I wake up in the morning feeling miserable
Q. Please help me everyone. I'm so upset. Since mine and my girlfriends break up almost 3 weeks ago, I find that I'm waking up in the morning miserable, and I don't know how to help it. This is starting to seem like depression, but I don't wan...
A. 15 July 2007: The loss of a relationship can feel like a death--you may just be grieving. 3 weeks isn't excessive.
Is the sadness just when you get up, or all day long? If it's just the morning, I wouldn't be too concerned. It hurts, but you'll heal. If it's ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are still in the same house for now, and he is making me miserable!!
Q. my ex partner and i are still living in the same house, until i get my settlement to put down as a deposit on my new home. I am still an equal owner in our home until i get that money and sign off the deeds but when we are in the house together...
A. 15 July 2007: "Am i weak for moving out knowing she is coming round?"
No! Taking care of yourself if more important than making some sort of point. As long as you get the money you have coming, staying in that house gains you nothing (except stress and bitterne... (read in full...)
Is is ok for a 17 year old male to have sex with a 20 year old female?
Q. Is ok if a 20yr(My Girl) and a 17yr old(Me) date and there is sex involved???...
A. 15 July 2007: You definitely need to find out the laws of your state. There are places in the US where your girlfriend could end up in prison for having sex with you. And she could end up listed as a sexual predator for the rest of her life, which means she could ... (read in full...)
I get jealous because I cant compare to airbrushed models in a magazine
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice verca. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am bett...
A. 15 July 2007: The answer below is one I completely agree with! It does sound like depression.
I struggled with body image issues and depression myself. Things that have helped:
*Getting rid of all my mirrors except one, and only looking into it when absolute... (read in full...)
How can I stand up for myself more and say NO to sex?
Q. I'm 17 and I've had sex with 5 diferent people. They were all "relationships" (or what I naivly thought would become one) but only one of them was serious. This was with my first boyfriend and I slept with him (and lost my virginity to him) after ...
A. 15 July 2007: "dont know what to say, how to tell them to go away???"
You don't need to tell them anything--just screen them out as much as possible. Don't reply to text-messages, block their emails, don't answer when they call. If you do happen to pick up ... (read in full...)
Basically how do I finger her to orgasm?
Q. I really need help with figuring out how to finger my girlfriend properly. She's tossed me off 2 times now all the way to orgasm and I still haven't fingered her to orgasm - am I doing something wrong? Is it harder to get girls to orgasm than boys? ...
A. 15 July 2007: Here's a page that shows and explains all the equipment:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/anatomy_pink_parts_female_sexual_anatomy
It doesn't mention the G-spot, though, which not all women have, apparently. Just concentrate on t... (read in full...)
Did she end our relationship to date someone else? Any advice?
Q. I am a 24 year old male and have been dating a 21 year old girl for 3 and a half years before she decided to split up with me. The reason being she said I had made no commitment to her in all this time. I tried to explian I am one year off becoming ...
A. 15 July 2007: If I'm doing the math right, she was 17 and a half when you started going with her. From 17 to 21, a person can go through a lot of changes. There may be someone else, or she may just feel that you're not the right person for her any more. Or maybe ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up--so how do I make him want me more?
Q. i av this guy who is got blonde hair and blue eyes and i liked him so much the first day i saw him the next time i saw him he stole my number from his friend who talked to me first then asked me out i went and i fell for him so much that i had sex ...
A. 15 July 2007: You can't MAKE someone love you or want you, alas. That is the simple truth. ... (read in full...)
I've been on the pill for 2 years, and came off the pill on the 8th May for me and my partner to try for a baby...
Q. I've been on the pill for 2 years, and came off the pill on the 8th May for me and my partner to try for a baby. This is my period at the moment Came off the pill 8th May Period Started 11th May - 14th May Next period 13th May - 17th Ma...
A. 15 July 2007: When I went off the pill, my periods went back immediately to the way they were before I was on the pill, and they were regular as clockwork.... (read in full...)
I thought everything was going great until he left his mobile in the bathroom and I had a quick look at his messages.
Q. Have been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks and really like him. I thought everything was going great until he left his mobile in the bathroom and I had a quick look at his messages. I know this was wrong but I really didn't think I'd find anything. I ...
A. 15 July 2007: If you and he never discussed being monogamous, he may figure that you are both still dating around. After all it's only been a month and a half. In school, that's a long-term relationship, but not when you're in your thirties. I know it's hard to ... (read in full...)
We have been together 3 and a half years and are very much in love, but how can it turn me on to imagine her with somebody else?
Q. It really turns me on to watch my girlfriend use her rampant rabbit sex toy while I masturbate. At the time I am imagining another person with her and I think she is too! We have been together 3 and a half years and are very much in love, but how...
