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writes:Hi, I ve been having really bad mood swings of late i dont now y that is or maybe i do. I am married and i am a long way from home i dont have any friends jsut my husband and his family. i spend alot of my time at home all alone as my husband is always at work we dont spend any quality time together. I have no friends, even if i did i wouldnt have time to spend with them due to work. My life revolves around work its very difficult for me as one needs to have a girlfriend to confide in and hang out with. I miss my home country so much its unbearable, I never thought i would feel this way but i do. I sometimes feel like i bore people maybe thats y i havent got friends i ve been so depressed and even wish sometime that i never left home, im 24 and been married for 2yrs came to the Uk at the age of 20. i miss my friends and most of all my fam. its jsut so different here i no people have to go through various changes in life but my husband has changed so much and he is work orientated, it drive me mad and to top it off he never lets me go out at all, how am i gonna meet people if i dont i feel traped, clautraphobic every thing u name it. I hate being without friends i was so bubby before but now its like i am always angry with at the world and i HATE it so much i just want to be me again. does this make sense. I am jsut to depressed i cry my self to sleep every night and when i wake up and my husband is not there, no one in fact is not there i cry, all i seem to do is cry and cry. sorry if this is long i really am sorry. thanks in advance :-(
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reader, lisab1985 +, writes (28 July 2010):
hi there well i am in the same situation as you i moved to an island with my partner of 10years i also have a 10mth old little boy and my family and freinds are hundreds of miles away i rarley see anybody and feels so isolated,trapped ,claustophobic . i suffer anxiety and panic attacks and i hate it soo much i wanna make freinds to so im gonna start a college and study maybe meet new people also i wanna bit of me time as i never get any .. i suggest we should be freinds .i m lisa and im 25 .. i live in scotland .. i hope ur ok x
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reader, truefriend  +, writes (4 May 2009):
I am in da same situation,i am so strssed out.Where i am i dont no any1,no friends,no relatives.I feel trapped.But what i suggest 2 you,is be strong.Things will change is u want it 2.At least talk 2 your husband.THEN work things out 2gether.
GOOD LUCK!
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (6 June 2007):
Hi there, Where are you from? I know what it is like to move away and be in another country. Tell me where you are from and we can exchange stories. I know exctactly how you feel, I've been there and know what you are going through. XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): You need to make some changes FAST. Your mood swings are only going to get worse if you don't take action. You've made alot of changes recently, all of which are in the high stress category. You feel isolated in your new surroundings, trapped, alienated from your old life and who you used to be. If you work, get to know some of the women in your office or building. Set up lunch dates with them and get to know them. Alot of great friendships are borne out of the commonthread of the work place. If you work at home, take an hour each day and get out of the house; take a walk in your neighborhood. Get acquainted with the folks who live around there. Go to a nearby coffee shop. Make friends with the girl who works at the counter. Visit the public library and introduce yourself to a few people. Tell them you're new in town and would like to know where you and your husband can meet new people. It might be at a book club, it might be a poetry reading, it could be a pub in your neighborhood that will enable you to meet new people and friendships will follow. Encourage your husband to invite one of his co-workers over for dinner (along with his wife or girlfriend) and perhaps you will make friends with a new couple. That will enable you to have someone to go to movies with etc. It's hard to make new friends after being uprooted from your normal surroundings, but just start slowly and build from there. The key is to introduce yourself to as many people as you can and get out there! I wish you the best.
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reader, Ms_Iwal  +, writes (5 June 2007):
You seem to be hurt and angry at your husband for the choices hes made its time to grab hold of your life and start making decisions for yourself. Tell your husband your not happy the key to a good relationship is honesty and openess. If you join a gym, or any type of class you will meet new people and make new friends. Think about how you want to live your life and make the choices to make you a happier person.
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