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writes:okay this is hard for me to write but here it goes my boyfriend of 7 years left me a yr ago when i tld him i was pregnant. He said he didn love me anymore and that we never be together again i was so heart broken. I ask him to give us another go for the babies sake he laugh and said the only reason y i am having this baby is ti trap him. Less the two weeks lather i find out hes in a new relationship. Fast forward to present day he’s still with her she living with him now thing is i can't get over him. I tryed new hobbies new lifestyle fairly busy all the time went to couseling did the one day at a time thing. I'm not getting better tho i still cry when i see pic of him and his new girlfriend. My baby takes away some of it but then i;m like how do i explain about her father . I so sad anti depressant haven't worked either i have been on dates and this one guy in patcuilar hes so charming but i jus don't feel it. I need help what else can i do and no hes not my first love even writting this i'm crying please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): Sometimes taking antidepressants isn't enough. It's not normal to still be so upset over someone after a whole year. You need to seek counseling, and fast. Part of your problem could also be post-partum depression, which can be serious for some women. Regularly seeing a psychiatrist could help you immensely. This isn't just regular heartbreak you're experiencing. Do this for you, and absolutely do this for your precious little girl.
As for what you tell your daughter about her dad (only when SHE asks -- you don't have to bring it up), tell her that daddy wasn't ready to be a father, so he felt like he had to leave. It's a hard story to tell a child, so you don't need to go into detail. Sometimes it's better to be honest about these things so as not to cause confusion later in life.
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reader, Mature Lady  +, writes (21 July 2011):
I understand how you feel but believe me you are better off without this creep,when he can walk away from you and his baby so easily he will never change and he will probably end up doing the same with several girls,you have to try and forget him and get on with your life you sound a good mum to your baby I know it is not easy being a single mum and hope you have some family or good friends that can help you.believe me there is someone out there for you that will treat you better and give you the respect you deserve.
If you want to send me a personal message at any time feel free as you are needing friends about you at the moment
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