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I can see the rest of my life with him... but I can dread it at the same time!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 and a half years, we've been through a lot together and done a lot together but I can't decide where I stand with him; if I love him enough to stay or if he cares at all about me. I'm really not sure whether ...
A. 20 July 2015: Why don't you sit down with your boyfriend and explain how you are feeling and where you both feel your relationship is going,you are young yet and of course you want to feel loved and be showen affection.To have a good relationship you have to be ... (read in full...)
How do I know my online guy is for real?
Q. I have meet a guy in on a dating site , we only send mails with each other within a month and he tells me he loves me and wants to be his wife,i am confuse as of now if i'll believe him or not ,what will i dont know if his for real...
A. 26 June 2012: I have had experience of this with my son who two years ago married a girl he met online,they spoke to each other for about two years and she came over here from abroad where she stayed and met him twice, on her second visit they got engaged then ... (read in full...)
He shouts in his sleep, should I tell him what I hear?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend often has angry dreams at night. Her figits which I why I wake up, then he breathes deeper and faster and then starts shouting and swearing. sometimes its at his dad (his parents are divorced a long time ago) and sometim...
A. 26 June 2012: It is obvious your boyfriend was deeply affected by the breakup of his parents marriage,I know it is difficult but as you are wakened anyway if he becomes so aggressive in a dream that you are afraid that he may strike out at you why don't you move ... (read in full...)
I think he likes me, should I text him or wait till he does?
Q. hey so theres this guy at uni in my class, and he's always starring at me whenever im out with my friends, i see him starring at me. even in class he would try to talk to me at first, im not too sure if i seemed dry towards him at first. a few weeks ...
A. 26 June 2012: Instead of all the texting why don't you start a conversation with him in class and become friends,if he is interested in you he will not be long in approaching you or asking you out.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Will he get bored since I have so much less experience?
Q. I've recently become single again after a 2 year relationship, and to be blunt, a girl has needs. I've also met this guy which we both seem into one another, however he has slept with 6 people and I've only slept with one? I want to go for it, but ...
A. 25 June 2012: Give it a go,if he is attracted to you look at the things he will enjoy teaching you and the enjoyment you will have in learning,enjoy and stop worrying.Good luck.... (read in full...)
When I cum it looks like I've wet the bed
Q. I've got a quite embarrassing problem, when my boyfriend is pleasuring me and I reach my climax I seem to realease a large amount and it goes everywhere as if I've wet the bed, I don't know if this is a problem or if theirs anything I do to control ...
A. 25 June 2012: As an ex nurse I have never heard of any cure for this,it happens with more women than you imagine,and in my carear I have seen it happen when women were being internally examined,you should not feel uncomfortable about this,after all men ... (read in full...)
I allowed my g/f to have a guy on the side and now everything is all mixed up
Q. My fiance and i have been together 12yrs she told me stories all her lovers all had big endowed penises 10+ and i half that size well she dont relize how much she tells me how great it was and even tells aquaintances. I loved her very much that i ...
A. 25 June 2012: I am sorry how foolish have you been to allow the woman ou are supposed to be marrying to carry on like this especially with your permission,she has no respect for you in belittling you in the way she is doing,stop allowing her to use you as a ... (read in full...)
Should I just settle for being his friend?
Q. Hi! I havr gotten in to a quite strange and difficult situation. About 3-4 months ago I met my big brother's girlfriend's little brother at a bar. We were talking for ours and had so much fun getting to know each other. We later exchanged phone ...
A. 25 June 2012: I feel this boy has an interest in you,but you will never know if you do not tell him how you feel,okay you will feel dissapointed if he does not feel the same,but you should not feel awkward ,just say that's fine and you hope you can stay ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my social anxiety with women?
Q. I find it really difficult to maintain any form of relationship with women of my age. My problems do not stem from being unable to talk to women, I can talk but I can't feel comfortable in their company. I feel anxious around them, like they are ...
A. 25 June 2012: Why don't ou go out in social groups of both men and women where discussion is going on between both and do join in on the conversation and I am sure you will get a boost to your confidence and discover women are not as scary as you think we are,at ... (read in full...)
I love her and I know I shouldn't lie, I'm trying to give her space but I'm so afraid of losing her!
Q. Another day another problem. My gf, well current ex and i have a child together. Weve been together for 2 years and fight all the time. In the past its a few days and me being childish and blocking her and things like that. Each time i sit home an c...
A. 24 June 2012: I hope when you and your girlfriend argue it is not in front of your child,I do not know what age you both are but a realationship is not one if there is no trust in it.I cannot see this going anywhere,and feel you would be better going your ... (read in full...)
