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writes: I've been in a relationship with my fiance for 3 years we recently moved I know no one here neither does he but, I just caught him lying and acting different I suspected him cheating I found numbers and I questioned him he finally came out and told me he was talking to a girl on my space and was going to meet her but couldnt because he didn't want to betray me in that way cause he said if he slept with her he could never take it back I saw the e-mails but there was no sighn of physical interactions but I have two kids one is his and I'm not sure if I can move on from this I trusted him to the point that I never questioned any thing he did now I do and I hate it can I get pasted this he is willing to do what it takes to make me trust him again but I'm not sure if I want to live like that!
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reader, mypro +, writes (30 December 2005):
Some credit is due because he did admit to it. But don't settle for little and by all means demand an end to it. Maybe something is missing in the relationship that he needs from you to keep the attraction going between to two of you. Make him talk about what he needs so that you 2 can keep it together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): Yeah to bad i didnt physically cheat and you should always figure out both sides of the story like why would he even be tempted ? hmmm could she have any fault in this? and wow at least the guy told you he was thinking about it. good thing he wasnt stupid and just didnt go out and do something he couldnt take back wow he must really love you hey maybe thats it maybe your not showing him you love him? I mean did he tell you he was unhappy ? yeah i think he did and what was your response tell the people go ahead or maybe your decisions should come from your heart and not a computer or your mother ! This is pathetic , dont say everything is fine and were gonna work on it and then
come on the computer asking advice.Now who has the hidden agenda. You know what even after you didnt give a shit and didnt change when i told you we had problems i still didnt cheat because i could because i love YOU i can be a father to my SONS did u mention that that im such a bad guy but have no problem raising a kid that isnt biologically mine wow assholes do that all the time huh . Like i was saying I love both my sons and can take care of them without being with you and see them without being with you but instead i chose to be a family a whole family cause i love you and thats why i didnt meet the skank.Make a decision from your heart not from your mothers mouth or a computer , but make one soon cause there is more than just my heart involved. I love you. By the way if you people spent the time on this computer reading and responding to this shit with your spouse or workiong on yourself or your relationship maybe u wouldnt have to be on sites like this , all you can change is yourself stop feeling sorry for yourselves.
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reader, llqueen +, writes (29 December 2005):
Every situation is different, but from experience, living with someone that has cheated on you doesn't get better. I took back my now ex-husband after he cheated. We lasted another 2 years, but I regretted it the whole time. He never earned his trust back. I spent everynight lying there wondering when it was going to happen again and picturing what had already happened. I am not telling you that it can't work. Just make sure you are ready to put forth a lot of effort if you try. I really wish you the best of luck. I know it hurts. Just realize you deserve to be happy and be with someone who only wants you.
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