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writes:I've been really hurt. I had to split up with my first proper boyfriend 2 days ago. We were together for a year and had all our 'firsts' together. During the last month of our relationship, he had started be really rude to me, saying stuff like 'I'm not sure i love you any more.. but I'll think about it and tell you in a few weeks' and stuff like 'I'm not sure i want to talk to you this week' etc. This really hurt me, but i thought it was best to be strong and end it. He knows how much i love him, and i sent him a text asking him whether he was ok, he replied with an email, saying 'of course I'm not ok!' Which i suppose means hes upset too. I really care about him, but he was just being a tad immature for me etc. What can i do the mend this horrible, intense pain i feel for him. I've never had this awful feeling before. I'm not eating or sleeping and i have exams really soon which i think I'm going to fail as a result.
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reader, cuttieicy  +, writes (3 June 2007):
 I too going to take exam in nursing board my friends advice never have boyfriends during studying it will ruined your life trust me there many men out there dont in a hurry.
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (26 May 2007):
I guess you are about to do your GCSE's or A'Levels...if it is the latter, don't fuck up like me. I bombed out 3 months before my exams, didn't work despite being told to stay at home and not go out by my parents, I screwed up big style, went through clearing because I got shit grades and ended up on a degree course I hated and only spent 4 months in the course.
I am now 33 and regret not getting a degree, especially in N. America, seems to be a huge deal here. I let a boyfriend completely fuck up my routine, committment etc while I should have been studying. Nearly 16 years on I still talk to him but he has a degree and a great job, I can't get a great job with even the consideration of who I am, any hope of the great salary that I would like. But I like who I am as a mother and a friend, even penniless.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 I know it seems important, but you need to concentrate on your future at the moment. Boyfriends come and go, but exams are a lasting impression on success.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 You are the most important person in this right now. It sounds to me as if your boyfriend is being very immature and choosing to treat you like this with exams looming, is extremely uncaring of him.
Personally I would put your relationship with him on hold for the moment. It's distracting you and making you miserable. Why not decide that you just won't tackle it until after the exams? It's also possible he's acting like this because of exam stress. I've known two couples where this happened. Neither of them realised how stressed the other was and everything fell apart, but after exams they sorted things out. I'm not saying this will definitely happen, but it might be a possibility.
Instead of thinking about him, think about yourself. Concentrate on what you want out of life in the longterm. Do you want this guy to ruin your life choices and opportunities? Of course you don't. You did the right thing to end it for the timebeing, but use that time for yourself now, otherwise you'll always regret it.
Why not text him and say that you would like to get together for a proper talk after the exams and see how you both feel then? Then forget him for a few weeks and think about yourself instead.
I know it's hard, but you can do it. Good luck with it all!
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reader, love-him +, writes (25 May 2007):
 babe the way he has treatd you is appauling! saying he will tell you in a weeks time! what you need is a lad who will treat you so much better! whilst doing your exams, DON'T think about him, think about other things which cheer you up and make you feel better! think more positive, he didn't deserve you at all! as for sleeping, maybe do some exercise before going to bed (this tires you out) it worked for me =] cheer up and try not to think about him. he is NOT worth it. mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, Alex_heart +, writes (25 May 2007):
Unfortunatly it seems that your ex has a hold over you, and he knows it, your relationship ended for a reason so try remember that there are more important things to your life then an old relationship, exams are very important and could lead you anyway you want to go so spend your time thinking of them, delete your exes number and break contact, although it will be hard think about the benefits of succeeding in school.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 you've got 2 options either discuss with him why did you break up with him or, forget him. obviously the secound solution is not the best thing for you. so why don't you phone him and ask him why did he suddenly change and why couldn't he wait at least after you finish your exams and think about what he's gonna saybut if he was not corresponding the right way, then your better off with out him good luck
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