feel so distrustful you might want to consider therapy.
How many months has it been since you started dating him?
In my option trust is something that has to be earned... (read in full...)
She's a silly 19 year old with a baby and an overbearing mother! How do I withdraw my offer to talk to her?
Q. I have a lodger who is in his early 20's. He has a 19 year old girlfriend who stays over 3 nights a week. This is fine with me. I find her silly, stupid and totally lacking in the brains department but it's none of my business. Recently my lo...
A. 3 October 2014: I would stay out of this. This is the type of drama you don't need.
Besides, I'm sure you know that no matter what you tell this girl it won't do a thing to help. She is immature and not fit to parent her daughter. No wonder her Mother took ove... (read in full...)
Should I move on and block him completely in my contacts? Or should I cling to that piece of hope that we could still be fixed?
Q. It's been a week now since my boyfriend dumped me out of the blue. Accdg to him it was because of the re-occuring fights and admitted that since then he began to feel cold towards me. After the breakup he immediately proposed to be "friends" with me ...
A. 3 October 2014: I really think you would be better off if you blocked him and moved on.
If he really wanted to get back together with you then he would have done so already and wouldn't be playing head games with you.
He already proved he is unstable and has... (read in full...)
I think our sex life is great! How can I show him that?
Q. Hi guys ive been with my partner for 6 years and we have a great sex life. We have sex about 9 times a week depending on how often we meet. He has a problem with premature ejaculation. However this doesnt mean he cannot satisfy me and he does almost ...
A. 27 September 2014: My suggestion is to print out your answer and show it to him.
Or you can suggest he seek help for his "problem." If you google it I'm sure there is plenty of sites with advice and techniques to help so he can feel better about his performa... (read in full...)
What "red flags" am I missing here and how do I stop them without being an jerk?
Q. I have only had a few girlfriends in my life and the ones I have dump me all the time with no reason other than "I just want to be friends" or "it's not working out" or "I don't want a boyfriend". They say these things after we're already dating or ...
A. 25 September 2014: By the sounds of your post you are pressuring women into having sex with you and that is what is sending them running. Listen to what they are saying!
I know some women who refuse to have sex with a man until they dated him for at least 3 months. ... (read in full...)
"Just friends" became more, which is a problem since I have a gf
Q. I have so many questions: am I having an affair? Am I doing the right thing? Does she think I'm using her? I should probably start with a bit of background. I've known this girl for years, always fancied her, had a mess about when we were younger ...
A. 25 September 2014: Am I having an affair?
Yes you are having an affair.
Am I doing the right thing?
No I really don't think you are doing the right thing. The only reason you stopped having sex with the other girl is because of her choice-not yours. Because y... (read in full...)
What do I do with the expensive gifts my ex gave me?
Q. my question is very simple and small that I have broke up with my gf last night in a legal way ....now I don't know what shud I do with the expensive old gifts she gave me....should I through them out so that I cud fully forget her ...
A. 25 September 2014: Either return them to your Ex or donate them. Holding on to them can cause you more pain in the long run because it's a reminder of her. ... (read in full...)
He Lied About Dating Someone - Should I Not Be Friends With Him?
Q. Last summer, I fancied a male friend (used to flirt with him a bit but nothing more than that) whom I got on with quite well. I told him I liked him, and he turned me down, saying that he was already seeing someone. There was a mutual guy frien...
A. 25 September 2014: I agree with Aunty BimBim. It sounds like he just wanted to let you down gently.
Don't concern yourself too much over it. It's been said and done. Causing drama by not being his friend when you have the same social circles isn't going to help eit... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is never horny anymore!
Q. so ive been dating this girl for 2 years things are going okay besides the fact that we argue so much and she is very immature at times .. But anyways i really been stressing because we've always had sex every single day almost multiple times aday ...
A. 24 September 2014: I'm not surprised she is not horny. You call her immature which means you lack respect for her regardless if she is actually immature or not. She probably senses that and that is a huge turn off!
Another big turn-off is your constant fighting... (read in full...)
Fifth Date and then He Disappeared.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month. We have a bunch of mutual friends and he knows my sister. We don't text often, mostly just to make plans and then he calls me the day before or day of to finalize. Majority of the time he would text me ...
A. 24 September 2014: Perhaps he took offense to your comment; "better hope I don't meet my husband".
I would sent him a text apologizing and tell him you only meant it as a playful joke.
If he responds let him know that his sudden lack of contact upset you and th... (read in full...)
My FWB guy said I love you..was it just post sex emotion?
Q. 4 years ago I had a brief fling with a guy. It didn't work out but it was good while it lasted. About 6 months ago we bumped into each other after a night out and exchanged numbers. Since then we've had a fwb situation going on. We spoke about it ...
A. 24 September 2014: The only way you will find out is if you DO ask him outright! Wait until you see him in person again and then ask him what his feelings are for you.... (read in full...)
I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and can't help worrying he might meet a new girl the same way!
Q. I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and taught the classes in my gym. We got along really well and became friends - started taking a yoga class together. There was a lot of sexual chemistry between us and eventually we gave in. He ...
A. 24 September 2014: While it's easier said then done try not to dwell on it. Especially if he is not communicating with any of his clients outside of work.
Take a deep breath and use your energy to improve your relationship with him. Enjoy your time with him.
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Am I Really Overrreacting or Is He in The Wrong When It Comes to Not Talking to Me?
