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writes:I really like my friend, but don't have the courage to ask her out, so do girls like having friends that just listen? Or do you prefer boyfriends? Reply to this Question
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reader, innerfire  +, writes (3 January 2010):
Basically everyone has given you bad advice. Girls say they want a guy to listen. Of course they do, and there's nothing wrong with that. The question is whether that's really the role you want to be playing.
The guy's a little closer to target, but that's a pretty demeaning way to look at women. He is right in that you need to be confident and maybe a touch aggressive.
The first step is determining whether she's trying to give you all the signals and you're just oblivious. Does she go out of her way for you? Does she invite you into her room and close the door? Does she always seem a little more dressed up for you? If so, man up and just kiss her! (this is coming from my own high school regrets lol)
But if she's NOT giving you a bunch of signals, my advice is NOT to try to become more than friends with her. Many girls will be weirded out, because they thought you just wanted to be friends (see female responses). You got friend-zoned.
There is nothing wrong with being friends with a girl. But if you want a girlfriend, you have to go and get one instead of fantasizing about this girl. Next time with a girl, just be upfront that you like her. Compliment what she's wearing and tell her she's pretty. Ask if she wants to do something with you alone. That way she can decide whether she likes you that way in the beginning, instead of putting her in an awkward situation where she may be putting a friendship on the line.
The girl you like now, stay friends with her. It will look good to other girls, and she can give you some good advice. But don't treat her as anything more than a friend with your time, attention, or thoughts. The best part is that the best way to turn a girl who just likes you only as a friend into more is a little jealousy. I'm not saying you should do that intentionally, or that it will necessarily happen, but her seeing you lavish some attention on another girl might make her see you in more of a 'romantic partner' light.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Male friends who just listen are great. In a way it's better than having girls listening as it gives you a different prospective. Just be her friend and if you're right for each other it'll develop into something more. You can't have too many friends.
Hope I helped. X
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reader, pril +, writes (2 January 2010):
Ok the first answer u got is such bull sh##. Girls little both. We like it when a man listens. The best relationships I have ever had was when we were friend first.
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