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writes:Okay, well I have been going out with this girl for about six months. I look at myself and I think "why would someone want to go out with me?" I think this because I like my freedom - I'm unloyal - and to be honest I get bored.Well, now I'm thinking about ending it. We are having a lot of arguments because she feels that she isn't being treated right. But she loves me, and I could walk back whenever and she would take me back.But after these arguments, I'm thinking I love her, but normally I don't. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 You appear to have mixed emotions. You might care more for her than you realize. You know that you get bored and you don't quiet know what to do having a real relationship with her in some way takes away alot of your valued freedom.
On the other hand, she is obviously a good thing cuase she has you thinking that you probably really love her. The arguments put you in a different mindset. You are seeing her in a different light. I think she is standing up to you and you are seeing the err or your ways.
She is good to you and cares about you. Could you possibly feel that she gives you something that you don't recieve from someone else? It isn't about sex, but about real honest to goodness affection and love. Heartfelt emotiion.
Think about it this way. If she just walked away from you and said a final goodbye, would you be able to feel that your freedom was more important than possibly loosing the love of your life? What do you have to loose really?
"Freedoms' Just Another Word For Nothing Left To Loose"
God sends two people into one another's life. It is for a season or for a lifetime. It's your choice, choose well.
Godspeed.
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (22 October 2007):
 if your bored and not commited why stay in the relationship maybe you can try a open relation or maybe just a brake for a little while to see how things work out
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): When people are bored the only one boring them is themselves. Take some responsibility for yourself!
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reader, Chrissygirl +, writes (22 October 2007):
You don't love her if you feel like that so maybe you should do her and yourself a favour by ending it.
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reader, Sassister +, writes (22 October 2007):
You are ambivalent. To love is a choice, a decision. If you are not ready to make that choice, let her go but don't come running back to use her when you start to feeling like maybe you want the advantages of a truly loving relationship only to decide you don't want the responsibilities.
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reader, miamigirls1 +, writes (22 October 2007):
well, souns like maybe you are not ready for a relatinship, Its not always about yourself, you have two think about her too. You are not loyal, well, so finish it! because you will hurt her more by making it longer!
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (22 October 2007):
 Well if your bored and dont think this is going to last then stop stringing her along tell her how you feel, or ask for a break for a month and see how you feel after that, and if you liked having the freedom then break up with her but be nice and if you didnt like it and missed her buy her a huge bunch of flowers and an apology for putting her threw a bad month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): if you only love her SOMETIMES then you have to ask yourself what is you love about her, and is it enough?
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