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writes:Hi, I'm 17 and I have a Keloid scar on my chest. I can't bare it anymore! It's always there I can't escape from it. I see it everyday when I get dressed, sometimes it hurts and is just a reminder it's there. When I was younger this boy used to say I have an "extra tit" which I know is silly but I'M SO UPSET RIGHT NOW! I've been crying and feel so helpless about it. I usually don't let it bother me but sometimes I get really upset. I don't go swimming and I can't wear many tops or dresses. The scar is red and raised and looks horrible and it's about an inch under my collar bone so it's hard to hide. Sometimes I want to be able to wear a top that's a bit low. I don't want you to think I'm vain or obssessed but it's summer and I'm just really upset and self concious, I feel trapped by it. I know being upset won't make it go away and I don't know what I'm asking. I've tried steroid injections and other things but it seems to be slowly growing. I'm young and white, and it's most common in older people, black or asian! What are the chances?? I'm scared people will think it's horrible or ugly (which it is) and so I can't get changed in the same room as someone else. P.E. at school was a nightmare. I would just like a bit of reassurance I guess, I'm not sure what about but I just feel horrible. I've cried about twice just thinking about it as im writing this. Thanks for reading.
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reader, LynstHolin  +, writes (15 July 2007):
Okay, one dork made fun of you. He was an idiot. But everyone gets made fun of at least once, usually for something they can't help. (my husband, who was born with cerebral palsy, has some stories to tell) Don't let some moron make you unhappy--don't let him win!Don't obsess over what your body looks like--take pleasure in what it can do, in how strong and healthy it is. Whatever you like to do physically--dance,bike, ski, swim, whatever--do it on a regular basis. It will make you feel better about yourself. Also, strength training is great for giving body confidence.And think about it--how often do you really notice the flaws of others? When you do,do you care that much? We are our own worst critics--no one notices your scar all that much, I guarantee it.If your scar hurts, maybe you could have surgery done to reduce it.
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reader, Xxblinded_in_chainsxX +, writes (15 July 2007):
 well your story is similar to mine, though i was a huge dork when i was a kid (still am) and everyone would pick on me. i would come home from school crying because of the abuse. but i learned a little tip that my father told me. you need to embrace your flaws, no matter they be mental or physical, and make them your own. people who make fun of other people usually feel rejected inside, and the only way to make them feel better is to make someone else feel worse. yes, i kno that what you are going thru is probably much worse than what i did, but its the same concept. growing up, i had 2 friends. now, i have countless friends, but im still the biggest dork you will ever meet! dont be ashamed of who you are. GOD made you that way on purpose. make it your own. the best way to get thru somthing, is to be able to make fun of yourself.hope i helped! ;)
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