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writes:Basically, I have a huge problem. I am a try-hard, and will do ANYTHING to impress people. I lie, exaggerate, and make things up to make people like me. I realise that the whiff of desperation is hanging around me, but I can't help myself! I have no friends, I don't know how to make friends, what should I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): My advice. Tell everyone the truth about everything. If you are honest with people, they will like you. And if they don't, then move one. I was in a relationship with someone who is a compulsive liar and tried to impress people so they would like him. Well, I loved him for who he was. But, that "impression" attitude pulled me away from him and I ended our relationship for good.
So, if you want to impress people, TELL THE TRUTH.. If you don't, it will come back to you in a hard way. And you will have no one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): just be true to everyone, speak out exactly what u feel.... if not everyone, i am sure that few will surely understand u and people who really love u will accept u as u are.....just be true to urself first and u will b surely admired by many.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): If I were you,I would look at the lies you tell and try to make them a reality.Like if you would say 'I am into extreme sports' when really the closest you get is watching them on TV,then look into becoming involved in real life.You'll be suprised at how easy it could be.Make a list of the things you would love to be able to tell people about yourself and then start making them a reality.Baby steps remember.Eventually,you'll be happy and confident enough to be youself.Plus,you'll meet new friends by taking up all these new activities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): Just don't try to impress people! It makes things worse!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): I see the problem in you is you lack confidence, second you lack self respect, love yourself first, and treat yourself well, don't care about what others think of you, just do what you like and look for thing that impress you, make you happy, your future, your wealth, health , your style etc...it will make you a strong person, just be a good helping person to all, be a casual peson, a cool, normal, or ordinary peson. Mingle with people of lower income, needy, sick and seniors. Thye need yourn friends like you, they will love your efforts to help them. Once the world see you in this height, they will seek your friendship, you have somthing to offer to them. You act like a leader here. You do not have to make false impressions. Further more, you will be alright, if you can find a church it will help you more, there you can find help in many ways and many trust worthy friends can be found in the church. Involve in church activities. Prayer groups,community services etc..
I believe this about you, you are a good human being to make friendship with, you are a valuable human being. Just believe in yourself, be confident, you will have lots of friends around. I am away from you anyway, I love to make friendship with you.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (30 December 2005):
 Lies have a way of catching up with you, and it doesnt take ayone very long to figure you out. They wont want to be around you, because nobody likes to feel they are being made a fool of. Lying to someone tends to make them feel that way. That is probably why you do not have many friends, and when you do acquire a friend, they dont stick around. I dont mean to put you down. You recognized the problem and admit to it, thats half the battle. People who lie most likely do it for the attention or to impress others. They dont realize the damage it may cause, until it is done to them. The only way you can have a good circle of friends is to be a good friend. Believe in yourself and be happy with who you are, and you will naturally attract good people into your life. They will accept you for who you are. Lying does not make you feel good. Period.
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (29 December 2005):
Hmmm , my suggestions is to join an intenet friendship site and make a promise to yourself not to lie or exaggerate. Maybe when you see you can make online pals by just being truthful then you will be able to apply it to the real world
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): All people are guna say to you is ''be yourself'', obviously you don't feel confortable being yourself otherwise you wouldnt be puttin in this front and lying. So maybe you could try things like this.. first off get a new image.. maybe your uncomfortable how you look or that cud b why ppl dont approach u.. look at what the 'popular' people around your area are wearing and try buyin some new clothes and gettin a new fashion.. some ppl may say this is shallow and ppl should like u for who u are but thats clearly not workin.. and these days ppl and teenagers dooooo judge ppl by their appearance. secondly u should learn how to jus generally be more happy with yourself i dont know u so i duno what to suggest.. maybe spend more time with family.. do u have cousins u could hang around with.. maybe u cud join their circle of friends to get more used to talkin to new ppl etc.. these r just a few things to consider.. join clubs maybe .. u wont b able to make other ppl appy and approach u if your not happy with yourself.. i duno but GOOD LUCK x x
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reader, llqueen +, writes (29 December 2005):
My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have to lie to get someone to like you, they aren't worth it anyway. TRUE FRIENDS WILL LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. Trust me, just be yourself and you will find friends. Good luck to you. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (29 December 2005):
My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have to lie to get someone to like you, they aren't worth it anyway. TRUE FRIENDS WILL LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. Trust me, just be yourself and you will find friends. Good luck to you. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (29 December 2005):
My advice is STOP TRYING SO HARD. People don't like fake people, and trust me, we can tell. You have to love yourself before anyone will like you and trust you to be in a friendship. I know its hard getting people to like you. But, if you have to lie to get someone to like you, they aren't worth it anyway. TRUE FRIENDS WILL LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. Trust me, just be yourself and you will find friends. Good luck to you. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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