Boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me about problems because it reminds him of his ex
Q. Hi Aunts, I was talking to my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years about a problem I was having with my Dad. He said he didn't want to talk about it, and it took me a while to work out why. First I thought it was something I had done, but I managed to...
A. 24 December 2011: You guys are seriously the best - thank you so much!
I did talk to him about it, even pretty much word for word used the help you gave me, and it looks like we're on our way to working it out. Thankyou so much YouWish especially for your deta... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me about problems because it reminds him of his ex
Q. Hi Aunts, I was talking to my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years about a problem I was having with my Dad. He said he didn't want to talk about it, and it took me a while to work out why. First I thought it was something I had done, but I managed to...
A. 23 December 2011: Thanks Aunts,
I know he will get in a stir if I bring this up again, for the moment I've said that I will respect his wishes though. I think he thinks that I should talk about this stuff to other people, and not him. He always says that he 'does... (read in full...)
Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?...
A. 28 November 2011: I disagree - I like it when my boyfriend comes on me. If she wants to try it, let her try it. She mightn't be doing it just to accomodate for you. But yeah, if she doesn't want to swallow then I guess that's off limits.... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable around our house with teenaged daughter walking around in just underwear!
Q. Our oldest daughter is now 15 and tends to walk around the house in just her bra and underwear or nothing at all. My husband and I get on her about it all the time, but she doesn't seem to care. Will she grow out of this or will it get worse? Is ...
A. 16 November 2011: Me and my bro do this all the time, especially if we're on our way to find clothes. We've never really discussed it but I assume out parents don't care!
I don't see it as a problem so long as nobody else is there. I mean, you've seen it all befo... (read in full...)
He wants to stay home. I want to travel. How can I modify my thoughts or behaviour to better cope with our differences?
Q. Hi Guys, My boyfriend is not keen on going on holidays, ever. Not even to our beach houses (ie. its not cost that's a factor). I would love nothing more than for us to be able to go away, interstate, maybe overseas, but it just seems like it won't...
A. 13 November 2011: Thanks girls,
Really good adivce, I have tried talking to him about it so he does understand how important it is. Unfortunately there's nothing that I begrudgingly do to bargain with!!
Guess i'll just keep trying to reach a compromise. ... (read in full...)
Gagging and deep throating
Q. Ok imma keep this plain and straight to the point. My man likes oral sex just like any other man. I like givin to him. My only problem is that I really can't get it own my throat just yet. I can suck it really good but deep throating is very scary ...
A. 10 November 2011: Ok, so first of all being to the side may actually be helpful if he is curved in any direction. Think about how your throat looks (curves downward) try and work out which will be the best direction. For me, if I sit on the right side facing his ... (read in full...)
My g/f said I should hit the gym, does this mean she finds me unattractive?
Q. Hey there ive just got small question that im just having trouble figureing out in my head..Recently since around may of this year till now i have gained a few pounds not much but enough that you can tell. This morning my GF said to me that she ...
A. 2 October 2011: My boyfriend is of a slight build, he's less muscular than he used to be. I, on the other hand am quite curvy. He never has been to a gym, and I go several times a week. I'm always on at him to do some exercise because it's GOOD for him! I ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why my gf feels uncomfortable holding hands with me in public
Q. I find it strange that my six months gf tells me she feels uncomfortable holding hands with me in public( I mean places like in a park or even on the street when we are walking)although she has no problem doing the same (holding hands indoors).At ...
A. 6 September 2011: My boyfriend is exactly the same!! We've been dating for almost two years and he just says he hates public displays of affection. I feel so annoyed, I can imagine people are telling you 'she's not ready' or what not, but I feel like it just doesn't ... (read in full...)
Mother has Psoriasis, any tips or advice on how to deal with it?
Q. Hello Agony's This isn't a medical question per se, my mum just wants a bit of advice. I'm doing this question for her because she's computer illiterate (bless her). She has recently been diagnosed with Psoriasis and wants to know how other ...
A. 14 May 2011: hey there, i suffered from severe eczema for about four years (still have some but not nearly as bad!) Medically, there will be heaps of different ideas (i found for eczema there were lots of different forums online that were great -but if she's no... (read in full...)
I really want this horse, should I go with my gut?
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm hoping to get a horse in June and I have found this gorgeous Mare who is 6 years old. I'm definitely getting a horse in June and I'd love for her to be the one. I haven't ridden in a while but I can build up on it once I get my...
A. 24 February 2011: Haha oh dear, I didn't mean to say that you were spoilt or anything like that - I just really wanted to stress the importance of waiting until the right horse comes along - which it sounds like you've decided to do which is great!
