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writes:ive been having trouble with sex with my boyfriend its been like a month because I'm to tight and he literally cant get inside me it was going GREAT for the first 2 weeks and then a month ago things just don't seem to be working and its not as though we don't try, we try at least twice a day even when i am a bit looser, there's the other factor that i cant seem to get as wet as i used to and we've done the whole lube thing but we both hate it its been about the same time frame but i don't understand cause he turns me on so much! I've been sexless for soon to be over a month...i know there would be heaps of people who would have gone longer without, but I'm actually starting to get depressed about it cause we both cant understand whats going on I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else and what you did about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help guys! =)
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reader, mervy +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Hey there!I had an operation in my downstairs area - and me and my boyfriend couldn't have sex for about a month and a half. I found that when we started again, I was super SUPER tight! It was quite painful (though nothing compared to how it was before the operation), and I couldn't have him all the way inside me like I used to. After time I 'loosened up'. and things have started to get back to normal. Initially we had to go super slow, and I had to be in charge.You say you're having trouble getting wet - (this was part of the reason I had to have an operation) - I'd double check that there's nothing medical going on.Otherwise, if you hate lube and don't want to go with it, then I guess you'll just have to make do without. There aren't a lot of other options really.Have you tried lots of different positions? If he goes down on you first for a bit that could help get you a bit wetter too. Does having fingers inside you cause you problems? Maybe you could try increasing the number of fingers inside yo uto help?Hope you get it sorted!mervy.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 This should help.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
A friend had this problem and her Doctor gave her muscle relaxants. Good Luck!
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