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writes:All right, so my boyfriend is eighteen, (as of April)and I am fourteen, fifteen in November. I haven't been with him very long, but I swear I love him, so please don't even say that "I don't even know what love is", because you're wrong. I believe he loves me too, and I'm not even a very trusting person. I live about six hours away from him though -- in a whole other state.(and YES, I know him in real life.) And I won't see him again until spring break in March of next year. Then I'll be fifteen and he will still be eighteen. I want to do things with him, but I don't want him to end up in jail. I told my parents that he was going to be turning eighteen next April, not nineteen, and they are okay with him being older than me. But then when I'm sixteen next year there will not be a problem, because I'm pretty sure the age of consent in his state is sixteen, and in mine, I think it is eighteen. I really want to be with him, but I don't want to cause any trouble...what do you think is the right thing to do?The only reason I would ever leave him, is to keep him from going to jail...but I know it would hurt like hell...help?
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (25 July 2007):
I agree with the previous reply. The only way to be sure is to check your facts about the law, because otherwise you are risking sending him to jail. It isn't a matter of what we think, or what you think, it's what the law says that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): In some states the age of consent is 21. You have a lot of growing up to do in the meantime. It's your hormones playing with you baby. Have sex at your age and you're very likely to wind up with cevical or ovarian cancer in later life. If you like the idea of that, then carry on with your plans, but I couldn't recommend it.
If you want to be 'grown up' you're going to have to act it.
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reader, rachy-baby-helps +, writes (25 July 2007):
 I suggest you talk to his guy about how you are feeling. When you meet him next spring break don't rush into things. I know you say you love him and I believe you. But trust me when I say you could regret things you do. Check to see if the laws you talk about are true. If you don't want him to end up in jail, talk to him and tell him that he will have to wait, if he really loves you he will. If as you say 16 is legal in his state then you don't have long, but don't just do it to please him. Do it for the right reasons and just because you're 16 doesn't mean you have to do it.Ifyou want to keep him from ging to jail then my advice is to wait until you're legal, i know this is going to be hard but as you said you would leave him to prevent jail.I don't think you will have to leave him if you can both agree to wait.
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