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writes:So here's the thing. When you make your girlfriend or wife mad, and even after you've talked it out, she still is upset, what's the best way to handle that situation?Being affectionate or lovey is obviously not the way to go, and I know that saying you're sorry too often isn't a good thing to do either. So how do I handle her being upset, but still talking to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 October 2009):
There are a lot of good tips in the posts below. Have you worked through the argument by talking about it at all? She might want to talk about it?
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (2 October 2009):
Omegahero09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, okay. I'm not a piercing kinda guy. Body piercing wise. It just doesn't do it for me, and more often than not it is a turn-off. She went ahead a long time ago and got two surface piercings on her chest, and of course it made me upset. But we got over that and after I saw them I didn't think they were that bad at all and we went along just fine.
Well in conversation in the student union a couple days ago, piercings came up. and she mention to one of my older friends that 'he was anal about piercings, until i got these' and she pointed those out. It shouldn't have bothered me, but it did. I became offended and my mood darkened a bit.
Later that day she asked me what was wrong then and I explained at the time I was stung a little because the way she said it made it seem like she was proud she was able to change my mind, like I was under her thumb and that made her get all puffy. But I had cooled off some 20 minutes after that and was fine and I told her this.
She got offended that I would think something like that, and couldn't believe I felt that way and was put off. After I made it clear that I had gotten over it, and what I thought had only come to mind because I sat there and dwelled on it and overreacted, she still wouldn't have it.
Everything seems to be good now, but I'm still not sure if she feels put off. Thanks for the advice
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Hmmm... I feel for you, my friend. However, it is hard to understand how with so little information.
She's could either be pouting stubbornly, or her feelings are hurt and she needs time to assimilate it and your apology. If you feel like divulging more, like what the argument about, and the circumstances of the arguing, I can help more.
Good luck.
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reader, maryjane88  +, writes (2 October 2009):
I think that you should ask her one more time if she is ok, and if she says yes, take her word for it. Then, just go about your daily life. Move on from the problem. Women admire men whom are busy doing 'their' things. If she is still upset, and is angry that you are not giving her attention for the issue still, say "you said it is fine, we have spoken about this and if we are going to have a loving and healthy relationship, we need to be honest with each other and straight up and learn to move forward and not linger on the negatives" I hope this makes sense :) She'll admire your maturity.
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