He asked me to dinner.....but never called me back!
Q. A guy I went on a couple of dates with told me that he doesn't want to date around anymore, that he wants to just date one person. He was implying that he wanted to date me, but he didn't come out and ask me. Then he asked if I'd be interested in ...
A. 9 March 2006: He told you to call him when you are free!! If he had said he would call you than that would be different. He is probably waiting for your call. ... (read in full...)
He abuses drugs and me. Am I doing the right thing...ending all this?
Q. Dear Cupid, Sorry- this is kind of long!! I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years yesterday, I'm 30 and he is 26. I lived with him until 2 months ago. I lived with him for 3 years, where I found out he had a severe drug addiction, and that he w...
A. 3 March 2006: Coming from a recovering addict: he needs to be alone in order to get himself straight. He has to do it for himself, not for you or anyone else. Its hard to understand, but leaving him may be the best thing you could ever do for him. It may open ... (read in full...)
He abuses drugs and me. Am I doing the right thing...ending all this?
Q. Dear Cupid, Sorry- this is kind of long!! I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years yesterday, I'm 30 and he is 26. I lived with him until 2 months ago. I lived with him for 3 years, where I found out he had a severe drug addiction, and that he w...
A. 3 March 2006: Coming from a recovering addict: he needs to be alone in order to get himself straight. He has to do it for himself, not for you or anyone else. Its hard to understand, but leaving him may be the best thing you could ever do for him. It may open ... (read in full...)
I always take him back and cannot walk away...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since sept 2004. In that time we've worked our way through several situations to keep our relationship going. I have been told by several different girls that he has cheated on me, but I always speak to him and he denies ...
A. 14 February 2006: I went through the same type thing. Only I ended up marrying the jerk. (We are now divorced.) Just tell yourself that you deserve better. Yeah, it will hurt for a while without him. But, eventually you will meet someone new - take it from me. ... (read in full...)
I can release milk...help!
Q. I am pretty embarrassed about this so that is why I am writing anonyumously. I am 22 and for the last three years, up to two months ago, I'd been living with my bf but now we have split up and he has moved out. He hasn't left me pregnant or given me ...
A. 7 February 2006: How did getting adventerous in your lovemaking make you start releasing milk?... (read in full...)
I'm too self-conscious to be on top, and it leaves me feeling inept...
Q. Ok, I feel so stupid admitting this, but whenever I have sex with a guy, I can't go on top. It;s dumb, but I get really self conscious, and can never seem to get into it...he clearly doesn't enjoy it, and after a while my ineptitude just gets ...
A. 3 February 2006: I can understand how you feel. I was with the same man for 9+ years. My first. Then after we broke up, I was very scared when I was with the second man. I was only used to my first. So, it took me almost a year before I was comfortable getting ... (read in full...)
Druges help me feel a little better...help
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 5 mths. ago. He cheated and i do not want him back. i can't seem to get happy without him. I do drugs to numb thee pain. I am a mess. help. ...
A. 2 February 2006: Please quit using drugs to hide your pain. It only makes the pain worse in the long run, because you wake up one day and realize you have screwed up your life and your pain is still there. You will get over him. Trust me, I divorced over ... (read in full...)
Can I get the Pill without having to see doctors or take blood tests?
Q. Me and my first boyfriend are planning on getting serious in our relationship for the first time and I'm wondering if I should go on the pill. The only problem is I have a huge fear of doctors and I would like to know if they do any sort of tests ...
A. 1 February 2006: They don't do blood tests in the US for pills. All they do is a female exam which does NOT include needles. If you are going to be having sex, going to the gynecologist is something you need to get used to anyway. Its not bad, just a little ... (read in full...)
My Mother has said if I don't gain weight I can't see my bf...this is so unfair! Help
Q. Ok this a very random question but i need help. My mom and i keep getting into arguements about my weight. Im 20 years of age and i weigh about 107 - 108 pounds. My mom is nagging me about my weight and is constantly telling me that i need to g...
A. 31 January 2006: To tell if you have a weight problem, I really need to know what height you are. I am about 5'1.5" and I only weigh about 95-97 lbs. And, I am perfectly healthy. Ask your mom why she feels this way? Does she think you are doing something that is ... (read in full...)
I am having thoughts of killing people and then myself..I need help desperately. Please advise!
Q. Dear Cupid, Hi i'm a 23 year old female. In need of some desperate help. I know this has really nothing to do with a relationship or sex for that matter. But i hoping to get some advice . So here's the problem. I have been having some terrible...
A. 30 January 2006: You are not alone. A lot of people suffer from things like this. But, haming yourself or others, is not the answer. Go see a doctor, they may be able to put you on medication to calm you down. And, talking to someone may help. Oh, and dump the ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, a mum, and expecting twins! If I tell the baby's dad, I'm afraid he'll leave!
Q. I am 16 years old and I already have a son called Nicholas. I recently found out I am three months pregnant. Yesterday I went for a scan and have found out that I am expecing twins - I'm together with the father but I know how he will react to this ...
