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writes: I have been dating the woman of my dreams for 10 months. Everything has been going great... but I've kept one big secret from her. I lied about my age. I told her I was 20 years old when in fact I am 26. She is 19 and I feared that if I told her my real age she would not be interested. It has proven to be the biggest mistake I have ever made. I was hoping to get some advice from people that maybe have been in my same situation or a similar situation. I am scared to death! I know I've found my soul mate and I owe her the truth even if that means that she will leave me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): Anyone that lies about something like this obviously had/has something to hide. Yes, she might forgive you initially, but really - in the long run - you are screwed.
My advice - Keep your mouth shut and enjoy the "screwed" ;-) part for as long as it lasts. As the famous Himalayan saying goes:
"Only an idiot would steal their neighbour's goat when they would have been more than happy to give it to the said idiot - had he just asked..."
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): How did you get away with a silly lie like that? Girls love older guys and 7 years is a perfectly valid age gap at this time of your life. Tell her gently, and she should be fine, but she will be very confused as to why you have lied, probably just as much as I am! :)
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reader, bewildered +, writes (29 December 2005):
Thank you all for the advice. I'm going to talk to her tonight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): You should deffinetly tell her considering you don't want her to think you have lied or will lie about other things she may be upset at first but, she will probaly get over it as long as she feels the same way about you but, give her time and push it if she does get mad
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (29 December 2005):
 Dear, i agree with mummyofthree. u just have to tell her the truth and explain to her why u lied in the first place. hopefully she will be able to handle the it if she really loves u. Its better u tell her now than for her to find out.
Please, try to be honest to her from now on because trust is an important variable in a relationship.
Goodluck.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (29 December 2005):
 It sounds like you know what you have to do. As scary as it is you will have to tell her. Hopefully she will see that it was a small lie and be able to get over it, but there is a chance that she will use that as a basis for judging your character and find it hard to trust you in the future. Good luck to you.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (29 December 2005):
Well, there is no easy solution. But, you need to tell her right away. The longer you take, the harder it will be. Just explain to her why you lied in the first place. Tell her that you had no idea you would end up with these strong feelings for her. If she really loves you, she will forgive you. But, don't get mad at her if she needs time. Come clean. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): Tell her the truth and honest about why. She will find out one day and you will relieve a lot of stress from you as well.
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