My ex sexually assaulted me and I don't know what to do
Q. Okay, so im sorry if this gets long, and i know that im more in the wrong than any of these guys! I just really dont know what to do anymore, ive been with my amazing boyfriend Richard now, for 11 months, everythings being going great, hes so kind ...
A. 30 January 2010: Oh I am so sorry for what has happen to u. U need to tell some one. The police would be u first place to start. U really need to tell richard if u love him u need to tell him. He needs to no. He will understand. He can help u though all of this. If ... (read in full...)
Sex is not as much fun for me as it is for him!
Q. Ok, so here it is I have been in the same relationship with the same guy for over a year now and i get super wet im talkin like really wet drippin wet were if i stand up its drippin down my leg and he thinks its all sexya nd stuff and well it really ...
A. 30 January 2010: Men like when u tell them what to do in the bed room. Try telling him guideing him. He will love it and it will turn him on more. ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to him that while he might find it attractive I find shaving my pubic area sleazy and gross and uncomfortable?
Q. My husband keeps asking me (repeatedly) to shave (or at least severely trim) my pubic area. I prefer to just shave the sides to keep everything inside the underwear. If it was up to me (i.e. no embarrassing moments at the pool) I would stop shaving ...
A. 30 January 2010: Buy a pair of trimers and just trim it. U don't have to shave it. Its a lot better trimmed. U will like it trimmed also. ... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight and not put it back on
Q. hey, Im sixe 16/18 with lots of flab everywhere and im really looking to drop down to a size 12 but i really want to do it HEALTHILY. Ive looked on loads of different websites but I cant find one that not about taking some pills or doing somethin...
A. 30 January 2010: The low calorie diet is a good one. Count ur calories. Try eating 1200 - 1300 calories a day. Excersie 3 - 5 day a week. For 30 - 60 minutes a day. A lot of cardio. See if that works. It works for me... (read in full...)
My boyfriend buys porno mags and hides them but I don't understand!
Q. I was 17 when I fell for my brothers best friend. He was 25. He lived in Alabama and I lived in Michigan but he had come up to visit and that's when we got together. I moved to Alabama on my 18th birthday and I am now 21 years old and he is 28 ...
A. 27 January 2010: Ok men and porn is like women and shoes they have to have it. I use to think I wasn't good enough that is y my husband bought porn mags. But that's not the case men just have to have it. I don't no why but they do. Him hiding it is probably because ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is my best friend, how will I know when it's time to ask her to marry me?
Q. I just want to know what marriage means. I dont want to rush it but i also know this women is someone i can trust. Maybe how long do i wait or when i know its right to propose? Even if we don't get married we mutually benefit each other. Not ...
A. 15 January 2010: It sounds like u already no. How long have u to been together. My husband told me he knew the day we first meet I was the one he was going to marry. So if u think it is right then just ask her. ... (read in full...)
I'm deployed and my wife has gone through some changes! Help!
Q. Hi I need help im so confused...im deployed and my wife has been acting really strange or i dont know what it is...before she always say she loves me and now she dont say it anymore...i ask her why and she says why does she need to say it when we ...
A. 12 January 2010: Oh my. I hate to hear u r going though some thing like this. U r protecting all of us, and she is treating u like this. Ur story makes me want to cry. Back to ur question I hate to tell u but she may be cheating on u. I wish I knew someone u could ... (read in full...)
Afraid she'll leave me if I ask her, to stay off the internet. Help!
Q. my wife and i have been drifting apart for about 2 years.she is always on the internet and is very brief when i ask her what she is dolng.she always has her cell locked and never leaves it alone.i have noticed several friends on her facebook site ...
A. 10 January 2010: There r a lot of adult dating sites out there. She can flirt,text,email,webcam, there r all kinds of them out there and so many ways to talk to other people. She is prob talking to other men. I have been though almost the same thing. My husband has ... (read in full...)
My heart is keeping quiet and my head won't shut up
Q. Story: i really like this girl and she knows it because i have told her, shes not really the popular type she is more the date every cute boy i can and i was thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend and deal with the embarresment from all the ...
A. 10 January 2010: First how old r u. If u like this girl ask her out who cares what people say. If u live ur life careing what people think u will never be happy. Do what u want. Don't live ur life for others. ... (read in full...)
Why do I do things with him and then feel weird afterwards?
Q. When we hang out and mess around why do i feel wierd after and wish i had not done some of the things but when im in the moment i don't care at all...sometimes i wish we never even kissed..but we do so much more and its bothering me more and more ...
