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writes: Ok, I feel so stupid admitting this, but whenever I have sex with a guy, I can't go on top. It;s dumb, but I get really self conscious, and can never seem to get into it...he clearly doesn't enjoy it, and after a while my ineptitude just gets embarrassing, and I let him go on top. All my friends rave about how great sex on top is, and I'm the only who doesn't seem to be able to manage it! Help! Tips! Anything, please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): Sex between two friends or between married people is grossly misunderstood. Friends dating have a temporary relationship. The computer age has replaced current dating practices. It is realised and acknowledged that money plays the role of an anchor in couple's relationships. Men by bature are polugamous and chase women outside marriage. They are clumsy and crude in doing sex with spouses. Sex acts take place as the last thing after coming home from work. First TV and followed by meals. More TV watching. Before falling asleep sposes are called to undress and then cocks are unleashed to shoot cum in the pussis. No fore play and no kissing or touching boobs and licking pussy. On the other hand same men chase girls mostly in offices and flirt with them. Spouses not getting satisfaction from hubbys flirt with likeable men. This was now old stuff. Sex has become commonplace in families. Mothers teach their daughters to seduce brothers for a life-long relationship. They help out to to the less properous siblings. Women bring married sisters tohave sex with hubbys in ownpresence. All three enjoy the threesome act. Hubbys bring friends tohave sex with wife in own presence to see the act with own eyes. Even group sex delights men and women. There is no cheting or secret relationships. Sex has become safe and protective. There are clybs where wife swapping is practiced. Oldies seduce preteen neices and girls to satisfy sex. They no longer get right type of erections and dischrage cum in short time. Little girls like to suck cocks and get pussy licked in exchange for some cash money and gifts. School girls learn fro pictures in computers to become lesbians. Sex is for enjoyment and getting satisfaction. Womenafter age of 50 have menses stopped and no fear of pregnancies. They seek readily available sex partners, mostly in families. Men seduce brothers' spouses and women seduce uncles and husbands' brothers. You should read incest stories and see pictures to follow this trend. let us exchange emails. Mine is: [email address blocked]
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reader, llqueen +, writes (3 February 2006):
I can understand how you feel. I was with the same man for 9+ years. My first. Then after we broke up, I was very scared when I was with the second man. I was only used to my first. So, it took me almost a year before I was comfortable getting on top. I just explained this to him, so he just told me to do it when I was ready. Talk to your man. Chances are he will understand. Give it time. And, just enjoy the sex. Don't over think it. Good luck.
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reader, lori +, writes (3 February 2006):
hello you dont say why you feel self conscious and how do you know your boyfriend doent like it im sure he does but if you dont feel comfortable just explain it to him he will understand most girls like it in this way as you are more in control of your orgasam try to have longer forplay and let him get on top first when you are close to orgasam change position and get on top that way you dont have to be on top for long and when you get use to it you can be on top longer take it each day as it comes and things will become better dont feel forced into doing any thing you dont feel comfortable with love making is about two people enjoying being close but most of all relax and go with the flow hope this helps x
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (2 February 2006):
 Well I can confirm that you are not the only person who doesn't like being on top because I have had ex's exactly the same. First of all it is not 'dumb' it is just how you feel and there is nothing wrong with that. A loving, understanding man would respect that and not make you feel bad about it. He probably can't get into it because he can sense your discomfort.
I have to wonder exactly what is going through your mind when you are on-top ie, precisely what are you conscious of? Sex can be problomatic when it is 'overthought' and i wonder if that is what is happening here. Try not to focus on precisely what you are both doing but concentrate more on the feeling.
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