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36-40,
anonymous
writes:im 21 and ive never come.In some ways I feel less feminine less womanly. Why can’t I? What’s wrong with me? Some times I say “it’s them, not me” but there comes a point when you have to say that maybe it is you. after all if they have made others come and not you it might be true, maybe you are in that small percentage of the population that can not come. Maybe you are just unlucky, just give up and f*ck off into denial. Maybe. God I hope not I really do. I don’t not ever want to not come but why? Shouldn’t it be easy? Shouldn’t it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): It can take some time, you need to work out what feels good for you. You also need to relax, if your tense you have no chance!Try the cow girl position and ride your partner, it works every time for me!!
Hope my advice was helpful.
Good Luck xx
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 One thing I should say to you, relax!! Don't let this trouble you because if you worry about it, the more it won't happen! I know this because it also happened to me! When I let it not bother me so much, that is when it happened! Just don't let yourself feel less feminine, ok? It will happen!! Good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): Well you are young and sometimes when you are so focused on having something you don't even know what it may be...it just becomes more elusive.
Confidence and trust in a partner goes along way plus if you can relax and just enjoy any pleasure that is going on. Some women need extended foreplay, double stimulation, or can only orgasm through oral sex. Each woman is unique.
An age thing may factor into all of this in that "experience".
I didn't have my first one til I was 24. Didn't believe mulitples were an actual "event" until a year ago.
I think about it and say it was really about my trust and love for my parnter. Being able to feel free to explore and learn together and not let fears or insecurities get in the way and let curiousity rule.
It will happen. Patience.
Or how about reading on the subject by paying a visit to your local Chapters?
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): I would suggest you purchase a vibrator (if you havent already)- you should experience an orgasm then. Theres a nice one with little diamonds on, which is great, from Ann Summers. It is probably because you dont feel totally relaxed with your partner, maybe a bit self conscious - but I wouldn't worry - it will COME (lol)
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