Am I just hoping for too much?
Q. Both me and the man in question look in our thirties/ years younger (not being vain,it is just what people say) and believe me there have been so many fireworks going on between us. but we are both very professional about our roles etc. I just want...
A. 22 July 2011: You are right in appreciating that it would not be sensible for a relationship to develope whilst this man is your tutor,why don't you continue in your studies treat him in a friendly manner but as your tutor.I feel he has feelings for you but does ... (read in full...)
She says her feelings for me are more of a brotherly nature
Q. Help needed with a relationship :( Hi! I hope you can help me? We have been seeing each other for 2 years now, she has bipolar and is married with 2 kids. She does not get along with her husband anymore, they sleep in seperate rooms and have ...
A. 21 July 2011: You have to understand that Bipolar is a serious illness and unfortunatly people who suffer from it have mood swings where a lot of the time they cannot make descisions for theirself's,as far as her husband's behaviour of not letting her out on her ... (read in full...)
He left me with a baby and I can't get over him
Q. okay this is hard for me to write but here it goes my boyfriend of 7 years left me a yr ago when i tld him i was pregnant. He said he didn love me anymore and that we never be together again i was so heart broken. I ask him to give us another go ...
A. 21 July 2011: I understand how you feel but believe me you are better off without this creep,when he can walk away from you and his baby so easily he will never change and he will probably end up doing the same with several girls,you have to try and forget him ... (read in full...)
How do I fix my nose without surgery and how do I open up to people?
Q. So, to start, I'm sorry if this turns into a rant. I really want input from someone other than my friends who can be biased. Because of several events in my life that left me extremely traumatized, I get hit extremely hard by rejection. I've bee...
A. 21 July 2011: Listen darling you have to get it into your head that nobody is any better than you and stop blaming yorself for your relationship break ups,and any boyfriend that makes you feel bad about your self is not worth having in the first place,are there ... (read in full...)
Torn between the two !
Q. I am having the hardest decision to have to choose between two great but very opposite guys. This is all since my ex has expressed his feelings to me in a significant way. We have a son together but we went on a break many months ago but I had since ...
A. 21 July 2011: I feel deep down you would like to try again with your ex which as he is the father of your son would be much better in the longrun,well done on not keeping the other boy hanging on whilst you decide,why don't you and your ex take some counselling ... (read in full...)
Should I end my relationship with my jobless boyfriend?
Q. When I first met him I knew he didn’t have a job or a high school education but I convinced myself that it would change and he would mature. It’s been 5 years now and he still has neither. We have been living together for the past 5 months and his ...
A. 11 July 2011: I cannot not see your relationship going anywhere,your boyfriend I feel is not going to change he seems quite prepared to live off of you,my advice is for you to move on and get on with your life,why should you have all this worry that is making you ... (read in full...)
I can't let her go. Everything is out of control.
Q. I'm 15. I fell in love with this girl and then I made my first mistake: I became best friend with her by sms; we talked by text messages but on school she totally ignored me. It hurted so much when I was playing with her and I got screamed at, w...
A. 30 June 2011: This friendship is becoming dangerous,if you are following this girl about and she does not want it you are harrassing and stalking her for which you can get into serious trouble,you are both young and I cannot see anything coming out of this ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts so much! How do I make b/f understand?
Q. My boyfriend always wants sex. But recently im really sore that last time we did it I nearly cried. I don't know why im sore its not like I'm allergic to him. He's always going on at me about not having sex but I just can't go through with it. What ...
A. 30 June 2011: You'r boyfriend does not appear to be a very understanding person or he would try to work through this with you,you will be tense knowing that you have been hurt before and the more tense you become the more it is going to hurt,you did not mention ... (read in full...)
Found out my friends are a little two faced - what now?
Q. My bestfriend who i have known for around 4 years now had started turning a bit cold recently and its been bugging me. We still go out and have parties and talk about everything, but i was on her social network account tonight she left unattended at ...
A. 30 June 2011: It is a true saying that eavesdroppers never hear or read good of themself's,you should not have been reading her social site nor should she be reading your's,only you can make the descision if you want them at your party,they seem very petty and ... (read in full...)
Our relationship has changed since he wants me to come be with him, not the other way around
Q. Dear Aunts, So here's my story.. I met my boyfriend online about a year ago. Ever since I met him, I felt the spark in him though we never met in person because we live at the different side of the world. I knew him from the picture he sent me. ...
