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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We meet in college where we were together every day. I have been out of school since April and he is still there. We live about 80 miles from each other but still we don't see much of each other. At first he was coming to our house every weekend. Now we don't see each other but maybe once a month. Now that the holidays are coming around he doesn't seem to have time to spend with me. I don't know what to do. I have made the effort to go and see him but it seems that when I do he just wants to hang out with his friends. We were talking about Thanksgiving and Christmas last night. We were together for them last year but he said we might not be this year. I really want to see him but I don't know how I should go about it. Should I just go see him or do I have to make him schedule time to see me.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Ask him outright if he wants to be with you or not. If he says yes then you both have to try and make it work. If he says no then as much as it'll hurt at least you'll know and can try and get on with your life :)
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reader, uganut86 +, writes (7 November 2007):
uganut86 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok we broke up and this was his second chance at being with me. I am so lost I don't know what to do now.
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reader, Sassister +, writes (1 November 2007):
I think you need to let this one go. He just does not seem interested enough to want to be with you. If you do break it off, and his behavior changes, give him another try but don't let him string you along like this. You deserve better.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (1 November 2007):
I used to be in a long distance relationship of about 80 miles and they are hard. I live in Northampton, and up until recently my partner lived in south London. It is really hard at times, especially when it seems the other person isn't putting in as much as you.
I think you need to see your guy and chat about how you are feeling, how you feel he doesn't want to see you and see what he says. I kept things like this eating at me for ages until we had a row one night and it all come flooding out of me and it made the row worse.
Before my partner moved we chatted a lot on the phone or IM especially about us. You need to know he's still commited to you, and the only way you can find that out is by talking to him and asking you. Ask him why he doesn't want to see you xmas/thanks giving and explain you would like to see him at some point over the holidays.
Good luck!
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