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writes:My girlfriend of over a year (who I am very close to) suggested that we have a threesome and I declined immediately. We have wonderful sexual experience together. The thought of another guy even touching and kissing her in the bedroom physically makes me sick in the stomach and angry at the same time. To me sexual activity should be between you and your partner. Unless it's your thing that you both consent to or something casual.At the same time I want to understand it. What is the appeal of threesomes for you women out there? Both MMF and FMF. I wouldn't mind hearing from guys either, through searching the internet it seems the absolute majority of guys like the idea of a threesome.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (18 March 2013):
I have never seen a threesome in a committed relationship result in anything good.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 March 2013):
 I've had FFM threesomes and MMF threesomes. I've also had FFF threesomes and been in more parties than I care to admit.
I think for many it's just the excitement of something forbidden.
For bicurious or bisexual girls a FFM threesome may be her way of experimenting while not excluding her boyfriend.
MMF is the same thing if it's something she suggests and it's a "targeted" guy.... it may be that she wants to experience someone else without cheating.
If both partners are ok with it then I see no problem with it, but if either partner says no, then it should be off the table unless the partner who said no brings it up at a later date.
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reader, LivingWithBadDecisions +, writes (18 March 2013):
 In theory there are lots of fantastic pros but even as a guy i can tell you its unlikely to end well coz of too many rotten variabbles(?).
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): I agree with you. Making love should be between you and your partner. You should talk to her about how you feel and ask her why she wants that. Sometimes people want things and don't think about the outcome it brings afterwards. Your right a lot of men would love a threesome. I wish more men felt like you. My fiance wanted someone to watch us. I told him it had to be someone we don't know to well and a male. Because I didn't want another woman seeing him. Well he quickly changed his tune. So maybe I called his bluff? Anyway I hope things work out! Best of luck with your girlfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013):
I feel it should be between two people,anything more than that is just low! you can't possibly love or have respect for your partner if you wish to sleep with another person too, and before anyone says its nothing to do with love its just sex, just think about that!! if it's just sex to you then your not ready for a serious relationship. I don't even understand how someone could have the audacity to ask there partner in the first place. This is were porn films have a lot to answer to, giving people false ideas about multiple partners. I would say a big NO and stick to it hun, I couldn't trust someone who asked me that either, I would always feel like they were highly sexed and getting it elsewhere too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): None for me, personally. Ex-partners (male) have suggested it but it's not something I am interested in.
I think it's just one of those things: either it's something you want to try or something you don't. There's really no compromising or middle ground. One of you will get what you want and the other will not, but in no way are you wrong to view it as cheating within a committed two-person relationship. So don't back down. Let your girlfriend show you what kind of person she really is by either dropping the issue or continuing to push for something with which you have expressed completely valid discomfort. Best wishes.
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