As I said befo... (read in full...)
I really want this horse, should I go with my gut?
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm hoping to get a horse in June and I have found this gorgeous Mare who is 6 years old. I'm definitely getting a horse in June and I'd love for her to be the one. I haven't ridden in a while but I can build up on it once I get my...
A. 22 February 2011: Nope Nope Nope! If this is your first horse, then you shoudln't be "getting one in June", you should be getting one when the right one comes around. A green young horse (or a horse that has been out of work) is NOT suitable for you! A horse is not... (read in full...)
I don't know what to get for my boyfriend for christmas?
Q. Im in a sticky situation, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months now (we are both 18)and I don't know what to get him. I know there are options like shirts, or hats. But I want to get him something meaningful, something special to him. ...
A. 27 November 2010: depends how serious you guys are, and if he's the kind of guy taht would do this - but i always think a nice framed picture of you two to go beside the bed somewhere is nice. As Leon said, something that shows you love him is good, but I think you ... (read in full...)
Is there anything memorable I can give him for his 21st birthday?
Q. Oh Dear! My boyfriend lost his favourite ring that he bought in America a year ago, and for his 21st birthday in two days, I bought him a similar one. He just called me all excited, saying he'd just found it in a pocket of one of his pairs of pants...
A. 27 November 2010: thanks guys for all your help!
i gave him the ring with the option of returning it - and he was incredulous i'd thought he wouldn't love it. Im so glad I can give him something that he'll have forever - as much as going to a gig or out some... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm being petty.
Q. So I got my eyes tested today -turns out I need glasses. I'd asked my boyfriend whether he might come with me to pick some, as I wanted someone to bounce different ideas off - I've never had glasses before and picking them seems daunting...
A. 11 November 2010: thanks tennisstar, It's good to get another point of view on this. I know I got worked up about it, and that wasn't fair. Believe me, I tried to take a girlfriend as you suggested, but they're all in the middle of exams - he isn't, so he see... (read in full...)
We just can't have sex!
Q. ive been having trouble with sex with my boyfriend its been like a month because I'm to tight and he literally cant get inside me it was going GREAT for the first 2 weeks and then a month ago things just don't seem to be working and its not as t...
A. 6 November 2010: Hey there! I had an operation in my downstairs area - and me and my boyfriend couldn't have sex for about a month and a half. I found that when we started again, I was super SUPER tight! It was quite painful (though nothing compared to how it w... (read in full...)
First time experiences?
Q. What was it like the first time that you had sex male and females welcome to answer...
A. 3 November 2010: It was very relaxed, and I felt really safe. I'd been trying to wait for 'the right time' for weeks, and one night just said, 'what the heck, let's do it'!
I waited until I knew I was in love with my boyfriend (he was already in love with me), and ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity..how and where?
Q. Hi i'm 14 and think i am bi. I want to lose my virginity, but i don't know where to meet someone at my age. Also i have been talking to someone on msn who is gay and 17 and say they will help me lose it, but he doesn't live near me, though he did s...
A. 28 October 2010: If you don't have somewhere, and someone to lose your virginity with, then you probably shouldn't be. No matter how uncool it is to be 13-15 and still a virgin.... (read in full...)
I am a bit jittery about being intimate!
Q. Hi Aunts, This might be a long one -here's some b/ground info - I've been going out with my boyfriend for just about a year now. A while ago I had an incident where some guy basically felt me up while i was asleep - it kind of left me a bit jitt...
A. 19 October 2010: Thanks everyone again! To those who suggested it, I've been researching sleeping disorders (I'd actually forgotten I had done that previously, so I'm re-remembering a lot of useful things), and hopefully getting the relevant tests done. Dorothy... (read in full...)
Why didn't boyfriend cum?
Q. I gave my boyfriend a blowjob for the first time last night, and he didn't cum/finish. i was doing it for about 10-15 minutes and i didn't really feel like i was getting anywhere so i stopped. except i did a lot of like "research" online before we...
A. 18 October 2010: Same thing happened with my boyfriend the first time. There's a big mental component to it all - don't worry if he doesn't cum for the next few times, chances are if it's really terrible (which it doesn't sound like it is!) he'll speak up rather ... (read in full...)
I am a bit jittery about being intimate!
Q. Hi Aunts, This might be a long one -here's some b/ground info - I've been going out with my boyfriend for just about a year now. A while ago I had an incident where some guy basically felt me up while i was asleep - it kind of left me a bit jitt...
A. 17 October 2010: Thanks Dorothy!
I know the post was a bit of an eyeful!
