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writes:My girlfriend has recently lost an interest or 'need' I guess you could say in intimacy. When asked about it, and I spoke with her about it, she said it was because the last time we fooled around we went too far. (Keep in mind we are both still virgins.) I can understand that by going too far you will not want to 'do it' again, but its been 3 weeks and the lack of a deep meaningful kiss or more intimate cuddling is starting to go to my head. Some kind words would be greatly appreciated. Please help me out, I am new to the site. Reply to this Question
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (17 August 2009):
Omegahero09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've figured it out. She felt I was being too selfish in what I wanted and felt (which was totally true). So I've adjusted and everything is sliping back to what it was before. Thank you very much, it's all good now ^^
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (10 August 2009):
Omegahero09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, it should help I think. When a time comes around again we'll see. She's one of those 'proud to be an independent woman' types, so I'm willing to bet it will take that much longer I dunno
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (10 August 2009):
 So you crossed her line of comfort, if so apologise to her and tell her she can stop you whenever she doesn't like something or she says 'no' to you. If you haven't listened to her in the past when she said 'no', this is why she is so defensive now. Otherwise, she may still be unsure how further she wants to go and is probably waiting for the relationship to become more meaningful before engaging in any sexual activity. Go at her pace and be reassuring. You can as well rediscuss the limits in intimacy so you know what to expect and how far to... adventure. You might have to stick to kissing and hugging for a long while yet. I will redirect you to a brilliant article written by one of the aunts here, although this may not apply soon in your case in practice, but it makes a good reading: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/advice-to-young-men-about-young-women.html
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