A. 9 January 2010: Ok one reason u r feeling this way is because u r to young to be doing it. U r regretting it. Tell him u would like to slow down. U guys r young u have ur whole life to do this stuff. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a slut but like our dirty conversations... Help!
Q. Im in a bit of a sticky situation here and I need as much help as I can. There is this boy.. and he joined my school about 1-2 months ago... me and my friend became really close to him as he made us laugh so much. We found out he smoked weed and...
A. 9 January 2010: Sorry to tell u but u can't change a guy. I also hate to tell u but that pic u sent him every one will see it. He may not show it now but for some reason if u two should get into a argument he will show all the guys. Never send anyone a naked pic ... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to come out because my family wont understand, is there a way to make me straight again?
Q. hi Anne, i am 20 years old now and have been very confused with my sexuality.hope you can help me out. well my story goes this way... i was about 7 maybe when i had my first physical relationship with another guy. i was kind of feminine and als...
A. 5 January 2010: I'm sorry to tell u but there is no way to turn u striaght. If u tell them then your life may be easyer. Yeah it may be hard for your family at first but they love u. ... (read in full...)
Going so well, and then he wants to cool things. What's going on?
Q. I met this guy and we have had three dates, on the third date he cooked me dinner and did everything to try to impress me, after dinner we sat on the couch and talked, getting to know each other more, things were going great, I was really enjoying ...
A. 4 January 2010: Wow. It sounds like he is confused. Give him a few more days and if he is still acting like this then it may be he was after one thing and since he didn't get it then he may want to move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm using alcohol to cope with my girlfriend's death, can anyone help me?
Q. hi there. im really in some trouble here. I recently posted on here about my ex girlfriend who died three years ago. im really starting to have some trouble. she appears in my dreams more frequently now more than ever. I've been reverting to the ...
A. 4 January 2010: Oh my u poor guy. I no u said u don't want to face this sober but it is going to be the only thing u can do if u aren't going to get help. It will be really hard, but u need to do it. Drinking is covering up the feelings that need to come out. U ... (read in full...)
Is my only option to break up with her? I don't feel I should be responsible for taking care of her and paying for all her bills!
Q. Dear cupid, My girlfriend and I have been dating since april of 09. She is 19 and I am 20. It was love at first sight when we met, but in ther last couple months I haven't been happy at all. You see, her parents are kicking her out in february ...
A. 2 January 2010: The question u need to be asking your self is do u love her can u see ur self with her when ur 80 yrs old. If not break it off now. ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by stopping my daughter from masturbating?
Q. My eleven year old girl has been masturbating lately. Last year for her birthday i bought her this toy dog that when you pull the tail it vibrates. Four days ago i peeked into her room and saw her repeatedly pulling the tail and she had it on her ...
A. 2 January 2010: Ok I no this is hard for u to deal with but she is going to do it. Just have the talk with her. I no she is young but she needs to no. My mom didn't really have the talk with me and I had sex early in life. I wish I wouldn't have. I no u don't want ... (read in full...)
We argue about everything and he always blames me for starting them! What should I do?
Q. I have been in an relationship for 1 1/2 years we now have a 2 month old baby and he lives with me and my 12 year old son. We argue about everything.... no matter what is! We are good together financially seems everything else is a problem. He ...
A. 2 January 2010: I no the feeling. My husband is the same why. He is perfect and I do every thing wrong. Try setting him down and talk about it. It may work. We have been together for 8 yrs. I have had to have this talk with him a lot lately but it seems to be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that my ex raped me, which would explain why I am struggling to have sex with him?
Q. About 2 years ago, my bf at the time (now ex bf) raped me. We broke up a few days later. It was a pretty traumatic experience for me. I tried so hard to stop him but I just couldnt. I tried fighting him off me, but he had me in a pinned down ...
A. 2 January 2010: Yes I would. If he loves u he will understand and he can help u though it. ... (read in full...)
Was he avoiding me?
Q. Ok so I was acting childish about this guy, I admit it. So I decided to take all the confidence I could muster up and be an adult so I gave him my phone number and even asked him if he would like to go to a New Year Party and meet some new people. ...
A. 2 January 2010: Just be ur self. Act like nothing happened. If he wants u he will come to u. Let him make the first move from here on out. ... (read in full...)
Do girls like friends that just listen?
Q. I really like my friend, but don't have the courage to ask her out, so do girls like having friends that just listen? Or do you prefer boyfriends?...