A. 25 January 2011: Be very careful here,although internet romances do work out sometimes as I very well know,as my son married an Australian girl he met on the internet,he lives in Scotland they met twice before they got married when his girlfriend flew over to meet ... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at women wearing low cut tops
Q. my husband will not stop looking at woman with low cut tops on. it is anyone not just attractive woman. when i question him he always denies it.i am getting so frustrated because i no he is doing this.please can you help as i think i am going ...
A. 25 January 2011: Most men cannot not keep their eyes off a womans cleavage,there is no harm in looking,as long as he is not touching and is faithful to you.... (read in full...)
Is my baby disrespecting me or cheating?
Q. Hi I'm Alex I don't know if I'm being used or cheated on, or whats going on but something doesn't seem right and it's hurting me. Ok Ive known my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We started out dating for a whole month and oddly enough tha...
A. 25 January 2011: I am sorry but I feel you girlfriend is playing you and her ex boyfriend,please do not propose marriage to her in the meantime I would have a trial split from her for a while and see if she goes running back to this other boy,if she does I know it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is nice to me when I give him money
Q. Dear Cupid My bf would be nice to me for few days if i lend him money. Then again he starts avoiding me. Will again be attentive when he needs money. I tried talking to him and he says he'll chnage but never did. He works and gets good pay ...
A. 25 January 2011: You did not say whether your boyfriend and you live together or not,if you do then the expenses of running the home should be shared between you,if not then I agree too that he is using you and you should think seriously about getting into a ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I am rude!
Q. I have always been outspoken, quick witted ol' country girl. I recently married and my husband now thinks I am rude. I have looked up the definition of rude and I do not believe that is me. How can I address this issue with him and get him to see ...
A. 25 January 2011: Surely your husband knew what your nature was before he married you,there is nothing wrong with speaking your mind,unless you are getting a bit too outspoken and it is hurting people too much.Try to treat people as you wwould like to be treated ... (read in full...)
Should I try and help a friend?
Q. I have made a conclusion about a friend of mine, and I see that he has some problems, stemmed from a trauma earlier in his life. 20 years earlier.. I can just see its ruining his life and happiness. Just all the things he talks about past and p...
A. 25 September 2010: I would continue to be a good friend,and no I would not bring up the subject,your friend seems to be getting on with his life and if he want's to study phycology that is fine believe me it is not an esy subject to study,I would continue to be there ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be attracted to older men?
Q. I'm 18, and for as early as I could remember I've been attracted to older men (40-50). Maybe because of their masculinity and overall maturity. My dad recently told me if he found out I was seeing a man in that age group, he wouldn't approve of it. ...
A. 24 September 2010: A lot of people say age is only a number,but I can understand your dad's concerns you have to consider if you end up with a man of that age if you ended up having a child by the time the child was say ten your husband or partner would be in his ... (read in full...)
Should I dwell on a drunken kiss?
Q. Sunday night I was drunk and My roommate had a girl over he has been dating and she kissed me, just friendly she was drunk too. I didn't think anything of it, but kidding he said kiss him again with some tongue, I didn't think she would actually do ...
A. 24 September 2010: No I would not dwell on it too much you all had too much to drink and this kiss meant nothing,but I would try and learn from it as to what can happen when you don't have your common sense about you,and attempt not to get into the same situation ... (read in full...)
We all have flaws so how do we learn to accept it?
Q. Im finding it hard to accept the girl in the mirror. Im not the type of girl that has self esteem issues, Im actually a very confident individual. But lately I really hate myself. I'll be honest as much as I like to think Im attractive in m...
A. 22 September 2010: Hi Pats most girls of your age feel a bit insecure of their body shape and looks. I did when I was your age many many years ago. no matter what age a person is there is usually something about themselves they are not happy about. You seem a clever ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me 5 years ago and I just found out! what do I do now?
Q. hi ive been married for 12 years this was my second marriage i had alittle boy and he had agirl from his previous marriage when i met him i knew he was my soul mate even after 12 years when he looks at me my heart still beat faster when i was ...
A. 22 September 2010: No I don't think because your husband admitted his affair to you that it means he is thinking of doing it again, he could be feeling guilty carrying the secret about for so long. I know how hurt you must be feeling, but as your marriage has been ... (read in full...)
I will not love until I am with her
Q. Hey. I’m a 23 year old guy, and I think I’m perfectly normal. However, I’ve been having abnormal feelings about a girl for the last 7 years. Basically Im in love with her. All I think about is her. All i want to do is be with her. She keeps say...
A. 22 September 2010: Hi
I know it is not easy when you have feelings for a person and they don't feel the same way,this is probably not what you want to hear,but if she keeps turning you down and dating other boys,she obviously does not have feelings for you the way ... (read in full...)
