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writes: A guy I went on a couple of dates with told me that he doesn't want to date around anymore, that he wants to just date one person. He was implying that he wanted to date me, but he didn't come out and ask me. Then he asked if I'd be interested in having dinner with him. I said yes, but didn't ask when, so we didn't set a date. He said to call him when I'm free.I'm not sure what to do at this point. He is kind of vague. It's been over a week and I haven't heard from him. Is he waiting for me to call? Friends are telling me that men need to be the ones to chase, and since we're still "courting" that he should be the one to call to make arrangements for the date. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): The exact same thing just happend to me. I went out with a great guy twice. He made all the same implications as your date. And I reacted the same way as you have....in confusion. It too has been 1 week and I feel very mislead. Im actually getting pissed off. Im busy and dont date much at all so I am very sensitive to this feeling of rejection and if I dont hear from him in the next 2 days. (BTW, I sent email asking if we were "still on 4 dinner"-no reply). Im going to write again, a last time to tell him how distastful and tacky he behaved. Im starting to think that his confidence was just ego and false bravado. MC
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): I think men do like to chase to a certain degree but they also need to know that you’re interested in them. Call him to arrange another date - whatever the outcome, I am sure he’ll be flattered that you want to see him again. If he doesn’t want to see you again, at least you have an answer. If he does want to see you again - result! I dare you to call him!!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (9 March 2006):
 Just ring him, put yourself out of your misery one way or another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): Call him, but do it right: in other word, do it with confidence, and if you cannot do so, then don't make the call (you're calling to ask him out...not to ask his permission to ask him out). You've got to have at least as much going for you as he has...and the sooner you realize that the better.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (9 March 2006):
He told you to call him when you are free!! If he had said he would call you than that would be different. He is probably waiting for your call.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (9 March 2006):
 Oh dear. He who dares wins and all that!!
Go for it. He said call he when you are free. You can only ask, what is the worst that can happen - he can say no and leave you with a bruised ego for all of 5 minutes. Be a devil. Take a chance and phone him.
I dare you.
Good luck
xxx
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reader, twinkle +, writes (9 March 2006):
 hi, if you really like this guy then go for it call him maby he feels the same way, as he told you to call him he might think your not interested and might be worried to call you for that reason. the way i see it is if you dont try calling him then you'll never know what might have been so why not go for it whats the worst that can happen? good luck.kay :D
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