A. 2 January 2010: Ok the first answer u got is such bull sh##. Girls little both. We like it when a man listens. The best relationships I have ever had was when we were friend first. ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me? Does he love me or not?
Q. Hi all so the guy im seeing told me he loves me but is not in love.But then he said he used to think he was in love with me.He also said he has deep feelings for me.What is he saying?...
A. 2 January 2010: It sounds like he is confused. It also sounds like he likes u a lot but is afraid of comentment. I don't no how old he is but he is like almost all men it is hard for them to share there feeling. If he is young he doesn't no what he wants yet. If u ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he kiss me after our first date?
Q. I just went out on a first date with a guy I met last week. I was so excited to see him because we had a great conversation and he is very nice and attractive. I had a great time on our date and I would really like to see him again, but I'm afraid ...
A. 2 January 2010: He may just be shy. If on ur 2 date he doesn't kiss u. U kiss him cause if he is shy he may not kiss u... (read in full...)
A sex sore?
Q. My boyfriend and i are sexual active regularly. Two days ago, he developed a sore, red and bumpy rash on the head of his penis, but nowhere else on his penis. it is apparantly sore to touch, its got worse in the past two days- i suggested it was ...
A. 1 January 2010: U may want to be checked. U never no what's up in there. U can't see in there. So to be safe I would get ur self checked out. And tell him to also. ... (read in full...)
G/f laughed when I told her the size of my penis
Q. I'm 14 and I am with my gf for 2 yrs now. We love each other and O don't think we are going to stop anytime soon. She asked for my penis size wen erected one day so i actually measured it and I got somewhere around 3.7 inches. I told her and well ...
A. 1 January 2010: Oh don't feel bad it will get bigger. If she is the same age. That is all she can handle anyway. ... (read in full...)
I want to encurage my g/f to lose weight!
Q. Hello, I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years. We both grew heavier than we used to be. This year I was able to lose the weight I'd gained by changing my diet. I would like my girlfriend to lose weight and get back into the shape she used...
A. 31 December 2009: She can do it. It is so get u suport her the way u do. My husband and I starting the gym thing to. If u do it together it is great. U can also tell her losing the wieght would be good for her health. Tell her u want to grow old with her. And ur ... (read in full...)
Sticky itchy clear dischage?
Q. I need help ive been having this sticky itchy clear discharge for a few weeks now ..... I dont have insurance to go to the doctor but my boyfriend wants to have sex. Does anyone know whats wrong with me or what i can do about the situation..... ...
A. 31 December 2009: Sounds like u may have a yeast infection. ... (read in full...)
After 10 years should I contact him and try to get closure?
Q. Bare with me this a long one. I met this man (DB) when I was 15, I am now 29. He was my teacher my sophomore year in high school. There was a ton of chemistry between us but we never acted on it besides lots of flirting, occasional hugs, and ...
A. 31 December 2009: Hi. I kinda no how u feel. I was married to a great guy. I cheated on him. I don't no y I did it. It broke up our marriage. He was my soulmate and I miss him almost every day. I'm married again now and I love my husband but I can't get my first ... (read in full...)
Tightness causing pain
Q. hi does anyone have any advice. been with girlfriend for 3 years but she has an extremely tight vagina and it causes pain on entrance during sex. it is also hard for me to get it in and im only a normal average sized guy. she went docters and he s...
A. 30 December 2009: Tell her lube will make it better for her and u. Ask her just to try it one time. She will like it trust me. It will make it so much better. ... (read in full...)
Attracted to a straight man, I am bi sexual, what should I do?
Q. If you have an attraction towards a straight man but he is unaware that you are a bi sexual, what do you do?.... i have a real close friend that i do a lot with ( getting girls, playing sports etc.) but i'm attracted to him more than i think im ...
A. 30 December 2009: Well if I was u I wouldn't say any thing. For 2 reasons 1.it will make ur friend think different. I had 2 of my friends that where bi hit on me and it freaked me out. I was still friends with them but it wasn't the same after they hit on me. 2. Men ... (read in full...)
Embarassed by drunken friend in front of my date! Will he want to meet up again?
Q. I had a date tonight w/ this guy but had canceled before.So despite the fact I had a killer migraine tonight - We got together (i didnt want to cancel again n come off as a flake).I had an obligation to be a des. driver for a friend later in the ...
A. 30 December 2009: Ok claim down. I'm sure ur friend didn't bother him cause his friends have acted the same. Men act like that to when they r drunk so I'm sure he has seen his friends like that. So he is trueful it is ok ur friend was like that. He want to see u not ... (read in full...)