A. 15 July 2007: The brain is the biggest and most importatant sex organ in the human body! Isn't it amazing that we can be turned on sexually (and some of us can even climax) just from thinking? "how can it turn me on to imagine her with somebody else?" ... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to still hope? I really love this guy we're both really young but it felt right. Please help!
Q. I broke up with my ex about 4 months ago. I really loved him and I'm sure that he loved me too. We were so close and I felt so comfortable with him it was something special. Anyway we broke because rumours started about him (which have since proved ...
A. 15 July 2007: You're going to have to be direct--ask him what he thinks. If you don't, you'll always regret it. If he says that there's no chance of getting back together, it'll it hurt, but you can move on.... (read in full...)
I have no desire to have sex, am I wierd?
Q. Hi I have no desire to have sex, am I wierd? Most people my age seem to be obsessed by it but to be honest I don't feel the need to have sex, I'm not really interested in it. Why is this? I'm too scared to admit this to my friends....
A. 15 July 2007: Not everyone is into fine dining. Some people hate to shop. There are folks who would rather poke an eye out than dance. We're all different. This may be a temporary phase for you, or you may be asexual. Either way, it leaves you with more time f... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to seduce me?
Q. Is my ex trying to seduce me? Alright so here's how it goes down, my ex and I broke up almost a year ago because I was more like a older brother than a boyfriend I guess you could say. So anyway we are still really close friends and we hang out ...
A. 15 July 2007: Yes,she is. Most definitely. She wants you back.... (read in full...)
I would be interested in hearing peoples views on the inconsistancy that seems to be EVERYWHERE through the bible!
Q. This question is not so much about relationships but I am studying religious studies in college and I'm finding it fascinating! My friend is part of a pentacostal church and it's ridiculous. If anyone has seen that church scene in Borat it is just ...
A. 15 July 2007: It all makes more sense if you just think of it as mythology. The Greeks had their stories about the denizens of Mt. Olympus, and the ancient Israelites wandering the desert had their own tribal stories. The Israelites were just the first to think ... (read in full...)
How can I stand up for myself more and say NO to sex?
Q. I'm 17 and I've had sex with 5 diferent people. They were all "relationships" (or what I naivly thought would become one) but only one of them was serious. This was with my first boyfriend and I slept with him (and lost my virginity to him) after ...
A. 15 July 2007: I fear that your lack of confidence and assertiveness is attracting creeps. They know darn well you don't want to do it, but also can sense that you are too timid to say no. A man who has sex with you after you say you're not sure you want to, and... (read in full...)
I need some reassurance about this ugly keloid scar on my chest.
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and I have a Keloid scar on my chest. I can't bare it anymore! It's always there I can't escape from it. I see it everyday when I get dressed, sometimes it hurts and is just a reminder it's there. When I was younger this boy used to say I ...
A. 15 July 2007: Okay, one dork made fun of you. He was an idiot. But everyone gets made fun of at least once, usually for something they can't help. (my husband, who was born with cerebral palsy, has some stories to tell) Don't let some moron make you ... (read in full...)
This is my first ever second base and now I am not sure how far she is wanting to go
Q. Hey, My girlfriend and I are both 17 and we have been going out for about one month. Last night when we were making out on my bed she guided my hand to her breast. This is my first ever second base and now I am not sure how far she is wanti...
A. 14 July 2007: Just put your hand a little under her shirt, on her tummy (maybe tickle her a little, not too much, you don't want to make her wet her pants), then look her in the eyes, smile, and ask, "May I?"... (read in full...)
What's the best thing my friend can do here?
Q. A girl just got kicked out of her uncles's house and her car repossessed this morning. She's due to report to work and her uncle and ex hubby just cashed the checks she post dated to them. She's staying with me for the time being, but I have n...
A. 14 July 2007: She can called the police or the sheriff (depending on where she lives)--they will accompany her to her uncle's house so she can safely get her belongings. Her uncle has no legal right whatsoever to keep them. The police can also tell her what ri... (read in full...)
I'm worried about her and so upset and I can't help thinking I could have done something to make her stay.
Q. It's my last day of year 9 today and 1st thing in the morning one of my closest friends announced that she was leaving school next school year. She couldn't tell us until it was definite apparently. As you can imagine me and others spent most of the ...
A. 14 July 2007: Maybe you could have made her stay, but she may have ended up resenting you for it. This new school is an opportunity for her, and it wouldn't be right for you to keep her from it. If your friendship with her is strong, it can withstand the ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to get a good nights sleep?
Q. I'm really scared and I need help here. My boyfriend has been having problems sleeping. Maybe it's the temperature of my room, but I tried my best to open all the windows. He was awake the whole time during the night. It has been a week since he...
A. 14 July 2007: How long have you two been sleeping in the same bed? If you two just started spending nights together, it may be just the unfamiliarity that's keeping him awake. If that's the case, he'll probably adjust. If you two have been living together ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain to me what love can do to you?
