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writes:Help needed with a relationship :(Hi! I hope you can help me? We have been seeing each other for 2 years now, she has bipolar and is married with 2 kids. She does not get along with her husband anymore, they sleep in seperate rooms and have decided to stay together for the sake of the kids. Although he still seems to control everything, reason being that he will not let her leave the house or have visitors when he is not there. Thus I only see her when I go visit, we have never had any physical contact of any kind and have never gone out on a date or anything.I love her with everything of my being. Now here is where the problem stems. I have just spoken with her and she says that latley her feelings for me have been more of that for a brother than a partner! She says the spark has gone, I admitted to her that I have cooled off a little because she was put on new medication recently for the bipolar and her emotions have been "dead" ever since, even if I try anything (flirting/saying I love her) I do not get any response. She does not agree with me and says that she does not know why the relationship is dying.I do not want to loose her :( Please help, what can I do?
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reader, Mature Lady  +, writes (21 July 2011):
You have to understand that Bipolar is a serious illness and unfortunatly people who suffer from it have mood swings where a lot of the time they cannot make descisions for theirself's,as far as her husband's behaviour of not letting her out on her own it is probably not by choice but the fact that he does not know how she will behave if she is on her own,lets face it there are people who are permantly hospitalized with this condition.I do not understand how you visit when her husband is always there,or are you a friend of the family.It might not be what you want to hear but I think you should try and move on with your life as I cannot not see this relationship going anywhere.Good luck Maturelady(Ex Nurse)
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