Is he just not confessing his whereabouts?
Q. Hi all im in a bit of a situation here any advice is taking on board.... Im 24 been with my fiance for 5 years we have 2 sons together the realationship has had its ups and downs as everyones's does. My fiance went to the shops today at like ...
A. 29 December 2009: If I was u I would find a babysitter and go find him. I'm really not sure how long he has been gone since I really don't no what time it is there now. So if it has been a long time I would go find him. ... (read in full...)
All he thinks about is sex, sex, sex!
Q. hi, I'm having a problem with my boyfriend.I am nearly 26 and this is the first time to fall in love, we are having some problems the first and important one is in the way we think, all he thinks of is sex and I don't think of it that much. He lived...
A. 29 December 2009: Ok I hate to tell u that is all men think about. My husband always is thinking about it. I can't walk by him with out him grabing some part of my body. That's a man for u. But ur man flirrting with other women in front of u could be one of two ... (read in full...)
Married for less than a month then she want me no more
Q. helo good people. im a traditionally married for less than a year to a lady who had sex more times than i did and she also had a big penis penetrating in her b4 me. her pussy is big for my penis and her pussy is very wet and sometimes it stinks v...
A. 29 December 2009: I no u love her. But u need to move on. She sounds like she is not the girl for u. Find some one that treats u the way u should be treated. ... (read in full...)
Am I living in a little world of my own? I want to have a baby...
Q. Hey Cupid, I just need some advice. I will put the picture together for you.. Im 20 years old and am from and living in the UK. My boyfriend who i have been with for just over a year, is in the US Navy and living in california with work. We fly to s...
A. 29 December 2009: Ok. U r 20 u need to wait. Trust me. I had a baby at 25 I wish I would have waited. I love my little girl more then any thing and could not imagine life with out her but haveing kids is very hard work. U lose a lot of sleep. U don't matter any more ... (read in full...)
How long goes it take?
Q. What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...
A. 28 December 2009: Ok I read some of the anwsers u where getting and it seems no one seen u are a female. So I will try an help u. When I was younger I never orgasam during sex. Only foreplay. When I got older and was with men who cared about pleasing me that's when I ... (read in full...)
Which protection is safer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. I've decided i want to loose my virginity to him. when we started talking about what protection we would use we had an issue. for my first time i want a guy to cum inside me, but of course i ...
A. 28 December 2009: Condom and the pill. Why do you want him to cum in you? You won't feel him doing it. So be safe let him do it outside of you. ... (read in full...)
What's the safest way to cum inside my girlfriend without getting her pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend really wants me to cum inside her, while yes this sounds very hot, Im at the same time very apprehensive to do it because i'm not ready for a kid, she said she is going to get on the pill so we'll wait 7 days before we have sex, but my ...
A. 28 December 2009: There is no safe way. The pill take 30 days to go in effect. And still there is a chase she can get pregnant. So if ur not ready for a baby I wouldn't do it. But if u must and u want to take a chase. Wait 30 days. And use a condom. ... (read in full...)
Secret shopper?
Q. Hi.I was wondering if any of you have heard of a job called secret shopper ?. Is it a genuine job ?. It sounds very interesting but I want to make sure that it's genuine. Has anyone here ever done that kind of work, or known anyone who has done it ...
A. 28 December 2009: Yes I have done it before. It is a cool job. I really liked it. ... (read in full...)
I think I've desensetized my penis due to masturbating, if I stop this will it get better? How can I stop?
Q. Hi there. Im 20 years old and i have been masturbating since i was about 12-13, and problaby 2 a day since i was 15. Now when i was about 17 i started having sex and ever since that time i have had problems ejaculating. Recently this problem has ...
A. 27 December 2009: Ok. The answer is STOP it. If yiu start to feel horny and feel the need,just think of some thing gross or some thing that will help get your mind off of it. It will be hard to do at first. But if you want to get the feeling back you need to do this. ... (read in full...)
She says she is happy with her new relationship, do I keep telling her how I feel?
Q. ok 2 1/2 months ago my gf and i called it quits after 7 years and two kids, we both did a lot of hurtful things to each other verbally and some physically and she said she finally couldnt take it anymore so were done, the thing is i still care for ...
A. 27 December 2009: Wow that's a hard one. It sounds like she wants u when its right for her or when she is lonely. But now she has found some one else. She doesn't want u. I no girls like that. It will drive u crazy. Try and move on if u can. I no it hurts right now ... (read in full...)
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