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writes:hi ive been married for 12 years this was my second marriage i had alittle boy and he had agirl from his previous marriage when i met him i knew he was my soul mate even after 12 years when he looks at me my heart still beat faster when i was pregnant with my third child five years ago i knew something was wrong he became different. he would try to pick fights with me i didnt know what was wrong that was the worst year of my life by the end of my pregnancy i beg god to let me die cause i knew he was cheating on me but just could never find out, we moved to another state shortly after i had my beautiful boy everything has been going great, three days ago he confessed to me he cheated on me for eight months with another woman he said its been killing him keeping it from me i don't know what do now cause we have been so happy and i still love him so much but everything is in my name we started a retail store so we work together everyday. so the opportunity is not there for him now ,and i know this happen five years ago but for me it was yeaterday where do i go now does this mean he want do it again cause he told me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): oh please make yourself a favor and leave this man, a man who keeps a secret like this for so long doesnt love and doesn't respect u. i think u deserve more. think about it, good luck in making what is right for u.
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reader, so scared +, writes (23 September 2010):
Hello, I have to say I understand how your feeling right now. I posted about a week ago and I'm in a similar situation. The difference is a child may be involved. All I can say is pray and try counseling. I am still struggling with my emotions. I love him and I think about how long we have been together. I hope you all can work things out. I can say that love is alot of things including scary, strange, hard, pain, and complicated. I really wish you luck on your marriage. It's your decision on what to do but try to think it through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): I went thru the same thing with my husband of 9 years. He never came to me and admitted to anything. I had to find out the hard way. I stumbled upon emails on his computer. I have to give your husband some credit for coming forward and telling you the truth. I am not sure why after so many years...but it must have been something he could not move past. If you love this man the way you say you do, forgive him. Get some counseling and move on with your marriage. My husband and I have found help in our church. It will not be easy, it hurts. It will take awhile for the hurt to stop and for you to trust him again. He will need to be very understanding of your pain.
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reader, Mature Lady  +, writes (22 September 2010):
No I don't think because your husband admitted his affair to you that it means he is thinking of doing it again, he could be feeling guilty carrying the secret about for so long. I know how hurt you must be feeling, but as your marriage has been going fine for some time now you have to decide if you can move on from this. Most people make a big mistake sometime in life and this was his. I would let him know that if it happens again you will leave him.Good luck.
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