Is this a wild romance or am I fooling myself? Should I go meet this man or take a pass? Help!
Q. Hi everyone I know at my age I probably have experienced or seen almost everything regarding the relationship between man and woman, but I'm stumped to the point of distraction. So, maybe a bit of discussion and your help? I am in my forties, divo...
A. 28 March 2016: I forgot to mention he is divorced and that I will have my own room if I go meet him. I view this trip as checking out the landscape, so to speak. And yeah, no phone numbers exchanged because I didn't realize I like him until he left. It's like in ... (read in full...)
Is this a wild romance or am I fooling myself? Should I go meet this man or take a pass? Help!
Q. Hi everyone I know at my age I probably have experienced or seen almost everything regarding the relationship between man and woman, but I'm stumped to the point of distraction. So, maybe a bit of discussion and your help? I am in my forties, divo...
A. 28 March 2016: Thanks for your thoughts. I guess I forgot to mention that he is divorced, and I forgot to say I'd have my own room if I went to meet him. I view this as a "getting to know you" trip.... (read in full...)
Worries about masterbation.
Q. I masturbated in the shower, i took care to only cum in the corner directly into the drainhole. No visible cum got onto my fingers and i rinsed them lots afterwards. I even rinsed the bar soap (which i did not use to masturbate) about 3 times and ...
A. 11 November 2007: I don't know you sister's health situation, but probably she can get pregnant, but she will NOT be getting pregnant from this incident of you maturbating in the shower.... (read in full...)
Man cheats on "girlfriend"
Q. I have a 50ish male friend in a psuedo relationship. They were once engaged but now live apart and no longer have sex because of "sexual issues". Yet he calls her his girlfriend but lies to her and cheats on her. I've heard she cheats on him too. ...
A. 11 November 2007: Why does it matter to you? They know they have a psuedo relationship and they keep going with it because it fulfills some - healthy or unhealthy - need in them. It's their business. You couldd also ask why she lives like this too, but - again - why ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a guy likes you or is just after sex
Q. how do you know if a guy likes you or is just after sex ...
A. 1 November 2007: Are his compliments not limited to your physical appearance? Does he show any interest in you as a person? Is he willing to meet your friends? Some guys will have their hands all over you, but some are smarter than this and will play it cool, but ... (read in full...)
Do I make the effort to see him when he doesn't seem to want to see me???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We meet in college where we were together every day. I have been out of school since April and he is still there. We live about 80 miles from each other but still we don't see much of each other. At ...
A. 1 November 2007: I think you need to let this one go. He just does not seem interested enough to want to be with you. If you do break it off, and his behavior changes, give him another try but don't let him string you along like this. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
She called me 2 weeks later-what does this all mean?
Q. I feel I have to ask you advice, i've been in several, relationships, and they alway end the same way. I do everything the woman asks. I give my all. So much so i've had a nervous breakdown. Any way after recovering. I started dating again. On...
A. 1 November 2007: First of all, don't throw yourselves completely into relationships. You'll burn out, they will burn out and you will be left feeling bitter. Secondly, did you ever think that she might feel more comfortable meeting with you in a public place, say ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying over nothing?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and just lost my virginity about a week ago. We used a condom and it didn't break or anything. My period is a little late now (although my cycle tends to run from 4-6 weeks and I'm only about 4 days past the 4 week mark) I've been ...
A. 1 November 2007: Just relax. If your period cycles are as long as 6 weeks you are running normal so far. Go ahead and do a pregnancy test though. It will ease your mind. You might want to consider adding another form of birth control through to avoid these stressful ... (read in full...)
Are some of us meant to be alone.
Q. Are some of us just meant to be alone for the whole of our lives? I'm 20 now and whenever I start to feel attracted to a girl, they are either not interested or want to stay as friends. The saying goes that the right women will come along one day....
A. 1 November 2007: What a great question! This is something I've wondered myself at times and I'm old enough to be your youngest aunt. To ask this question, though, denies free will so I think that if you truly want to meet that special person you must remain vigilant ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting in relationships where the woman breaks up and returns later for a new start?
Q. Why do I keep getting in relationships where the woman finishes with me then comes back later to start up again? My last three relationships have been like this. It drive me crazy and does my head in. Thanx...
A. 30 October 2007: Sometimes ambivalence is catchy. Are you putting out mixed signals to them too?... (read in full...)
I desperately want her back - what do I need to do?
Q. Hi, my gf decided to end our 4 yr relationship about 5 weeks ago. it was a complete shock for me. things were not going that well for past month or so. but then she was acting normal before the break up. i wanted to spend weekend with her to get t...
A. 28 October 2007: I feel for you because I truly believe that you love this woman. The problem is you treat her the way you would want to be treated in this situation. You are a man. She is a woman. She needs to talk. Communicating is the most important aspect of any ... (read in full...)
I hid my son from him, and when he found out he treated me badly and was uncompassionate towards me. How could he??
Q. Hi I was seeing this guy for over 2 a months.He was saying how I was the girl for him and how much he realy liked me.There was something I kept from him and that was that I had a son. I was quiet lonely before I met him and I wanted the feeling ...