I sleep really well, averaging at least 8 hours a night, I get up early, and like going to bed early, however I still seem to be falling asleep all the time! Don't think it's narcolep... (read in full...)
Terrible University experience...
Q. I am having a terrible university experience! All the people i know that go to university are having a great time and love it. I find myself very lonely and sometimes not enjoying what im taking either. I'm a music student and though i love music, ...
A. 8 August 2010: the good thing about music is everybody in the course already has a common interest, and if it's your first year at uni, bets are there are a lot of people in the same boat. if you go to sectional rehearsals for ensembles etc. then try to buddy up ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept the fact that I am the one who has to do all the driving in our realtionship? Or should I be more assertive?
Q. Hi Aunts, My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, we see eachother 3-4 times a week, if not more. He lives right near where I study, so it's pretty convenient for me to stay the night and go to class the next day. However, I'm the only one...
A. 7 August 2010: Hi guys,
Thanks for your responses, they were great. He lives in an area which is pretty much walking distance from everywhere, and has good public transport. I on the other hand, couldn't survive without a car to get to work etc. I brought it u... (read in full...)
On the pill so how come I missed my period?
Q. well i have been on aviane birth control for one month now and im about to start a new pack but its placebo week and i have 2 pills left but i didnt have my period?? and during the pack i missed one pill but i didnt have sex that day i was sick so ...
A. 22 July 2010: on my pill pack i dodn't start my period until i've almost finished the sugar pills.
actually, if you miss one pill, the pack normally says just to make sure you don't miss another. if you miss a few in a row then normally you have to use back up ... (read in full...)
I found jock itch cream in his medicine cabinet, could he be hiding something from me?
Q. Dear Cupid, When I was in my boyfriends bathroom (I'm not sure if his parents use it too or not), I found a bottle of Jock Itch wash/medicine. He sometimes itches his balls alot. Do you think he could be hiding this from me? Or do you think he/his...
A. 11 July 2010: I wouldn't really worry. I'm almost 100% sure you can't catch it anyway, its just like having athlete's foot, it's just in a different area. And at least if he does, he's doing something about it! You obviously think he should have told you, but ... (read in full...)
Have these websites got their facts right?
Q. Hey just a quick question regarding the contraceptive pill. Im on the 21 day contraceptive pill yasmin, and on the NHS website, netdoctor, and the fpa (family planning association) and any other information websites on the yasmin pill all say tha...
A. 3 May 2010: I think that a lot of the time, the leaflet is protecting itself in a worse case scenario (ie, let's say you miss 2 pills, in x% of cases, this will be fine but maybe in a really small percentage there is a risk of pregnancy, so to cover themselves, ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone with bad skin?
Q. I have really bad skin. I don't mean acne or some dry skin, I actually mean eczema and chronic dry skin. On top of that I suffer from allergies and hay fever, so all year round I just have horrendous skin. I have rough hands, dry flaky nose and ...
A. 2 May 2010: I am exactly the same. I have had really chronic terrible eczema, to the point where the sheets in the bed are covered with blood, I couldn't have showers, I didn't leave the house. As for the people commenting that there are worse things than ... (read in full...)
How does the pill work?
Q. Hey Aunts, Just got the pill today from the doctor, and he told me to take it on the first day of my period - only question is, does that mean the active pill, or the inactive pill in the 'start' area of the packet (I realise that this is like tak...
A. 8 April 2010: Thanks Marian, good to get some confirmation and some personal experience!
mervy.... (read in full...)
How does the pill work?
Q. Hey Aunts, Just got the pill today from the doctor, and he told me to take it on the first day of my period - only question is, does that mean the active pill, or the inactive pill in the 'start' area of the packet (I realise that this is like tak...
A. 8 April 2010: Haha, you're sure right Ebony, I wouldn't really want to have sex on my period anyway, but I figure since I'm so close to starting my period anyway, that I should start then if I can. So active pill on the first day of my period, right?
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What do girls think when hugging a friend and feeling he has an erection?
Q. Hey all just wanted to ask a question. I have a cute and really hot female friend, we talk, go out as friends and stuff like that. but every time i hug her, first of - the hug is quit long, second i get an erection. I'm a really NICE GUY, not the ...
A. 7 April 2010: I wouldn't care at all, unless it was a family member as veronika said! I suppose it really is a compliment if nothing else, it's natural, and I wouldn't be freaked out or anything! mervy.... (read in full...)
Which do you prefer: a female or male Gynecologist?
Q. Hey Aunts, Pretty trivial one here: I'm planning on going on the pill, and I just made a doctor's appointment. It only just occured to me that most people would probably want to see a female doctor about this, but when they asked me if I would ra...
