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writes:HelloIam 28 years old and my boyfriend is 51 years old. Will this age difference create problems down the road if we want to get married? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): honestly i don't think age matters i'm getting engaged to sum1 29 years older then me. as long as your both happy then there's nothing wrong with age difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): I am 41 and the guy I am dating is 28. He doesn not know my age for sure but I am kind of worried to tell him, we are having such a great time. I personally don't care about the age difference, I guess I am old enough that I just want to live and get as much out of life as I still can. I have no idea how he feels. In general, I don't think it should make a difference.
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reader, americanchick0712 +, writes (30 October 2007):
It shouldnt if you really love him no one should be against it love is most important and that should come before anyones opinion
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 My current guy is 56, and I'm in my 20's too. It's absolutely fine, but marriage and kids are not on the agenda. You have to know were it's going long-term. I'm not interested in kids either at the moment, but then nor do I see this lasting more than a year or so (we've been seeing each other for 5 years so far)By the way, I am in the financial services business so to correct an earlier comment there's about 4 years difference, (not 15) in life expectancy but a lot depends on the mental age of both parties.
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reader, helensmith +, writes (29 October 2007):
I don't know whether you have read the surprised news in a newspaper last year, saying a 28 young girl marries a 82 old man, which has 54 year age gap. Unbelievable!!!! However, it's true. And it says they date on agelessonly.com. Unbelievable!!!!!!!!! So I try that site and gain my recent relationship. Agelessonly is really a good site for dating. If you try sincerely, I assure you can find your perfect match.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): I am sure it is possible for two people with a 26 year age gap to really love each other, but sometimes love is not enough..
Love is really a choice, there are many soul mates out there for you, you could find someone younger that would not die years before you and love this person, too.
I think he is too old for you because women generally out live men by 15 years (if same age when married)....and he is well beyond you in years, aging accelerates as a person gets older, soon he will be 60, and 70 and if he is lucky 80, how will your attraction be then with the infirmities of old age?
He also may have differing outlooks on life due to generational gaps that may not make for an easy relationship when married.
Just use your head as well as your heart and go with logic, not just feelings, feelings come and go, you have to have reasons for commitment that make sense to you.
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reader, Sassister +, writes (28 October 2007):
Why do you want to build a future with a man old enough to be your father? I know that there are always exceptions, but your interest will last for three years tops and then what are you going to do? If I were you, I would serioulsy asking myself just what the attraction is and if it involves anything to do with money you are cheating yourself and him. I'm sorry if this sounds too blunt and negative, but I was 28 when I got a divorce and dated men this age and their attraction was always based upon their questioning their sexual vitality and how the world viewed them as sexual men (power), and for me it was about economic survival of myself and my children, which are not good things to base a relationship upon.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Hello cgmusteg.
there is no problem getting married to a guy older than yourself, you will always get others who have a problem, but what do they know, if your both in love then that is wonderful,sorry to say this, the only trouble with an age gap is if you have children, because he will retire before you, then in 10 plus years he may not be able to cope, beside that small glitch, it is totally up to you what you both do, i wish you all the best, and hope your big day goes smoothly.
t.t.f.n. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): you kno im am 18 dating a guy that is 36 and although we have not even thought about marriage yet the age thing depends on the person.....how do u feel about it?? there are many factors to consider....you may really be in love with this guy now but what happens 10 years down the road when he is 61 and your only 38 still in ur prime still getting hit on? the thing that i kno my guy worries about is later on cuz if it turns out that i decide im too young or that i realize all the other guys out there and we get a divorce he has not time left to find that life partner and considering how old ur guy is now im sure he is worried just the same......im not saying that that is what u will end up doing but u dont kno how u will feel ten years from now or even a year from now....i keep telling my guy he is wrong cuz i kno myself well enough to kno that i wont make that sort of comittment if i was not planning on staying til the end or if i had any doubt that i would still want him when he is grey and bald and im still young and he says "beautiful".....and then there is the sex factor after a while especially where u both stand with the age when he is 60 he will probably not be that active any longer in bed but u however will def be in ur sex prime and that might cause some issues....but as far as does the age thing matter i believe it doesnt cuz u cant help who u love....and if there is true feelings there pursue them just know that there will be problems u will have to face problems that usual couples do not have to face so it will be unusually hard for u but if u really love this guy u both will find a way....just really ask urself do u love him enough to face all that will come???
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