A
female
 ,
*MiiSS-CALDERx
writes:okay well firstly i have quite a harsh perspective of realationships if someone ceats on me then its over with them offcourse it takes time for me to get over them but i can. if someone ceats on me with a mate of mine then i get make out with them or anythign sexual even if i wanted to because i feel that seconds chanced dont really matter because people never change. so i had been makeign out with his guy for a few months before he finally asked me out which i wasnt expecting. we started going out then he went out on nite and get drunk with a few of his mates then was kissing on of my best mates at the time she didnt actually know that i was going out with him so it wasnt really her fault. but the worst thing was straight after that he went home and phoned me asking if i was comeing to see him as it was really late i was in bed at the time so didnt go to see him but if i did go he admitted that he probably would have just made out with me aswell. he is a nice guy really and gets really annoyed wen i bring it up as i am the only girlfriend he has ever cheated on he did ask if we could try again but i dont believe in second chances. but the other night i was at his with a few mates one by one they all left eventully it was just me and him then we started watchin a film i did tell him that we cant make out but i really wanted to he kept trying to kiss me but i pulled away then we were hugging and he kissed up my neck then we did end up making out which i said wasnt goin to happen then he started to move this hands further down my body i pushed him off me then told him that we made out even though i said we shouldnt but i was beign serious wen i sed his hands couldnt go anywere near that area yet again he managed to do as he pleased with me but i dnt sleep with him!! i dont know wether i should think of this as a mistake and continue to get over him or if i should stop lying to myself and admit i want to try again? i dotn want to be hurt again by men that move on to my mates wen their with me shoudl i stick to my morals and get over him or not? please help x
View related questions:
drunk, kissing, move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Everyone deserves better than 2nd guessing a friend or partner or anyone else...
If you really want to give him a second chance I think you MUST have your eyes wide open concerning his behaviour . I think that not keeping a cool head might take you on a slippery slope and you could end up either very hurt or wasting a long time being played like a yo=yo and not even seeing it or not able to pull out very easily because of your feelings...
A
female
reader, rachy-baby-helps +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Firstly, well done for saying no, it takes guts, and well done for not sleeping with him. I know you said he doesn't like to talk about it but try askig him why he did it. ou said he was drunk. This is a poor excuse but it does, in a sense, make it better. At least you can reason with yourself that it was a drunken mistake. Unfortunately this doesn't justify what he did.Ask yourself if you really love him? Because if you do then you are throwing it away because of a drunken moment. I like your morals but if you love him surely it's worth a seciond chance? Tell him however, that it is his last chance and if he messes up again it's over.
...............................
A
male
reader, blazee +, writes (25 July 2007):
 he sounds a litlle bit forceful to be honest:(you clearly told him that you couldnt make out but he still started didnt he?um well to be honest you cant be sure he has never cheated before, youve only got his word for that:(and very few guys can change you are right about that.if you really want to take a risk try because you may be right, and noone of us know what he is really like, we arent there seeing him, but to be honest babe i think you deserve better:(xx
...............................
|
