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writes: Hi im Zee. And my question is regarding me and my girlfriends relationship. We are both 15 and we've going out for over 2 months. Things have been going great.Untill the pst week. 5 days ago we had our first sexual experience with each other and it was great.It was amazing. But ever since that day she's been really distant from me and i feel like shes ignoring me and doesnt want to be near me. she says nothing is wrong. I asked if she's just scared that she might be pregnant..and that we'll take a test. But she keeps denying that anything is wrong. It even feels weird when she kisses me..like she doesnt really want to do it. what's going on guys...has she lost interest in me..was she unsatisfied with me..with our sexual experience..is she just shocked by the whole thing..or maybe she didnt like my size? i mean im not the biggest guy i know.im 5.5inch hard..i know thats not very big..do you think thats the reason shes acting all wierd?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Don't start assuming that this is about you (or your package!)... odds are really good that she's trying to process something that's not what she expected. She could be feeling guilty, or shame, or shock (lack of fireworks!)...
Communication is vital. But if she won't open up, your SOL.
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (17 September 2009):
 Mmmm. I have seen this sort of thing happen with people so young before. I would argue that she is feeling a little... well... overwhelmed. Or maybe even scared of what she did. At this point, she could be thinking anything 'is he right for me? was what I did okay?' There has got to be so many things running through her mind, poor girl.
So here's what I say for you. Be there for her. Be open and honest and ask her to share what is on her mind, because it's obvious that something is amiss. The last thing you want to do, is be judgemental, or be shallow with her. Don't think too fast, and be ready for anything that comes out of her mouth. Wear your heart on your sleeve and be the best for her.
Good luck! Keep us posted.
-Hero
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): no, its not your size! Crikey, why is that always the first question? To be perfectly honest it probably was a lot better for you than it was for her. Im only guessing...but i was 16 and could hardly walk the next day. Of course i acted like it was great. Its very normal for a girls first time to be painful and unfulfilling. That can be a bit of a letdown from the fireworks we expect. Give her some time...good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): why don't you just say everything you've said on here to her? We don't know, pluck up the courage and ask her! Good luck
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