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writes: Was my ex-fiance abusive? He never hit me, but he told me that his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and he slapped her on the face. Does that count as abuse? I'm not with him anymore, but I was just wondering if someone could give me some insight. He even told the counselor (that we went to) that he did that to his ex-girlfriend but that it was the worse thing he did and she's the one who messed up. Strangely, it's almost like I sided with him throughout the relationship, feeling sorry for him that she cheated. Is that considered abuse?
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 No one should hit another person! But just that one slap across the face of his cheating ex doesn't mean that he is abusive. He was hurt, and probably done that without thinking! I think abuse is if he kept doing it again and again without stopping. There is also mental abuse, which can also be devastating.
If you are ever in a abusive relationship get out as fast as you can. When you love someone, you will protect them from harm of any kind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): No one should hit another person, either male or female. A slap cannot be condoned even if she did cheat. He should not of done it. I wouldnt go as far as to call it assault and battery, but it was assault. If he is in the past then why are you worrying now? Just so long as you never get hit in the future by anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): @RCN: I wouldn't go as far as calling that "assault and battery". He may not have been very gentlemanly about it, but slapping anyone due to the partner being a cheater is hardly abuse. Unless he slapped her with the intent to control and/or make himself feel better by forcing his anger on her emotionally and physically, I don't see how this can be "assault and battery". It's like when I was younger, and I did something really stupid and my friend slapped some sense into me. It hurt, but I 'woke up' and listened to her, and went into meditation for weeks to ponder on my mistakes, my behavior. Sure, she could have done it more democratically, but again, I wouldn't call her slap "assault and battery".
You have to look at objectively and take it into context. It's like what Eddie said elsewhere: "It sounds like it was a heated argument. The word abuse gets thrown around too easily too. Think before you make any accusations."
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 October 2007):
 It would be considered "assault and battery". All though his ex-girlfriend messed up, you have to look at the situations separately. (1) She cheated (2) He slapped her. She may have made a mistake, but he chose how to react to the mistake.
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