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writes:Ok so I was acting childish about this guy, I admit it. So I decided to take all the confidence I could muster up and be an adult so I gave him my phone number and even asked him if he would like to go to a New Year Party and meet some new people. He smiled and said well I'm really flattered but no, not really, I probably will walk to the corner with my brother and have a few beers close to home, New Years isn't a big thing to me. I then asked him if he is a man of his word and would ever call me in a jokingly type voice and thats when he gives me this pathetic story about how he's been sorta seeing someone who gets along just fine not seeing each other but every few weeks or so and don't talk sometimes for about 5 days. Well It wasn't like I was asking for any further explanation or a lifetime commitment from him but he made me feel like he thought I wanted to attach myself to him just because I gave him my number and asked him to a party. Did I do the wrong thing? This guy has been coming on to me and showering me with attention for the past two months now! I really felt that we were becoming friendly with each other especially after the christmas card exchange in which we practically wrote the same messages inside. I wonder if he really is seeing anyone or if it was a lie. I've never heard him mention anyone in his life, he always makes it a point to say he is alone every day and on thanksgiving he made sure I knew he was alone all day and it was boring so he just caught up on his sleep and went hunting the next day. He always says "I'm a single cat you know" well whatever it did hurt when he said that and I only replied "Awww Thats too bad, well maybe another time then" which I didn't think was too bad of an answer plus I made sure I was smiling and not upset but inside I was. I'm not upset about it too much today though as I ended up having a great time at this party even though I was rejected. But now because we work somewhat around each other and do run into each other about 10 times per week I really hope it doesn't become awkward between us. Is it possible to try and get back that attention and flirting thing we had before? Also after I gave the phone number and asked him out, I saw nothing of him at all the next day. Do you think he was avoidng me? How can I make this situation not feel awkward now when I do see him? I probably will just act the same way I always do as this probably would be the best thing, just acting myself. the way I did since the beginning of all this.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 January 2010):
 I'm guessing he was trying to let you down easy. Specially with that whole long story about calling people.
No need to be embarrassed, you made the first move, if he is interested the ball is in his court. I just wouldn't wait around for him to bounce it back, I would look elsewhere.
Next time you see him act normal. Be polite and keep it short - it will make it easier.
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reader, pril +, writes (2 January 2010):
Just be ur self. Act like nothing happened. If he wants u he will come to u. Let him make the first move from here on out.
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