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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): There can be many different reasons. Listed below are some. Some women may stay with "cheaters" for one or more of the following reasons.
1.They really believe in their marriage vows, "for better or for worst"
2. They are still in love with the person.
3. They can't stand the thought of being alone.
4. They think if they don't then the ow would've won by "stealing" their man.
5. They don't think that they can do any better.
6. They are financially dependent on their husbands.
7. They stay for the kids sake.
Well, those are some I can think of. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Huh! Why do men choose to stay with their cheating wife's. It must be the same reasons. I chose to stay with my cheating wife because of our young kids, our house, our retirement funds and there are a few other reasons why. I can tell you life with a cheater is never the same when the affair comes to light. I now have no trust in my marriage, I really am disgusted by her, I now dislike her, I don't care who she wants to screw, and she can forget about me from ever turning a decent woman away for sex now that she chose to go down this road. Cheaters are scumbags.
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reader, bliss-xo +, writes (28 October 2007):
 I think its the inability to let go...
If my fiancee cheated on me I don't think I would be able to break up with him.I love him, love makes us do strange things. Women seem to think they can change people and things, make them better. So that's what they try to do with men, they think that they can change them, they want to fix and work on the problem. Sometimes its not the best solution to leave them. It probably also depends on the cercumstances of which the situation happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): With some people, unfortunately, they are drawn to the bad people in life like magnets. Often people feel safer with the devil they know. I was a battered wife for 20 years and he cheated on my three times during that period. I had an idea about it, but now where to go with two small kids. It all depends on the circumstances. But i know what you mean. Now i wouldnt tolerate it for one minute. They would be kicked to the kerb.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Many reasons. Low self esteem, inability to get someone better, the good outweighing the bad, ignorance to the extent of the infidelity, and the fact that women stupidly like guys that are arseholes, often to their detriment. Why? Who knows. Maybe because being able to pull a whole lot of women fits in with the attractive qualities of being rich, socially powerful, or any of the other things women (consciously or unconsciously) want in a partner. Sounds weird, but kind of makes sense.
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reader, Sassister  +, writes (28 October 2007):
Is you are talking about long-term married cheaters and their wives there is also the economic factor in play here. As a culture, we don't like to admit it, but women do not have the opportunity to do as well as men economically and if you are a woman who has been married to a man for 20 years and you've built up this financial security, why would you want to throw it all away? Call it low-self esteem, but it also involves maintaining a lifestyle. What kind of financial future would a women who has not worked for 10 years because she's at home raising kids have to look forward to? For some people, the money is very important.
Then there is the social factor. Again, we don't like to admit it, but divorced women do not have status and they are often treated differently in the work environment and in social settings. There are always exceptions, but that is what these are: exceptions.
Men recover much more quickly - both economically and socially - after a divorce than women do.
The media likes to paint a picture of how great life is for women today, and compared to yesterdays it is much better, but the fact it it is still not an even playing-field for men and women out in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): I agree, it's a self esteem issue. They either think they can't do better, or they think they're not worthy. For me, it's the worthy part. But I'm the one who cheated on my spouse. Now I'm with the guy I was so madly in love with. Most of the time, he's a great guy, but there are times when he has a dark side. He gets angry easily, screams at me, treats me horrible, curses and calls me names. I know in my former life I would've never put up with this, but now, I figure I deserve it. So I'm stuck. Plus I'm afraid of being alone. Sometimes women stay because they fear the unknown more than the known, no matter how bad it is.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi.
there are several reasons for this neither of them, i have ever been able to under stand, some woman for some reason seem to think if they leave a cheater, that they will never meet any one else and because of this they stay in a relationship no matter how hard it is or what dirty trick their other half does to them.
there is also the case of people who stay together, because there are children involved, and do not want to hurt them by breaking up the family home.
then there is the person who has fooled them selfs into thinking they love this person so much that one day, they will in turn get the same love back, but am afraid they deceive them selfs into a state of false hope.
there are many more reasons but afraid it will take me all night to type then out, the three are classic reasons.
hope this helps you.
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