A. 28 October 2007: When you have children you must be honest and tell men at the very beginning of the relationship. It's not fair to them to keep this secret. It also does not reflect well upon you because it can make you seem desparate. I know very well that if you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never invites me to parties... Should I be worried or am I overreacting?
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 yr old female. I've been in a relationship for the past 8 months. Although I know it's normal for the dynamic of a relationship to change over time, I just can't seem to shake the feeling of inevitable doom. Around September, my bo...
A. 28 October 2007: Are you always available to him when he wants to spend time with you? Are you always right there when he calls? Try expanding your life so that you are as busy as he is and then see if he changes his attitude and behavior. I'm not advocating mind ... (read in full...)
Is she too old for me?
Q. Simple question that has been eating at me for a few days. I met a great woman and have tons in common with her. we get along great, make good friends, talk for hours and just adore each other. We clicked instantly and i really like her. Only ...
A. 28 October 2007: A few years back, I was seeing a therapist after a rather traumatic relationship breakup and he told me something that works very well for me. Between the 6th and 8th week of a relationship, put all your cards on the table about where you want the ... (read in full...)
Is this a mid-life crisis?
Q. i am very attracted to a young lady working in my office as an intern.i call her to my office on any excuse i can think of. We do have long conversations about any topic that comes up.We do enjoy talking to each other i believe. My problem is how to ...
A. 28 October 2007: Perhaps you should ask your wife if this is a mid-life crisis. I'm sure she would have an opinion is you gave her the opportunity to express it.... (read in full...)
Can I cope with being a single parent in the future?
Q. I am about to leave a relationship that I have been in for 5 years. We have a 3 year old son. After years of trying I have realised that I am 100% not happy and really just want to move on. Of course I want to also ensure my son is happy too and ...
A. 28 October 2007: Statistics show that single mothers with sons are far more likely to remarry than single mothers with daughters. But whether or not you will meet someone else is not really the issue. What is best for you and your son regarding a divorce? You need ... (read in full...)
Should I abandon my morals to boost my self-esteem?
Q. Hi there, I'm a Christian and seem to be have trouble in relationships. I seem to end up getting tricked and cheated on all the time. I'm honest and truthful, but seem to get tricked and played. I feel like I put a lot of effort and get little i...
A. 28 October 2007: Just how much self-esteem do you think you will gain in cheating and using other people for what you think is your own benefit? Do your morals mean so little to you? If you think you are in a dark spot now, if you follow through with this behavior, ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keeps allowing his mother to interfere to the point she does things to destroy us saying it's in his best interest?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and he has allowed his mother to interfer to the point we haven't been able to get married and we don't live together any more. She does things to destroy us and tells him it's all in his best interest. ...
A. 28 October 2007: If he allows her to do this, then he is not worthy of you and probably never will be. This is a type of disfunctional bond that is hard to break. Move on and good luck!... (read in full...)
Does this age difference matter?
Q. Hello Iam 28 years old and my boyfriend is 51 years old. Will this age difference create problems down the road if we want to get married?...
A. 28 October 2007: Why do you want to build a future with a man old enough to be your father? I know that there are always exceptions, but your interest will last for three years tops and then what are you going to do? If I were you, I would serioulsy asking myself ... (read in full...)
Is she too old for me?
Q. Simple question that has been eating at me for a few days. I met a great woman and have tons in common with her. we get along great, make good friends, talk for hours and just adore each other. We clicked instantly and i really like her. Only ...
A. 28 October 2007: Have you discussed a future with her? Do you know that she is not asking herself if you are too young for her? You mention something about marriage in the US not being possible. What is that all about?... (read in full...)
I'm confused and very angry.
Q. Hello I don't know if you can help but this is driving me mad. I was married and wife had affair so i divorced her. I'm 38 and met a woman online over two years ago. We chatted for around 4 month. Being totally upfront and honest about our pas...
A. 28 October 2007: If you were just friends at the time of the fling, what she did and how she felt about it, as expressed in her emails to other friends, are none of you business. That she lied to you is sad, but you really had no right to ask such a question. She ... (read in full...)
Why do women stay with cheaters?
Q. Why do some women stay with husbands who cheat on them....
A. 28 October 2007: Is you are talking about long-term married cheaters and their wives there is also the economic factor in play here. As a culture, we don't like to admit it, but women do not have the opportunity to do as well as men economically and if you are a ... (read in full...)
She has long term sex issues, advice please.
Q. Hi there. I am 33 years old, married to my schooldays sweetheart since 1998, with 2 boys, aged 4 and 7. Over the last year or so, our sex life has dwindled away to pretty much zero. My wife is almost always real tired at nights, falls as...
A. 28 October 2007: Have your tried romancing her? If she's tired, and with two boys and being anemic she is, try showing you care about her by taking over part of the load and not stressing the sex part quite to much. Does she like baths? Ever tired filling the tub ... (read in full...)
I can't get divorced because of religious/ culteral reasons.
