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writes: Is there such a thing as relationship Karma - I would love to hear anyone's stories and experiences with this.I had a boyfriend who lied, cheated, made me believe everything was my fault, dumped me and within a few weeks is dating someone else seriously. It hurts that I tried so hard in the relationship to be a great girlfriend and worry about his feelings and his needs and I get trampled and then he turns up with a brand new girlfriend. It's like he comes out the winner and me the loser yet he acted with no morals, consideration or real emotion. People have said to me that Karma always catches up with people and I'm interested to know if anyone has experienced it. Whilst revenge is wrong, I wonder if the universe ever catches up with these love rats?Cheers
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reader, ericaDbitch  +, writes (20 February 2011):
yes,
there is karma
i stole someone's boyfriend. and came to find out, his dick
doesn't work.
he has performance anxiety, he cums quick, he finishes quick, and leaves me hanging. i have to play with myself to finish myself of. then, he like oral a lot. so he wants to satisfy me with oral.
i am so sorry i am with him. i just want to give him back to his x, and tell her, here have him back. he is a looser.
karma really beat my ass.
help me ...how can i kick him out.?
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reader, suzy7769 +, writes (9 January 2006):
yes there is. I believe so. I had a B/F for 6years and he treated me badly! He was so cocky when we broke up and i was very upset. He regreted it later on. I saw him rescently(2yrs later) and he said it was one of his biggest regrets!.and I believe him. But I'm having the same problem now as you! My ex of 1 1/2 yrs has cheated on me and is with someone else straight away. If you know you did everything to try and make it work you can move on easier, He can NEVER get better than you but you can always get better. I think the best advise anyone ever gave me was
'the best revenge is Happiness'
And its true! Feel sorry for there next victim! I would rather go through life and get hurt at least once because it doe's make you stronger, I changed dramatically after my ex of 6years! Just find yourself again, know who you are. Do things for you and you'll realise that he took alot from you. He will think about you. If you become strong and independent he will be more attratcted to you.
Trust me the anger goes and eventually or one day you'll look back on this when your with someone else, or talk to one of your daughters who's upset about a boy and tell her your story of how some guy hurt you and she'll be okay!
Do everything you want now. You only have one life to make mistakes with and one life to learn form them!
Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2006): I think I'm in the same situation, I had a boyfriend for 6years. He treated me very badly. Cheated etc... I broke up with him two years ago and still say's that loosing me was one of his biggest regrets. Now my rescent boyfriend of a year and 6months has treated me bad. Its only been a few weeks but he will soon realise. They ALWAYS do at one point! Even if its not by you its catches up! Its better to go through life and get hurt at least once! I mean if you never got hurt you would never appreciate life when its good! you can go from this relationship and realise what you want from the next! He will just keep going around from one victim to the next. When you break up with someone you have strong desires for Justice if you have been hurt but I think the best advise anyone has ever give me is
'the best revenge is being happy'! If he see's you happy without him, you look stronger!!! Don't let this pathetic excuse for a human being take anymore form you. You can always get better! he can NEVER!!! xxxx
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reader, llqueen +, writes (9 January 2006):
I believe in Karma. I went through a terrible time like you. Only I didn't get out as fast. I even ended up marrying the jerk. We dated for 6 years and were married for 3. He was lying, cheating, etc. And, like you-I was perfect to him. But, he always seemed to be the one who ended up happy. Well, I can tell you now - he is NOT happy. He started begging me back when I got another boyfriend. (of course, I will not go back) But, it just goes to show you that things will work out right. There will always be bad things that happen, but they make you stronger as you go through them. Good luck to you. Don't let it get you down.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (9 January 2006):
I believe everything happesn for a reason...even when something bad happens, even deaths, despite how much pain they put you through there is always something good that comes out of it, and something that makes it a acceptable reason that it happened. So in relation to what has happened to you, I know you have been hurt by waht your bf did, but someting good will come out of it! And yuou will be ok. You sound like a great person, with a huggeeeeee heart, and thats great, don't ever stop being like that. You will meet a guy one day who appriacte it and doesn't take it for granted or use it.
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (9 January 2006):
 It depends on your religious persuasion. Karma may be real to some people, but not to others. Generally, I find that a few bad life experiences are only there to gear up for a good one.
You shouldn't be worrying about such things,. it seems this guy won't NEED cosmic universal energies after him, acting like that can ONLY lead to a bad end. Just try to find someone more worthy next time, and don't use this as a basis of trust. Guys hate that.
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (9 January 2006):
 Well, I think that people must learn from their mistakes sooner or later, and that sometimes learning from one's mistakes involves a great deal of suffering...
Until people learn from their mistakes, they keep making them over and over, in relationship after relationship. These are the people who never settle down, or who do settle down and end up in unhappy marriages, get divorced multiple times, etc. When you treat all of your partners like crap, it leads to a very lonely existence.
The girl he is with might seem happy now, in the early stages of the relationship, but once he gets comfortable with her and isn't so focused on making a good impression, he'll be back to lying, cheating, and blaming... same scenario, different girlfriend. He'll do it over and over until he finally, someday (hopefully soon), learns his lesson. In the meantime, he'll be the loser who can't keep a girlfriend, and you'll be the winner who will actively detect and avoid losers like him before they ever have a chance to hurt her.
You're better off without him, anyway, and at least you know that now, sooner rather than later. You'll have a better boyfriend next time, that I can assure you. You have some good Karma coming your way because you were a considerate, caring person in this relationship, unlike him!
There will be brighter times, don't worry.
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