Q. Can someone explain to me what love can do to you? I've been reading many things on the internet about love and how seretin or somthing can decrease and how men don't have as much testosterone as normal. Is this true or just false? I have been wi...
A. 14 July 2007: The scientific study of love is very new. What studies that are out there involve very few test subjects, and the results are often contradictory. So I wouldn't take what they say too seriously. Depression is not a normal consequence of l... (read in full...)
It's killing me because he expects me to spend time with him 24/7 he is smothering me.
Q. Hi, I have recently started dating a real nice peaceful guy, at first I thought the fact that he has no friends and hates going out to places would make life easier for me, but now it's killing me because he expects me to spend time with him 24/7 he ...
A. 13 July 2007: Run. Run. Run away. Run fast. He is an emotional black hole, and possibly an abuser (they like to isolate you from friends and family before they begin the abuse). Whatever you give him, it will never be enough.
RUN!!!!!! ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to reach my target weight with my diet plan?
Q. I plan to go on a peach and orange fruit diet for 7 days. And just going for brisk walks in the morning (no other excercise). Right now I am a size 7-8. I want to get down to a size at least 5. Is it possible for me to reach my goal?...
A. 13 July 2007: That diet is very likely to give you diarrhea. To some people, that may be desirable--thy're called bulemics.
Unless you are quite fine-boned and short, 7-8 is a perfectly healthy size. Why are you wasting your time on this? ... (read in full...)
Are penises supposed to point up when erect?
Q. When I was younger and dated younger men their penises would always point straight up when erect. The last two guys I dated (one was 44, the other, 40) had penises that when erect, pointed down and even to the side! Is this an age/health thing or ...
A. 13 July 2007: It's probably an age-related blood circulation thing. Hey, as long as they still work, what's the problem?... (read in full...)
My parents dont like my tattooed boyfriend
Q. I am only 14 years old and I really like this 16 year old. He has two tattoos and my parents don't like the fact that he has them. I like making out with him but it feels like i want more and don't know how to tell him and plus I want him to know i ...
A. 13 July 2007: I would think that making out with him would tell him that you like him as more than a friend, unless things have changed a whole lot since I was in school.
As for your parents not liking your boyfriend--demonstrate to them that he's not a bad in... (read in full...)
He is a great boyfriend, but completely clueless as to the little things
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, and I have gotten to the point where the "little things" just seem to agitate me more. He is generally a great boyfriend- loyal, treats me well, keeps me involved in his life, tries to keep me ...
A. 13 July 2007: There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, a perfect boyfriend-girlfriend-husband-etc. And no one is ever completely satisfied with their life. There's a saying: the perfect is the enemy of the good. If you expend too much effort trying to get ... (read in full...)
He is harrassing me about spending 150 on a laptop when he spends 170 a month on BEER!
Q. Im 19 and my fiance is 26. for some reason i feel like i'm wasting my time! we have been together 9 months and have known each other 4 months before we got together. i have kinda moved in with him and his dad and sister. because of the hassle we ...
A. 13 July 2007: Buying a home together at this point would be a mistake. Your fiance may be seven years older than you, but you are the mature one. Do you really want to be saddled with a 26 year old little boy? Yuck.... (read in full...)
He is mad about a one night stand that happened 7 years ago!
Q. 10 Years ago I went out with this lad for 3 years, we had a very volatile relationship, we were always finishing, but was strange as we did really love each other and the sex was always great, 1 of the times we split up for 3 months a during that ...
A. 13 July 2007: Don't apologize or explain to him--you did nothing wrong. I'm sure he's had his own one-night stand(s), so he's just using the old sexist double standard on you.
It's obvious why your relationship is on-and-off--he's a jerk, pure and simple. ... (read in full...)
My 'friends with benifits' is going to get married, but I want him now!
Q. I am confused about my feelings for my best friend. I'll call him David. I met David 4 years ago. We met through mutual friends and our social circles and interests just crossed paths. We are both involved in an organized sports...
A. 13 July 2007: One man in your life was emotionally distant, and the other is in a serious relationship.
You need to ask yourself this question: Why do you get involved with unavailable men? Is this a pattern in your life? Do you somehow feel you don't deserve ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with us fat girls?
Q. Whats wrong with fat gals? Im a fat gal. I take good care of myself. Better than a lot of skinny gals. Why dont i get noticed? My best friend is skinny and she smells ,always have dog hair all over her cloths ,her handr are dirty ,whx do guys like ...
A. 13 July 2007: Because guys in your age group are too worried about what their friends will think. I was considered 'too fat' in high school, and no one ever asked me out. When I graduated and got out into the real world, many men (not boys!) found me attractive, ... (read in full...)
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