Going so well, and then he wants to cool things. What's going on?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I met this guy and we have had three dates, on the third date he cooked me dinner and did everything to try to impress me, after dinner we sat on the couch and talked, getting to know each other more, things were going great, I was really enjoying being with him, we had already kissed on the second date, and on the third as well, but on the third date he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes I would be. I was so happy, never been happier. Later in the night, he asked if I would like to go lay down in his bed and watch TV, I was kinda hesitant, cause I already told him I would not sleep with him yet, but I said yes, so we went and laid down in his bed and just held each other and kissed a lot while watching TV, the kissing did get a little heated and very passionate and we did some petting but we did not have sex, and he tells me he is really happy and hasn't been this happy in a long time. Well when I left that night we hugged each other and kissed each other passionately goodnight. The next day we were supposed to get together after he got off work, but he had to take his disabled father to the Doctor, so I was ok with that, cause if it was me I would have done the same thing, then the next day, I really hadn't heard much from him, except for in the morning, but then came the evening and I had not heard from him, so I sent him a email but he didn't email back, so I decided to go by his place, so I did, he was home, and he said he was glad I stopped by, cause there was something he wanted to talk to me about, and that's when he said he had been thinking about the other night and feels like things were going a little too fast, and thinks we should slow down a little, he says he definitely wants to continue seeing me and dating me and that he doesn't want to be alone, but wants to take it slow, and because he needs to sort out his feelings. Now he is the one who asked me to be his girlfriend, but now wants to slow things down and date. This is really the first time a man has ever asked me to be his girlfriend in years, so I am confused. What does he really mean? I sent him a text two nights ago asking him, if he honestly missed me or missed kissing me and he sent a text back saying that he honestly did, and that like he said he needs to sort out his feelings. Help, what does he mean, by when he says he needs to sort out his feelings, and that he really wants to continue seeing me and dating me?

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