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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2yrs and in that time his best friend who is a boy calls him upto 10 times a day, whether he's at work with me, anytime even at night he calls him. Its really annoying, am i over reacting ?
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reader, natasia +, writes (12 September 2009):
 some men have these kind of relationships with their 'best mate'. yes, it's annoying, invasive and jealousy-inducing, but you can't do anything about it. if you say anythig he'll get defensive and probably, i'm afraid to say, his mate is his most important friend ... i don't know why this is, but it is a definite syndrome. just have to put up with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): hmmmm, that's a tough one. I would think that its ok.. especially if they are best friends. I speak to my gf at least 10 times a day. But, when i am with my bf I limit the calls coming and going. I do this cause A-he absolutely hates her/ hates that I take away from our time to "gossip" with her. B-he is right that when we are together that is suppose to be us... not you get on the phone and talk with someone else.. also i would not like it if he were to do it to me all the time, let alone 2yrs worth.
So might I suggest just sitting with him and talking about it? If you are living with him it might make things more difficult. I doubt if it would go over well if you were to say hey I hate him calling all the time.. but maybe if you guys set apart a time thats just you. such as at night when you guys are home together?
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reader, Abbiijade +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Ok, this is really strange..
I know girls can be like this, because we turn to our friends when we have a problem.
Talk to your bf about this,
maybe your bf's mate is going thru a tough tym and just realy needs someone there.
there's no point trying to guess whats happening love,
you'll make it worse for yourself and half the time it's really nothing.
Talk to him.
It's hard because you dont want to cause tension.
but seriously love,
stop.
and talk to him
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reader, Omegahero09  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Hahaha no, that just sounds really irritating. Is he talking with his friend, and neglecting you? Or is he like 'omg not this bloke again' You aren't overreacting, if someone is calling him that much, then wow. Dumb lol you're fine love.-Hero
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