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writes:I was dating a guy but he left me, he blocked me on facebook and i didn't know why. He came back to me saying he has regreted doing that to me cuz he has never forgiven himself for it. i asked him why he left me and he told me he doesn't recall why he did that since it was long ago. He now saying i should give him another chance cuz he still loves me. i do love him but i don't know if i should trust him again. Should i give him another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2014): "I was dating a guy but he left me, he blocked me on facebook and i didn't know why."He didn't want the girl for whom he dumped you to know you existed."He came back to me saying he has regreted doing that to me cuz he has never forgiven himself for it."He came back because the new girlfriend realized he was a scumbag and dumped him."i asked him why he left me and he told me he doesn't recall why he did that since it was long ago."He knows that if he told you the truth then you wouldn't take him back."He now saying i should give him another chance cuz he still loves me."He means he has no other options and he thinks you're dumb enough to fall for his self-serving BS."i do love him . . ."He tells you what you want to hear." . . . but i don't know if i should trust him again."You had no reason to trust you before. "Should i give him another chance?"No, but you probably will and he'll proceed to treat you with abject contempt, just like before. Men can't disrespect women who respect themselves, and until you muster up some pride, dignity and self-esteem he will continue to walk all over you for no other reason than you let him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 August 2014):
 You write:
"He now saying i should give him another chance cuz he still loves me. "
Excuse me? You should just ignore that he dropped you like a rotten egg and blocked you, because he now loves you?
You should just ignore that he can't even GIVE you a reasonable explanation as to WHY he did it? because.. let me guess? He loves you?
I'm sorry, what he did was not OK, not apologizing for it or even explain it is NOT OK either.
You might think you love him too, but really? Do you think what he did was OK? Would you PUT yourself through that again?
Sorry, if it was me, I'd stay clear of him. He had his chance. You can do a LOT better than that. And you need to realize you DESERVE a lot more respect and consideration that that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2014): A second chance is not a bad idea.
However think 10 times before you make a decision in giving him a chance, romantically speaking. Because his excuse is not believable.
He just forgot.?
In general there are 4 reasons why we block people:
1. Unknown person/ a total stranger
2. You hate that person/sincerely hate that you cant really stand their presence. Or something.
3. You love that person but you have to forget him or her.
4. Your hiding something from a particular person.
So if your important he would remember why he block you.
But its ok to give him a chance like forgive him fine. But romantically speaking. Be wise, this time.
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reader, SeaGreen  +, writes (29 August 2014):
 I wouldn't give him another chance. Time is too precious to waste on those who don't deserve it.
I think you will end up regretting it if you got back together with him.
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