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writes: Recently my boyfriend of eight years hurt his back and I took him to the emergency room Well I called his father to meet us there so he could help me get him out of the car. A girl he cheated on me with 5 years ago(and adored by his mother) and has a child by him showed up after his mother who I do not speak to came. He claims he has nothing to do with her. I know he did not call her but I am making the decision to leave him because why would she come unless they are still fooling around. Tell me your opinion because the situation seems crazy.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (12 January 2006):
 You have the right to feel sad. He cheated on you with her in the past, and that is something you will never forget. I just hope it is something you have learned in time to forgive. It sounds like you carry a heavy heart. Remember he is with you, so believe in him, because it is you that he loves. Since he has a child with her, I feel that is the only understandable reason she is around. If he has given you no other doubts about his love for you, I would choose to believe him and stick by his side.
It sounds like his mother chooses to share a bond with the ex girlfriend. How does this make you feel? Have you ever spoke with his mother as to the reason you do not speak to one another? I truly hope you are able to work this out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI must let everyone know that jealousy is not a problem. I also have children with him before and after their child together. But she is at every single function and stuck under his mother. To have a child is one thing but there's sad feeling that it may be something else.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (11 January 2006):
 I doubt that her showing up at the emergency room is proof that they are fooling around. You said he didn't call her, so you know that it was not his wish for her to be there for him in his time of need. They have a child together, whether you like it or not he will always have to have some type of relationship with her for the child, but that doesn't mean that he is fooling around with her. Honestly, it sounds like the real problem here might be your jealousy of the ex. If I were you I would try to bring down my defenses some and accept that just because she shows concern for the father of her child doesn't mean he is doing anything with her. Good luck.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (11 January 2006):
I don't think you should leave him just because she decided to show up. You know that he didn't call her to come. Just watch out for other signs before you make any decisions. If they have a child together, than they have to have contact. Maybe she was just coming because the father of her child was hurt? Good luck.
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