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writes: I am engaged to be married and am due to get married in about 3 months. I care deeply for the girl I am going to marry and we have built a great life together and I miss her over the few days of christmas that we are apart. She is an attractive girl and we have a healthy sex life and I have always thought that I loved her. Over the christmas break I ran into an old flame. She is a few years younger than me and was looking terrific. She admitted to me that she had been obsessed with me when we were younger, something I never realised despite me having been very attracted to her. She intimated that she would like to be the one marrying me. This statement and the way it made me feel and the way she looked has made me start thinking about whether or not I should have pursued this more at the time and whether or not I will regret going ahead with the wedding and ignoring these feelings. Is this normal pre wedding nerves or is there a bigger problem. Will these feelings pass and am I being stupid to even consider them as anything else. I plan to ignore them and go ahead with the wedding? Is this the right thing to do or should I discuss it with my fiancee,
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): I agree. You're just having normal prewedding jitters. Everyone has them and they disappear. But darling, here's a tip. Dont mention you met you ex girlfriend or your doubts to your fiance. She already has enough things to stress about. My advice? Its 100% normal to fear the future, smile and relax and heck, if it doesnt work out you CAN divorce. For the moment focus on having a good time and loving your soon to be wife. Good luck :)
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reader, llqueen +, writes (27 December 2005):
You are having NORMAL pre-wedding jitters. Everyone gets scared that they are making a mistake. And, it sounds like you are just having lust for the old flame. You don't even know her anymore to know if you really would care about her. But, if it is something you are seriously considering you may need to take a look at your current relationship. You do not want to get married and then end up cheating on her. I really wish you the best of luck. Take care. (this coming from someone who is divorced.)
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