Q. I have been married for 21 years. I have 2 children, both teenagers.My husband is a workaholic, we rarely spend time with each other. Since the birth of our last child in 1993 our sex life has dwindle to almost nothing. If we do have sex, i usually ...
A. 28 October 2007: Not knowing your religion or cultural background, it is difficult for me to understand how any religion can expect someone to honor a vow that is already broken or punish a person who is already in a punishing situation that leads to depression. If ... (read in full...)
I want out because I'm not loyal and I'm bored. But she loves me - and sometimes I think I love her - so I could just come back!
Q. Okay, well I have been going out with this girl for about six months. I look at myself and I think "why would someone want to go out with me?" I think this because I like my freedom - I'm unloyal - and to be honest I get bored. Well, now I'm thin...
A. 22 October 2007: You are ambivalent. To love is a choice, a decision. If you are not ready to make that choice, let her go but don't come running back to use her when you start to feeling like maybe you want the advantages of a truly loving relationship only to ... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and breaking up. What should I do now?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going out for about 6 months but everytime we fight we break up and then 2 or 3 days later we make up again but the last time he left me for another girl and we were out for about a month and then he came back to me and asked ...
A. 16 October 2007: Could he possibly be returning to you every time to have regular sex? Just a question... (read in full...)
Is there any possibility hes interested in a relationship or is he just using me for sex?
Q. i have been seeing this guy for 4 months but he only texts or phones me on a saturday night to meet and come back mine when hes out with his mates, is thier any possibility hes interested in a relationship or is he just using me for sex, i really do ...
A. 15 October 2007: He's using you for sex. If this is OK with you, great, but if you are wanting more from a relationship get rid of him. He'll just hold you down emotionally.... (read in full...)
She won't call me or talk to me.
Q. I broke up with my old gf back in June. We'd been together about a year and a half. Started dating this other girl(B) who lives 45 mins away from me in August. Now some may think this is classic rebound behavior. Maybe maybe not, but I don't th...
A. 15 October 2007: You need to ask yourself if you could live with her style of disappearing whenever stress enters her life. This could be her coping style.... (read in full...)
Is there any way that I can get him to realize what he's lost?
Q. I was recently dumped by a boyfriend of six months. Our relationship was very intense (got together on a school trip in romantic Paris) and had lots of ups and downs. Recently, he told me he'd suddenly realized he didn't love me anymore. He changed ...
A. 14 October 2007: He is ambivalent. That means "no" he is not interested. He knows what he has lost. He's a jerk. It's hard to do, but you must move on.... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt him, but ...
Q. ok me and his guy have been going out for a week and a half and i want to break up...how do i break up with him with out bing to mean? p.s. ive nver break up with anyone before....
A. 14 October 2007: A week and one-half does not require anything special to break up. Just tell him the truth. You don't want to go with him anymore and a reason would be nice to give also, but nothing deep. Just something like you don't feel that the relationship is ... (read in full...)
I regret letting her go but it might be too late anyway
Q. Well, here it is. I've been such an idiot. I have been in a relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months back. She was always head over heels about me and I took this for granted. We have spoken several times but it ...
A. 13 October 2007: Eight years!? Leave her alone. If she loves you, she'll come back, but don't expect it. Go on with your life and deal with whatever issues you have that allowed you to string her along for eight years. Be happy for her that she has found ... (read in full...)
Should I answer the phone and tell her why I don't want to have anything to do with her?
Q. I recently ended my relationship with my now ex of 2 years due to the ridiculous amount of problems that we faced. She was extremely demanding and always threatened to end our relationship if she didn't get her way. She would endlessly compla...
A. 10 October 2007: After three months, let it alone. You probably should have told her right from the beginning though. It would have given her closure. Now she might take it as you having interest again.... (read in full...)
Do women remember the size of their former lover's penis?
Q. I have been bombarded with penis enlargement emails lately. Something like 100+ a day. Hopefully I am not the only one. :) Obviously these are SPAM I know, however there are lots of products claiming to work for those less endowed. One of the ...
A. 1 October 2007: I remember the size, but more importantly I remember what they did to me. I've had men with average and smaller than average penises who were fantastic lovers while I've had a couple of lovers with huge penises who thought they were God's gift to ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't care about me, then fears I can get hurt in an accident, after that says has no feelings, then can't stop holding me...
Q. He is all about pleasing me when we make love, and he even cried the last time, but then he told me he doesn't care about me, that I'm not on him mind and he doesan't miss me when we are apart. Then he frets that my car is too small and I'll get ...
A. 19 September 2007: I've often wondered if he was playing some kind of control game with me. He's a professional contract negotiator and some of the things he does I have called him on as being tricks of his trade. But the highly emotionally charged mixed messages he ... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 months told me to F%*K off in front of his friends and I left the bar in tears! Should I move on?
Q. I had a row with my bf last nite (we have been together only 2 months) and it was over nothing - mostly my fault. But when I tried to apologise he told me to F%*K off in front of his friends and I left the bar in tears. Usually when we argue I ...
A. 16 September 2007: Please move on. This is a sign of an abusive relationship and it will only get worse. ... (read in full...)
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