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writes: I am a sophmore and am really in love with a guy. He is older then me by 6 years but we have been dating for over a year. We are really close and can communicate by looking at each other eyes. He got me a ring for christmas, and is ready to take it to the next level.He wants to become sexual and possibly have a baby. What should I do?
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reader, llqueen +, writes (28 December 2005):
Hello!!! You are still in high school. What the hell are you doing even thinking about a baby. I am sorry, but you need to slooooow down big time. If you are ready for sex, thats your choice. But, don't bring a baby into the world until you are settled. Trust me-you have a lot of growing up to do first.
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reader, watrbot +, writes (27 December 2005):
you are only a sophomore- you have your whole life ahead of you-there is a world out there that you haven't experienced yet- go to college and have some fun before settling down and having a family because once you settle down, it's hard to get back out there-trust me, I know from experience.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (27 December 2005):
 Hi dear, my own advise is that if u feel u love him and him you and this is what u want then go ahead. if u arent sure then tell him u need to think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): ok, was this ring and engagement ring or just a ring? there is a big difference. if it was an engagement ring and he proposed marriage, this guy is serious (probably) about having a long future with you. so are you saying that this ring means that he wants to become sexual with you? have a baby with you? well my dear, the answer to your question "what should i do?" is quite simple. you should do as much as you are comfortable doing without any pressure from anyone else. if you feel you are really ready for marriage (which i am assuming what the ring was for), then realize all the implications of marriage and go for it. if not, then don't or wait it out until you become ready. if you feel ready for sex..then go for it, if not, then wait. you shouldn't let some ring that was given to you persuade you into doing anything that you don't really feel like you want or are ready to do.
just remember that when talking about having a baby, there are a lot of things you need to think about. how old are you? are you financially independant and able to support another life? are you emotionally ready for the challenges of motherhood? is your boyfriend? having a baby is a huge decision to make because you will be bringing another life into the world whom you are 100% responsible for feeding, clothing, educating, etc. maybe you are young, and there are a lot of things you'd like to accomplish before having this baby (ex school, working). once you have a baby, there is no turning back or giving it back, it is yours for life. are you ready for the type of commitment????? talk to your bf and plan plan plan. most importantly: don't do anything that you are not 100% comfortable with or there could be some major regrets down the road. best of luck!
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