Q. Hello. I'd like to give a little background before any opinons are made so please bare with me. My boyfriend and I will have been together 3 years this coming October and we are both 22 years old going on 23. I have asked something like this in the ...
A. 23 September 2014: Good! I'm glad you have nothing serious to worry about. It sounds like it's just your insecurities which to be honest I still have myself and I've been married 3 years to someone who has been loyal.
The best way I cope with these insecuri... (read in full...)
I think I could marry this girl but how do I make her like me?
Q. Hey! dear cupid user-reader thank you for taking your time and reading this. I really appreciate what you do! After my 2.5-relatlionship I couldn't like anybody except this girl who I saw on Facebook. She is studying law,so respectful,funny...
A. 18 September 2014: Due to your feelings for this women I really don't think things will work out the way you want them to. You call her flawless which isn't fair on her. She's not perfect and to assume she is setting her up for failure. You are also a bit o... (read in full...)
Am I Really Overrreacting or Is He in The Wrong When It Comes to Not Talking to Me?
Q. Hello. I'd like to give a little background before any opinons are made so please bare with me. My boyfriend and I will have been together 3 years this coming October and we are both 22 years old going on 23. I have asked something like this in the ...
A. 18 September 2014: How often does he text other people? How much time does he spend online on FB?
Are you sure he's ignoring you or is it simply because he doesn't communicate that often with the phone or FB with anyone?
When he is out with friend's I can u... (read in full...)
Three years of emails and now he wants FWB?
Q. When I have known someone for three years and there is no relationship. Just emails. Three dates for coffee and chatting. Emails only. Now he has indicated he can only be friends with benefits as that is the only thing that works for him he ...
A. 12 September 2014: How do you tell him that you don't want to continue being in contact with him after three years?
Easy!
You are a human being not a play toy! Let him know! I will refer to him as Ben for an example.
"Dear Ben,
It's been great chattin... (read in full...)
My husband loves me but I no longer feel the same for him
Q. Dear Cupid. I told my husband I'm no longer in love with him. We have been married for 11 years. I have lost total interest in him. He is so hurt by this that I am willing to work things out. I care for his well being tremendously. He is ...
A. 12 September 2014: You only live once and deserve to be happy. You have the right to leave him and nobody should judge you on that.
It's telling him that you don't love him and then continue to stay with him that makes it cruel. ... (read in full...)
My husband loves me but I no longer feel the same for him
Q. Dear Cupid. I told my husband I'm no longer in love with him. We have been married for 11 years. I have lost total interest in him. He is so hurt by this that I am willing to work things out. I care for his well being tremendously. He is ...
A. 12 September 2014: Leave him.
Your not doing him any favors by staying with him when you already told him you don't love him.
Telling him that was harsh and a kick to the gut. Staying with him now is just plain cruel. ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance for this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having some problems lately... I've been feeling a bit left out because he has a large group of friends and a new job and so on. We've still been hanging out and when we do it has been really nice and great just like ...
A. 12 September 2014: I really don't think there is a chance for you two. Even if you didn't kiss that guy a year ago you still wouldn't be happy in the relationship.
Your not compatible together and it's time to let it go.... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a younger man and I wanted to hurt his girlfriend so I told her about what we did. I thought this would break them but they're back together. What do I do now?
Q. I've been very stupid. 6 weeks ago I started to talk to a man 11 years younger than myself, he was at work when I met him and I asked for his number for a job that I needed doing in my home. I text him and it started off innocently, I ne...
A. 2 September 2014: It sounds like you really don't care about her at all or him.
You're grown women acting like a child that is not getting her own way.
Stop bullying the poor girl and leave the couple alone before they get the police involved.
I have a lot... (read in full...)
Is my ex using me because I'm rich?
Q. i want to know if it's right for my ex to be asking me to buy credit for him? He keeps asking me to always give him money or gifts but he has never done same to be before. Im not sure that is how he relates to his female friends. He once told me he ...
A. 29 August 2014: He's your ex!! Why are you even giving him money?
Of course he is using you. Guys won't do that to those they love. Cut the contact with him and move on. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me should I give him another chance?
Q. I was dating a guy but he left me, he blocked me on facebook and i didn't know why. He came back to me saying he has regreted doing that to me cuz he has never forgiven himself for it. i asked him why he left me and he told me he doesn't recall why ...
A. 29 August 2014: I wouldn't give him another chance. Time is too precious to waste on those who don't deserve it.
I think you will end up regretting it if you got back together with him. ... (read in full...)
Is this starting to become a love triangle?
Q. Is this starting to become a love triangle? A couple of years ago, I met a married couple who became my friends (the woman more than the man). I too am married. With time, I found my friend's husband increasingly attractive, and noticed he is so...
A. 29 August 2014: If you're losing interest in your husband the moral thing to do would be to concentrate on fixing your marriage or to divorce. Not to allow these thoughts of another married man.
I wouldn't get too worked up about your "friend's" husband. Let them... (read in full...)
Was this a platonic response or is there more to it?
Q. I am friends with a man through an acquaintance of mine and most of our conversations have been work related (although glances and smiles between us have indicated otherwise and there might be an unspoken attraction). The other day I confirmed my ...
A. 28 August 2014: I think it was a platonic response. Even if there is some attraction I think it would be wise to keep it work-friendly. Getting involved with a co-worker can backfire. Rejection can also cause problems as he never indicated that he liked you more ... (read in full...)
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