I attacked my Husband!!
Q. Today I got into an argument with my husband. The row started getting worse and then i pushed him and slapped him in the face. I also scratched him when he pushed me back. I've done this a few years ago and thought I'm over my 'anger' feelings...
A. 17 August 2010: There is no more excuse for a women attacking a man than the other way about,would you and your husband not consider going to see a marriage counseller who could probably help you to see someone for anger management,you obviously still love your ... (read in full...)
Finding a girl I've seen online whom I've never met or spoken to...???
Q. I can see how this might come off as strange or creepy but i'm really looking for advice/opinions on this. I recently joined an online dating site in an attempt to find a girl as similar to me as possible and it looks like I might have suceeded. T...
A. 17 August 2010: Why dont you contact the dating line you registered with,to find out if this girl is still on their books and still available for dating,it would be foolish to start going to a place where she might be,and even if she was there it would not be wise ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to heal the past from the abuse I have suffered?
Q. Will i ever be able to heal past the abuse i have suffered? i have a history full of sexual abuse, from the age of 6 to 9, and then again from age 12 until about 4 months ago. will this ever go away and leave me free to live my life? will i one day ...
A. 16 August 2010: Have you ever reported this abuse to the authorities,I would strongly advise you to do so and you will get all the help you require to get on with your life I know it will not be easy and you will have to be brave but you would probably have the ... (read in full...)
What if he turns me down...?
Q. okay so i am in love. absolutely 100% in love. i'm 15. now before you start furiously typing telling me that i'm to young to be in love, know that i have raised myself. my dad walked out and my mom works when i'm home. i raised not only me but my ...
A. 16 August 2010: Age is only a number but you are heading for serious trouble with this boy and he is going to be in bigger trouble for touching you at all at your age as you are a minor,what are you thinking of by trying to encourage him to take things further with ... (read in full...)
Do I save space for him in my life or just let go of these feelings and move on?
Q. there is a guy who has been in my life for a long time. 2 years ago we became really close and started to somewhat see eachother but things didn't work out in the end just for various reasons. i was hurt a lot but picked up and moved on. we have ...
A. 16 August 2010: I think you should let go of your feelings for this boy as he is moving away what really could become of any relationship,wish him well in his new life then you get on with yours.... (read in full...)
How I can show her I can change and that I can be a different and better person for her?
Q. I'm admittedly a "recovering habitual cheater". Since I began dating I'm high school, I can not think of a single relationship I've had where I did not betray my partner's trust. About a year and a half ago, I fell in love with someone. ...
A. 16 August 2010: Why can chaps like you not appreciate what you have until it is too late.the only thing I can see you doing is to distance yourself from this girl for a time without seeing any other girls and let her see you have changed and If the two of you are ... (read in full...)
Worried about my mum's debt problems...
Q. I don't know what to do. My mum is in debt - 4 thousand pounds worth of debt. And despite paying £140 off a month, with interest and this payment covery thingy, the debt is only going down £15 per month. Thats gonna take over 20 years at this rate ...
A. 15 August 2010: You have to get your mum to see a debt advisor who will be able to advise what to do for the best,and will be able to sort things out for you both,the consumer advice of your local council in your area will be able to give you names and phone ... (read in full...)
Why did she pick on me all night?
Q. I've been dating a girl for a short while and we seem to like each other. However, the other day we were hanging out with her friends and they found it necessary to tease me and pick on me all night. When I got offended apparently I was being a bad ...
A. 15 August 2010: If this girl could not see that this behaviour was annoying you and prepared to put a stop to it,I would advise you to think twice about seeing her again,she seems a very self centered person.... (read in full...)
She wants marriage and I don't!
Q. Hello! I'm 55 and she's 35 with 3 kids, we love each other and have been in this relationship for 14 months but she wants marriage and I don't. She'd become very upset when ever she asks me about getting married which she has done several times and ...
A. 15 August 2010: Unless you are both in aggreement to marry I would not be forced into it,I would live together for a while yet to see how things work out,especially when your girlfriend is not treating you all that well at the moment,be careful that she is not ... (read in full...)
Online ED drugs?
Q. I have occasional problems with erections, and have been prescribed Levitra, but it is over $15 a pill. Do any of you know a legitimate and reliable online pharmacy that sells ED drugs cheaper? Are the places that dont require a prescription all ...
A. 14 August 2010: As an ex-nurse I would never give anyone advice to buy drugs on line,you never know how genuine they are or what harm they could do you,see your doctor and explain your situation to him and he might be able to give you further help.... (read in full...)
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