A. 25 January 2006: Im sorry, but you have to tell him. The sooner - the better. The longer you wait, the more pissed off he is going to be that you hid it from him. If he leaves you, then he doesn't deserve you anyway. You didn't make the baby all by yourself. ... (read in full...)
I have a discharge...please advise me
Q. I have been getting really smelly discharge recently, its worse after i have had sex with my partner but its not the sex that is causing it. Its sort of like a watery discharge and it smells a bit fishy, its horrible. It doesnt matter how many times ...
A. 24 January 2006: It definitely sounds like a bacteria infection. It can easily be treated with an antibiotic. I went through the same thing once. My doctor gave me an antibiotic and it went away. After you clear it up, you need to make sure that you don't ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how long a divorce takes to run through?
Q. I'm currently going through divorce. My ex has been violent through out the marriage. I've been seperated since May 04. He's going to contest the divorce. How long its going to drag? any ideas? Also I'd like to know when the financial settlement ...
A. 23 January 2006: They are right where they said it depends on where you live. I live in the US. You have to be seperated for 6 months, then the divorce can be filed. Good luck to you. Go speak to an attorney. You can always just call one and ask these questions ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and said to cancel the counselling session. Can I do anything else, other than just deal?
Q. My bf broke up with me between Christmas and New Years, and I could tell something was wrong for a week beforehand, but he kept saying things were fine. We had bought committment rings for each other, promised each other we'd be together forever,...
A. 18 January 2006: That is a hard situation. I know that you both probably do still love each other. But, there is some reason he doesn't want to be together. It is fine if you want to wait a little while, but don't wait forever. Leave your possibilities open to ... (read in full...)
Is cheating contagious?
Q. Hi... If a boyfriend constantly has friends that are either cheaters or way younger than he is, is this a warning of what our relationship will be like in the future?...
A. 17 January 2006: It is not contagious. But, I will tell you that guys can be influenced. My ex hung with cheaters, losers, etc. And, guess what, after 6 years, he became one. Not to say that will always happen. But they do say there is something to be said ... (read in full...)
We really love each other, but we can't marry because he and I are of different castes! What can I do?
Q. Hi! I really need your help. I am 26 and my boyfriend is 24. He says he can't marry me as our caste is different and he doesn't want to hurt his parents. We are into physical relationship. I really love him and can't stay away from him. I am really...
A. 11 January 2006: What is caste?... (read in full...)
His ex gf showed up at the hospital when I took him to emergency...are they still fooling around?
Q. Recently my boyfriend of eight years hurt his back and I took him to the emergency room Well I called his father to meet us there so he could help me get him out of the car. A girl he cheated on me with 5 years ago(and adored by his mother) and has ...
A. 11 January 2006: I don't think you should leave him just because she decided to show up. You know that he didn't call her to come. Just watch out for other signs before you make any decisions. If they have a child together, than they have to have contact. Maybe ... (read in full...)
When should I tell my boyfriend I love him?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. I have been going out with my boyfriend for three months now. I think I am really in love with him, but how do I know if its the right time to say I love you? I'm going to see him this Saturday and I really want to turn him ...
A. 11 January 2006: If you really love him, just say it when it feels right (like right after sex when hes holding you or something). Just be prepared for the fact that he may not say it back. If that happens, it doesn't mean that he doesn't, he just may not be ... (read in full...)
Am I too needy and insecure of my high-flying boyfriend?
Q. Dear cupid. I hope someone out there will be able to give me some advice on my situation. I have been in the best relationship of my entire life with the man of my dreams, and we want to marry, he is currently in NY working on a project for...
A. 10 January 2006: Please do not worry. He apparently loves you no matter what you know or don't know. It isn't him purposely making you feel this way, it is your insecurities which I can understand. Just try to tell yourself that you are worth it! You can't ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as relationship Karma?
Q. Is there such a thing as relationship Karma - I would love to hear anyone's stories and experiences with this. I had a boyfriend who lied, cheated, made me believe everything was my fault, dumped me and within a few weeks is dating someone e...
A. 9 January 2006: I believe in Karma. I went through a terrible time like you. Only I didn't get out as fast. I even ended up marrying the jerk. We dated for 6 years and were married for 3. He was lying, cheating, etc. And, like you-I was perfect to him. But, ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age to the woman of my dreams. She thinks I'm 20, but I'm actually 26!
Q. I have been dating the woman of my dreams for 10 months. Everything has been going great... but I've kept one big secret from her. I lied about my age. I told her I was 20 years old when in fact I am 26. She is 19 and I feared that if I told her ...
A. 29 December 2005: Well, there is no easy solution. But, you need to tell her right away. The longer you take, the harder it will be. Just explain to her why you lied in the first place. Tell her that you had no idea you would end up with these strong feelings for ... (read in full...)
How do I get away from my verbally-abusive, drug dependant ex boyfriend so I can get on with my life?
Q. Sorry, this is kind of a long one, but it is quite a story, so hopefully someone will read it and give me some advice. I am almost 30 and have been with my 26 year old boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. I moved in with him 3 years ago. After I moved in, ...
