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writes:I met this girl a year ago, things didn't work out via pointless drama since then, and she moved away for school. (She was moving away anyway) As we were friends before and decided to continue being friends we kept tabs on each other occasionally. A year later she comes back from school, returning to hometown to finish schooling and such. We start hanging out again. Hitting it off better than before, and now getting closer faster because of the absence of the drama, we make some progress. We finally kiss each other and I'm the happiest guy in the world for a day. Two days later she wants to talk- and she tells me that because of the engagement she was in about a month prior (I knew about it, the guy was pretty fail so I thought she was over it), she feels she isn't ready for a relationship yet even though she really likes me. I've known her for a long time, and I've known people who play others, and she isn't the type to mess around with someone's feelings like that. I really like this girl, and I know she likes me, but I just don't know if I should wait- if so how long? How do I maintain status without dropping out of her life? I don't want to be a jerk, but I don't want to just become a friend to her either.Any advice on this will be heard, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (9 March 2011):
Omegahero09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question That's my predicament.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (9 March 2011):
If waiting is not possible for you and you won't leave her. You have one option left only, so you have to keep trying to date her. The problem here is she already told you to wait.
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (8 March 2011):
Omegahero09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha, no she isn't my first, but thanks for clarifying anyway ^^ We both are at a point where we are tired of people's games, drama, players etc. So before we started to get closer again, we were both on the same page from the get-go and the ideal person we'd like to date and spend tons of time with we found in each other. So it doesn't feel right to dump my feelings for her, or put them on the shelf I suppose I could say. It goes against the heart, which is odd for me. How would I go about coming back after a couple months if at all? I can't even begin to think about how to approach that
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (8 March 2011):
If she has left her ex-boyfriend just a month ago, waiting a couple of months is a good idea in order to make your future relationship work. Which I guess is a good sign for you. If she starts dating you right now you may end up being used.
In the meantime I would recommend that you don't stop your life. Specially if she's the first girl you kissed. (You didn't mention that, but just in case). You have to go on because there is a chance that, after you wait for her, she end up meeting another guy. So, to make things fair, you better keep meeting new people. If this girl comes back to you and you are single, then you two can start trying without regret.
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