A. 31 March 2010: Cheers guys,
It seems like I'm definitely not the only one, so thanks so much!
You all made good points, I guess it's a very individual choice.
Effy.... (read in full...)
She wont look at me when I talk to her, why is she doing this?
Q. I talked to a girl that ive found cute after class that has the same major as me in collage that seems really timid. She doesn't talk ever even when the rest of the class has conversations and just sits and stairs at her computer working or surfing ...
A. 22 March 2010: I used to be like that too, but only with the guys I liked. So she might even like you! I would always be nervous about what they would see. This girl sounds overall shy (just like everybody else has said), but she might be especially shy around ... (read in full...)
I am new to sex and troubled by his requests
Q. Hi Guys, I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months, and we decided to have sex recently. I was a virgin until then, but completely happy to give myself to him. The only problem is, I guess I'm still a little nervous or shy. ...
A. 4 March 2010: thanks guys, i'm relieved to hear that i'm not the only one who's felt like this. i have told him that im not real keen on it, but because i coudln't put a reason to it, its hard for him to understand i think. he's not pushy, but i know i'm not ... (read in full...)
He cant cum when I give him a blowjob because of the big "mental' component to it! What am I doing wrong?
Q. Hi Guys, I've been going out with a friend of mine for about a month now, and although we're both VERY different we get along great. However, the other night I decided to give him a blowjob, which he thoroughly appreciated (OK, who wouldn't), but a...
A. 20 November 2009: thanks for the great answers guys, they were really helpful! mervy. xx... (read in full...)
How can I learn to communicate better with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi Guys, I recently started going out (i think...!) with one of my very good friends, and I guess that means things are changing (obviously and hopefully). I (surprisingly, as I'm a girl) have lots of trouble talking, like properly TALKING about fe...
A. 12 November 2009: Thanks guys, What excellent advice from everybody! I'm putting into action immediately, seriously you guys are the all the best. mervy xx... (read in full...)
I only want friendship. Am I doomed?
Q. ARGH!! Hi Aunts, Why is it (nearly?) impossible to have JUST a friendly relationship with someone of the opposite sex!? I've been hanging out heaps with my best mate, playing video games and just chilling out, and just the other night he kissed ...
A. 28 October 2009: and thanks anon, you give me hope!!!... (read in full...)
I only want friendship. Am I doomed?
Q. ARGH!! Hi Aunts, Why is it (nearly?) impossible to have JUST a friendly relationship with someone of the opposite sex!? I've been hanging out heaps with my best mate, playing video games and just chilling out, and just the other night he kissed ...
A. 27 October 2009: thanks guys, even though some (ok lets be honest it was really just rosesarered, but i'm sure you thought it necessary to paint the entire male race the way you did) of the answers were a bit... erm blunt i suppose.
look at least i know he's not ... (read in full...)
What do you consider the upper limit in physical contact with friends? I'm worried I might be too affectionate and lead people on!
Q. Hi there Aunts! So this question definitely won't have just ONE answer, I'm interested in people's views. I would say that I can be a pretty affectionate person with friends I know well, and most of my friends are guys. I don't flirt with them ...
A. 14 October 2009: Wow. Thanks guys for your responses - I totally hadn't thought about it like that, thanks for your perspectives. Luckily I do have lots of old friends that will get thats just me, but I definitely need to be more careful in future, as there's ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to reaffirm "we're just friends"?
Q. Hey guys (aunts!), A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend, and then a few months after that a guy who I got to uni with broke up with his girlfriend too (except his break up was really complicated etc.) Anyway, basically we weren't really g...
A. 6 October 2009: Hey thanks for your input,
good idea - i'm gonna start right away.
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I want to be friends with a married man but he has feelings for me!
Q. Hey guys, This problem is to do with a guy who previously ran a community music group in my area. We get along really well, he's married. I wasn't really interested in a romantic relationship at all, he's just cool and we like hanging. I should m...
A. 5 October 2009: Thanks guys, It's really hard but I've definitely taken your advice on board and I'm doing my best! You guys rock.... (read in full...)
How can I let my teacher know he's actually been a great help to me?
Q. basically, whenever i'm writing something this teacher can be annoying as hell with his picky-ness and/ or advises me to rethink my entire concept. it can be extremely painful (emotionally and mentally) but it's made me write some of my best ...
A. 23 September 2009: I agree with "CaringGuy" - a card is a great idea. In my final year of school i wrote massive letters to the teachers who had helped me most, and stuck them inside normal christmas cards (we have a different school year), and gave them a photo ... (read in full...)
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