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writes:I am 20 years old and am always getting lots of random guys smile at me and even say hi when I just walk past them. This could happen at lots of places whether it be at work, uni, the shops, supermarket, cafe, beach etc...The thing is though I am a really shy/quiet person and dont have the confidence to stop and talk, rather then just smile and keep walking like I usualy do. Id like to be able to actually talk to them, because who knows what it could turn into. But I just wouldnt have a clue what to do and I'm not that confident. Any tips?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): Talk to him like you've known him forever.Pretend that he is your best friend.Just act normal... Good luck!
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reader, Omegahero09  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 The best thing you got going for you- is that guys are actually interacting with you. Which is great because most people don't have the courage to talk to guys or don't believe in themselves enough to justify talking to them.But you don't seem to have that problem so that is awesome! As far as talking to guys, just be easy, be yourself- even if that is shy. If you want to start a conversation, just do so naturally. When I want to talk to someone I don't know, but want to get to know, I usually bring up something in the environment that is bugging both of us. It's all about finding where you are comfortable. At the end of the day, be yourself. And don't be afraid of the conversation, because it will all just fall into place for you. Good luck!-Hero
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Sure, First relax. We're all human! And we all can be a bit shy... I am, but most people would never know it, because all they can see is me, out there... not me on the inside.Guys tend to smile (and say 'hi') to girls that seem confident and approachable. Odds are good that on the outside you're projecting this... now it's time to relax and start to practice interacting. Of course it's hard, and you'll feel awkward occasionally, but this really is a case of practice makes perfect. You don't need to stop and start conversations with totally random people on the street. Look for oppurtunities where maybe you can sit and enjoy a coffee and a bit of conversation. You're making no commitment by simply talking to someone, and who know's maybe it will spark something deeper.
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reader, melanie0083 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 when you talk to them, tell yourself that you don't like them and picture yourself talking with one of your friends....that will help you not get nervous...and just be yourself...how else would you find the most compatible guy to you?
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reader, A. Vienna +, writes (15 September 2009):
First of all shy is an attractive quality to some people. :)
What you should do is...if someone smiles at you, smile back and stop walking. Look into a store window, start looking for something like a cell phone in your bag. Look busy and then that will give the other person a chance to approach you.
The best confidence booster is exercise. Google Tips on attracting men. There are so many self-help books geared for you out there! Take baby steps so that you are not overwhelmed.
Hope that this helps you. Austria
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Think about what you just said, a lot of guys smile and say hi to you. Do you know why? Because just by looking at you people can tell you are lovely and friendly. You need to realize talking to people you dont know is easy just as long as you stay confident. Strike up conversation about anything, even talk about whatever place you are at. If you are at a store ask about if they shop often, or a restaurant see what other people like to eat. Just realize people are smiling and being friendly to you so you shoudnlt worry about anything. You could talk to someone and become great friends or even more. Just believe in yourself and get out there.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Hi, next time this happens and you would like to stop and talk, all you have to say is hi, do i know you? and smile. The guy will do the rest of the work. good luck x
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