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writes:Im in a bit of a sticky situation here and I need as much help as I can.There is this boy.. and he joined my school about 1-2 months ago... me and my friend became really close to him as he made us laugh so much. We found out he smoked weed and had had sex but it didnt really affect our friendship with him. Lately, We have been talking on the phone and our conversations are amazing... I suppose sometimes he is playing his game console but I don't really mind. The other night.. I gave him a picture of me topless which wasn't really a problem for me because i didnt mind doing it. Its only like being in a bikini on the beach isnt it?! :L I was speaking to him on the phone last night and the conversation was a lot dirtier that usual to be honest. I do like him quite a lot but im just scared he will take advantage. I said to him.. If you don't smoke weed tomorrow as you have been off it for ages, I will give you another picture. I feel I am changing him and I do enjoy or dirty conversations.. I just don't want to be the Slut in our school :( Please help? I enjoy the conversations we have.. and I do know how to say NO when I dont want to do things. So, My heart is saying 'Change him.' He said he gives in to peer pressure and as I dont.. I could change that around for him. :) Please please help x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI DIDNT SEND HIM THE PICTURE.. i put it as my d.p on IM. he cant show anyone x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): oh honey, the aunts are right. And no, topless pics are not the same as pictures of you in a bikini on the beach. And you know it. If you really thought so why didnt you send one of you in your bikini? I bet he wouldve asked for one without. He is playing you like a violin. You are no match for him at this game. Please be more careful. He has already changed you more than youve changed him. Mal
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reader, pril  +, writes (9 January 2010):
Sorry to tell u but u can't change a guy. I also hate to tell u but that pic u sent him every one will see it. He may not show it now but for some reason if u two should get into a argument he will show all the guys. Never send anyone a naked pic unless u don't care every one sees it. boys at that age r after one thing. He will make u believe u are changing him just to get what he wants. be careful.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 If you want to/ are going to show him your body, do it in person and let him commit it to memory. Don't immortilize it in a picture that he can pass around to others. He might be able to tell people about it, but he wont be able to show them.
However, since you are scared he will take advantage of you (which btw contradicts your assertion that you say no when you dont want to do something and dont give in to peer pressure)then don't lead him on with your talk and pics for starters.
You do realize tho don't you, that for someone who does not want to be taken advantage of, you are handing him the means by which to hold some sway over you every time you give him a pic that you then have to trust him with and not piss him off enough to do anything with.You are also giving him the means by which to get yourself labelled as the slut you don't want to be called.
Not saying you ARE a slut, but I bet a lot of people at school would if the pics got out. So lets just hope that he does not give in to peer pressure to be 'one of the boys' and shares your pics to make himself look like the 'big man' amongst them.
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