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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Aunts,So here's my story..I met my boyfriend online about a year ago. Ever since I met him, I felt the spark in him though we never met in person because we live at the different side of the world. I knew him from the picture he sent me. Never tried webcammed though. He also told me that he was wanting to come and visit me, and that was how it started off. We were so into each other. There's no way a day could pass by without us not talking. All late nights talk and morning's hello. Then one day something happened, I got fired from my workplace. And then the whole thing about him coming and visit me here somewhat changed. Instead, he asked to come to visit him and we probably could make it and I could probably get a new job there. I have told my family the whole thing about him coming here and they were excited at first, but when I told them that the plan changed, my parents started showing reactions. They're completely against it. I also figured out that my boyfriend has misled me with someone else's picture. And he lied to me about his age. I was torn knowing that, so I asked him why he did that. He said that he was kinda afraid telling me the truth because I used to tell him how I don't want to date an older guy and he really liked me. I didn't know if it made any sense but I know I love him so I forgave him. But then the whole thing about him coming to me changed and yet he started telling me to think about coming there and be with him. He said he's ready to pay for my trip and everything. But what should I do, my parents are against us. I tried to explain the reason why my parents act like this yet he got it the wrong way and telling me that I don't love him enough to come be with him. And ever since I told him I couldn't go against my parents, he somewhat changed. And when I asked him why he started being cold, he said that there's no use of hoping something that's not gonna happen. What should I do now?? I kinda feel that he's giving up on me..Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, Mature Lady  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Be very careful here,although internet romances do work out sometimes as I very well know,as my son married an Australian girl he met on the internet,he lives in Scotland they met twice before they got married when his girlfriend flew over to meet him,bringing a relative with her,It would not be a good idea for you to meet this boy on your own,and I can understand your family's concerns,I cannot understand why he cannot come and visit you.I hope it works out for you,my son and his wife have been married almost a year now and have settled here in Scotland and seem happy enough but although they had spoken to each other for three years on the net there was a lot they had to learn about each other.
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