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reader, Sassister  +, writes (1 November 2007):
Are his compliments not limited to your physical appearance? Does he show any interest in you as a person? Is he willing to meet your friends? Some guys will have their hands all over you, but some are smarter than this and will play it cool, but usually they can't keep their eyes from roaming all over your body. They don't make much, if any eye contact. Watch to see is he licks his lips also. Does he maintain a polite pulic distance with you or does he invade your body space? Does he accidently brush up against your breast? Does he act restless at dinner and wants to change locations and environments before you are ready? Talk about everyday things and current events, etc. Does he listen to you and join in or does he act distracted?Usually if he is still calling for a date after six or so dates of no sex, - or one or two dates with no kissing - he's interested in you. Shake his hand or give him a quick hug instead. That's my experience anyway. Also, some guys try to push what passes as true intimacy by loading you up with their past history on the first or second date to create a false sense of intimacy. Watch out for these guys too. Also beware being bombarded with six, seven or more phone calls a day from day one with them telling you that you are the most special, beautiful, wonderful, etc. etc. woman they have ever met.They have a tendancy not to be able to wait for a date meaning very short notice on asking you out and if you say that day if full but you are available in about a week, and give them a specific day you are available, they whine a great deal and say they will get back with you. If they call on the day you said you were available or the day before, it is because they are looking for sex.Also, try asking for his advice about something that requires more than a five or six word statement. Men love to give advice, particularly if they like a woman. A man who is interested in sex only is not interested in helping you solve a more complicated problem.Sometimes being direct weeds the garden. On a first date, if you suspect their interest is limited, tell them point blank that you do not sleep with any man for several dates. This one is best for verifying suspicions. Hope some of this helps. Good luck.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (1 November 2007):
 If he is just after sex then he will be all over you till he gets what he wants, then once he has got it he will become shallow & despondant. If he genuinly likes you he will be intersted in things about you, want to talk to you, offer to do things for you, take you out to places and will not force the subject of sex on you. He will be considerate to your needs and sex will come about when you are both ready, not just when he is ready.
All the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): my advice is that the only way i new how a fella really used me for sex is if they only call u once in d blue moon or wen he does call he shows he cares n gets straight to business n dont bother wit u after words... if he has interest he will always call txt n not be shamed to be seen with you n not turn up wen he feels like it.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Does this guy you are talking about about only try to have sex with you everytime you see each other? Do you do other things like talk or just watch tv without having sex?
Next time he tries to initiate something say no, you aren't in the mood and see how he reacts. A partner should understand and respect that you may not want it all the time. You will soon find out whether this lad is only with you for sex or not if you start cutting back just a little bit.
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