A. 29 December 2005: Well, first of all let me say that I am very sorry. I just went through the EXACT same thing. I had been with my (now ex-) husband for 9 years (married for 3). He had a bad drug addiction as well. He would cheat on me and be very verbally ... (read in full...)
I caught my fiance lying and cheating
Q. I've been in a relationship with my fiance for 3 years we recently moved I know no one here neither does he but, I just caught him lying and acting different I suspected him cheating I found numbers and I questioned him he finally came out and told ...
A. 29 December 2005: Every situation is different, but from experience, living with someone that has cheated on you doesn't get better. I took back my now ex-husband after he cheated. We lasted another 2 years, but I regretted it the whole time. He never earned his ... (read in full...)
I will do ANYTHING to impress people!
Q. Basically, I have a huge problem. I am a try-hard, and will do ANYTHING to impress people. I lie, exaggerate, and make things up to make people like me. I realise that the whiff of desperation is hanging around me, but I can't help myself! ...
A. 29 December 2005: My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have ... (read in full...)
I will do ANYTHING to impress people!
Q. Basically, I have a huge problem. I am a try-hard, and will do ANYTHING to impress people. I lie, exaggerate, and make things up to make people like me. I realise that the whiff of desperation is hanging around me, but I can't help myself! ...
A. 29 December 2005: My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have ... (read in full...)
I will do ANYTHING to impress people!
Q. Basically, I have a huge problem. I am a try-hard, and will do ANYTHING to impress people. I lie, exaggerate, and make things up to make people like me. I realise that the whiff of desperation is hanging around me, but I can't help myself! ...
A. 29 December 2005: My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have ... (read in full...)
I left my girlfriend but now she has kept all my stuff!
Q. I had been in a four year stormy but loving relationship, which she broke up a few weeks ago after a minor silly row,and i moved back to my house, i found out it was just an excuse to get me out the house so she could give her brother somewhere to ...
A. 29 December 2005: If I were you, since she is using the police, why don't you do the same? Call the police and explain to them what is going on and have them escort you over there to get your belongings back. I know that sounds drastic but since she is not ... (read in full...)
Told my boyfriend I love him... But all I got is silence in return
Q. I am in a similar situation as one of the other readers. I too told my boyfriend I loved him with him not saying that in return. I am so scared now that I will have scared him away. That night he was extra sweet and I have to say that I kinda ...
A. 29 December 2005: Just want to thank you all for your responses. I really appreciate it. I am starting to feel better. I just want to talk to him to make sure everything is okay. Don't know whether to call him or give him time like StarNews said. Maybe I will ... (read in full...)
How long to fall in love?
Q. how long does it take to fall in love?...
A. 28 December 2005: There is no set amount of time before you fall in love. I have been with my boyfriend about 10 months now. I know I am in love with him. But, with him, it is taking longer for him to know. So, you will know when you love someone. You will feel ... (read in full...)
He gave me a ring...now he wants us to become sexual and have a baby. What should I do?
Q. I am a sophmore and am really in love with a guy. He is older then me by 6 years but we have been dating for over a year. We are really close and can communicate by looking at each other eyes. He got me a ring for christmas, and is ready to take it ...
A. 28 December 2005: Hello!!! You are still in high school. What the hell are you doing even thinking about a baby. I am sorry, but you need to slooooow down big time. If you are ready for sex, thats your choice. But, don't bring a baby into the world until you are ... (read in full...)
I need help to persuade my parents that my boyfriend and I won't have sex while we're alone for a week...
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend's parents are going away for a week. My boyfriend is staying at mine, but I'm on a mattress downstairs and he is in my room. It was a yes to him staying in my room but now they've changed their minds. I don't want to have ...
A. 27 December 2005: Girl, come on. I am 26 years old and if my boyfriend and I went to stay at my parents house, no way would my dad let us sleep together. Get real. You are a 16 year old child and your parents are only looking out for you. Be grateful that they ... (read in full...)
I have pre-wedding jitters..is this normal or is there more to it because I met up with an old gf?
Q. I am engaged to be married and am due to get married in about 3 months. I care deeply for the girl I am going to marry and we have built a great life together and I miss her over the few days of christmas that we are apart. She is an attractive girl ...
A. 27 December 2005: You are having NORMAL pre-wedding jitters. Everyone gets scared that they are making a mistake. And, it sounds like you are just having lust for the old flame. You don't even know her anymore to know if you really would care about her. But, if ... (read in full...)
Do I try to date him now even though he is with my friend?
Q. I met this guy a few years ago that I thought was totally annoying and I blew him off. Two years later he started dating my friend and we've started talking again but on a hi/bye basis. Until last week when we started talking on line and bumping ...
A. 27 December 2005: I definitely do not think you should go for it while he is with your friend. You are the one who passed up the chance, don't make your friend hurt because of your mistake. You can always tell your friend how you feel and see how she reacts. Or, ... (read in full...)
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