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writes:So a girl I went out with a few times in college, about 5 years ago, (we went out on a few dates but really didnt work out and no hard feelings afterward) and was somewhat friends a little while thereafter the few dates we went on...emailed me out of the blue. When we went out a few times, it was kind of rocky (little petty arguments), no sex, made out couple times, but nothing more and really never made any effort to continue a friendship. We just went our separate ways alsobeit.She says in the email she really wants to talk. She past by a pic of me in her photo album and made her realize how long we hadn't talked. She wants to get together. However I'm in another state (bout 6 hours away from where she is).Not in any relationship now, so I don't have to worry about going the ok through a gf or her getting pissed off at me for emailing her back or anything.I haven't emailed her back, just sort of thinking y out of the blue after not a successful attempt at a relationship or even friendship, y the email years later after?Thoughts?Thanks, wildcat Reply to this Question
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (25 July 2007):
 6hrs away... that can be difficult. You'd have to meet half way just to see each other or just make a weekend of it going there to see her and vice versa. Is your heart really into it? I think that is the main questions. She wants a relationship but do you?
I saw just build your friendship now through calls and email. She may have emailed you out the blue because she is lonely or felt a sliver of connection with you. You have to catch up too and see what's been going on in her life. Her personality might have changed and she have different views than she used to.
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reader, rachy-baby-helps  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 This could be because she has matured a lot since your lat dates. In 5 years she may have realised that she was stupid back then and actually you are what she wants. I would email her back if i were you, but when you do ask her what she's been up to over the years and why she suddenly emailed?Also make it clear that friendship between you should be a good place to start and don't rush into anything. Find out things about her. Girls love it when a guy is interested in her. Why not try meeting half way? Or go out for a day with other friends aswel so it isn't awkward. Once you have got to knw her better then a relationship might not look so bad?
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reader, xMiiSS-CALDERx +, writes (25 July 2007):
 i think you should give it a go as 5 years ago is quite a long time ago. you will never know how much she has changed until you meet up with her. their is no harm in trying and if it doesnt work out then atless you know for deffinate. x
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reader, blazee +, writes (25 July 2007):
 mabye she has just left a relationship and is on the rebound?anyway if you didnt really argue and you liked her why not? give her a try:)but 6 hours is a long way. mabye a long weekend?but remember she only said she wanted to talk, did she invite you down?good luck:)
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