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writes:I suffer from depression and sometimes have episodes where i get violent with others and i even hurt myself sometimes. I am a very emotionally weak person and the people around me try to help but I do things to keep them away. Even if it takes for me to make them angry just so they would stop pressuring me to talk about my emotions I would do it. I don't want to end up friendless should I try to make my friends just accept this because I don't know how to change?
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reader, Cheekers89 +, writes (4 September 2009):
I'm also sorry for your depression. I'm twenty years old, and I have depression as well. I don't like being pressured into talking about my emotions either, so I know where you are coming from. I never once, in my life, thought I was depressed. My parents got me help, a counsellor, and medicine. I feel so much better then I've ever felt in my life. I use to cry constantly, feel worthless, and lost of interest. I pushed everyone of my friends away. As I look back, it was a horrible time. I wasn't aware of how I treated people. How I got irritated, and angry so easily. It's hard to change. But I promise you, it is worth it. I use to feel guilty, and ashamed of being depressed. I always thought, no one can make you depressed, that it was a state of mind. But it's a real issue. It is so hard to overcome, I wouldn't suggest you going at it alone. Find you a friend, or family member, that'll be there for you. That'd go to counselling with you, and be there to help you struggle through your hard times. I wish you the best. I believe you can overcome your depression. If you ever need anyone to talk to, that's been there, I'm here. Just message me. Keep your head up, that's a good way to start. Don't let yourself get down, it only hurts more.
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (4 September 2009):
 On a note that doesn't have to do with medications- I'm a person who believes that the only person who controls you, is you. You push people away. Why. Because you don't want to hurt them? The beauty is, nobody is perfect. You have confliction on the inside, that much is clear. What I recommend is simply- talk to your friends. Sometimes you have to drop everything and let someone have it. Spill everything, all your emotions, everything you feel and let it out of you.The trick is, is to find someone who won't just be like 'wow I can't handle you.' That's bad, forget those people. Find someone who has a big heart, who wants to hear your problems and help you. It feels sooo nice, to give everything to someone, and let them take it all in, smile, hug you and tell you it's okay. Communication is a human need, newborn infants will not survive if they don't have human contact for 2 weeks or so. So don't let yourself push your friends away. If they want you to talk is because they care, and worry about you. So let them have it, and keep hope. Keep hope.
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reader, xpixie_dolliex  +, writes (4 September 2009):
 I know exactly how you feel, I've been through very similar things to this before.
The people around you fear for your safety and want to help you even if it seems hard to believe. I know it's hard to speak about your emotions when they're so complicated deep inside of you but sometimes talking is the best thing to do, even if it's slowly, step by step.
I think you should make an appointment to see if you're diagnosed with any disorders - you don't want to leave it too late.
I'm extremely sorry for what you're going through at the moment and I really hope you get through this. Let me know how things work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): No, you can't make people accept you, you can ask that they forgive you for your actions and hope that they do, but more concerning is that you don't sound very happy.
I know you say you have depression, but it could be more than that. You might have Bipolar disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder, and having the right medications to treat these things is very important. The wrong medicine can make your symptoms worse.
Have you been tested or diagnosed with either of these illnesses? If you haven't make an appointment with a Psychiatrist and be evaluated. There is treatment and there is hope for you. You can learn better ways to cope with your feelings and your stress.
I hope you will take my advice and get some professional help....by doing so that tells me that you are a strong person.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 I am so sorry about your depression. It is an issue that so many people suffer with today. Its one of the most common illnesses.
Have you tried different anti-depressants? I know it sounds like an obvious question but usually after a few trials, one might work for you.
Has this been a chronic thing, or is it something that shows up in acute phases?
I know a lot of people that go through this, and it is treatable.
If your friends know what's going on, they will understand. Those that truly care for you will not let occasional episodes stand in the way of their friendship towards you.
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